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Hi,
I am mother of a 7 year old son. From the past 2 years I had problems with my husband. He has drinking habits and used to beat me in front of my child. His mother, sister and brother had already left him as he used to fight with them a lot. Last year I also left him and went to my parent's place. My parents are very supportive and they took good care of my child when I go for work. After few months of separation he came to my house and apologized, although my parents didn't belive him I somehow came back to him for the sake of my child. But after few months he again started the same things, drinking and beating me without any reasons.
One night when my son saw all this he came to me and told me that he can't live with his father and wants to go back to my parents place. So i decided that its enough now and I left him.
I am staying with my parents now and haven't yet filed for legal separation. My husband called me up sometimes to talk to his son, but I didn't allow him. I am concern about my child and how he is going to handle all this.
1. Am I doing right in not allowing him to talk to his father. Actually he is also quite scared of him and always tells me that he is very happy at nani's place so that I don't think about going back.
2. If i go for legal seperation then who would get the custody of child. He doesn't have any job or family and mine is a stable job with family to support.
3. Will the court allow him the visiting rights, can I somehow convince the court that his meetings the child would adversely affect my son.
4. We had bought some property which is in his name abut I have paid the money for that. Can I get the property transferred to my son's name.
please advice.
thanks. innerself replied. hi.
i know exactly what yr goin thru.i was in a state of denial.but sometimes we just got to listen to ourselfs than others.
listen to yrself first.when u make a decision you would feel a calm in you then u know yr in the right direction.and by the way we all dont make right desicions in life but what is important is that we do our best of what we have.
good luck.