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Last month my sis in law came home with her hubby and stayed 5 days here. whenever she comes she is always on fast 1 aur 2 days.Meanwhile when she was fasting she asked me for lemon and i provided her with 2 lemon. she placed them on shiv

after they left, i had a terrible fight with my husband. and the issue was related to her(sis-in-law. All over my married life joint family members have been a trouble for me.

Is she had something magic sort of thing over us.kindly advice wht to do Chameli replied. Hi

No Inlaws can do anything that pleases a DIL.They always try to irritate her.They say they care so much about their son.If that' s true y do they create problems in his married life.Don' t they realize that their son too gets trouble when they bring trouble into our marriage lives.

Let them.What about DHs.Even they don' t have any sense.In my case before marriage and till now my Inlaws show more interest in daughter in almost everything.They never consider hubby' s feelings and blindly support whatever SIL does.

But after marriage they tell him(in mere words that they love him and care for him)And they complain abt me to him.Life long(even as a kid) he has been neglected it seems(for being unlucky).So now when they show little affection he runs behind them and he finds only way to please them is treat his wife in a bad manner and treat his sister at wth his best efforts.

When will this kind of bakras learn to live their life.I have even told him that there is only one life and v shudn' t waste most of it in arguments and abuse.Doesn' t seem to understand. dddd replied. Hi,
Simi what you told is perfectly true. We are stuck in this loveless marriage.But now i have a choice.My parents are more looking into the option of my separation. I will say in one way it will be a relief to all of us.My in laws are very greedy and always eyeing to take advantage of others. in this case me too.i shud say better sense prevailed and i didnt bring kids in this marriage.
But i feel every moment that a day should come when i see my in laws suffer for what they did. Till now its not happened and i am thinking they may not suffer at all.that suffering may not remove my pain fully but it will be a good feeling . May feel like there is God afterall.
Even apart from that i cant say my husband is great. He doesnt share his finances,always praises his family and especially his sister and was abusive physically and mentally till last year. Now it has gone down to mentally. But now its like i dont care .Its now a convenient arrangement thats it.Lets hope one day we get to live a happy married life with loving husbands. dddd replied. Hi,
Nowadays its not even sons benefit let alone DIL. Its always i want them to go through this so lets do it so that they do go thru it. Its really bad. But my in laws keep preaching about praying God doing this and that pujas.Now the latest is 2 yrs back when i went to India. They convinced my hubby i was the one doing it.So after coming back my hubby asked so i told him if it was the case i would have done it such that i didnt have to suffer physical and mental abuse from u .His family did it such that my husband abuses me and i come back to india to seek their help.instead after lots of interference from family still my husband continued i took legal action and everybody in my in laws including my husband were shocked.but that didnt deter them ,they told my husband come back your state of mind is bad.Shudnt they have told stop abusing her. No in this also look for their own wish coming true.
Are your in laws still continuing like mine?Mine they will never stop.
best of luck ,becoz thats what we need with this. Post back. dddd replied. Simi one thing is they do all such things and tell we are worried for u and we are your well wishers.Instead why cant they be straight and tell we dont want u to do this or live there u come back to us.
My husband is the youngest in his house and has lived for maybe 6-7 yrs in my in laws house. they dont have much attachment.my husband himself told me that. But now all of a sudden after marriage they are talking about attachment and missing son.So to fulfill this wish they are doing all this.
My husband is still young.isnt it time he made his career worked hard to acheive something. If only going back to live with them wud solve the problem maybe i wud have given it a thought for a second. But going back there will only harm my husband' s career growth. They will never let him be aggressive in his career.Keep telling what we have is enough. this job is more than enuf. and his sister and parents will ruin our marriage first and foremost.They did with my husband' s elder brother and that female is just in marriage becoz she has no other go. I dont want to be like that. His sister is an evil witch who can influence anybody to do anything in their family.She can hen peck her husband but i cant do it and her brother has to care for his family more than his own family.Anyway long story short if we go back either we will divorce or end up in a loony bin.
This is the only challenge i have in my marriage ' Mein bhi dekhthi hun unka hoga ya mera' .My wishes may not come true instantly but their wish is not coming true either. SO i have that satisfaction.
Best of luck and post back. m replied. have faith in God, pray for ur family' s safety to Him.
He is much powerful than the strongest black magic.
Let ur in-laws approach the tantrik, u approach the Creator with faith n prayer n God will protect u. dddd replied. Simi thanks for replying back. So i guess your husband does know your SIL doing it.Oh my husband knows too but it 5 yrs of marriage i have not seen him admit it once. So i and my parents go around everywhere for remedies. I shud say my family more as i live here.
The problem is they do it in very little time maybe even 1 hr i think but to remove its effect it takes atleast 2-3 months min.
Maybe i have lived 2-3 months happily after marriage.I just leave it after finding remedy and yelling at my husband.I have become a nervous wreck becoz of this.But in a way i dont let their wish come true also how much ever they try. Now the only problem is our permanent residence application is in a problem.They just think if they harm it we will come back.But me being stubborn my husband will not think of it as it will be destruction after going back there.So in a way their wish is not coming true.SO God id helping in some way.
Post back and take care. dddd replied. Simi,i am also victim of black magic my in laws are full time into it. Thanks to it i dont have any peace of mind and surrounded by problems. But the best part is i dont stay with them but in US. now the latest is they are trying to harm our permanent residence application and thanks to it we have lots of problems in that.In every mail they mention please come back. To fulfil that wish they are doing all this.Even tho i know a person who can remove all the effect of black magic but still it takes forever for us to do anything .I just have left it to GOD. There is only so much that can be done.
You need to find someone who can remove the effect. Once such people see success in their doing they go to higher and bigger levels.
Pray god and try to br vigilant when your SIL is there.
Post back and best of luck. dia replied. So do u believe in black magic etc..And U think,Its been experimented on u and ur hubby?!
Ok, If ur mind says she did it, Follow it...
When she come next time, Cook up some story that happened in ur childhood.
Say her that ...Ur mom believes in Durga and one priest has given her one greatest mantra to protect all her family from this black magic. And also say that, If some one just try to put NAZAR , even that ppl get \" Reverse Affect\" and they and their family members experience unknown and miserable kind of problems. Also cook up something like...Once Ur distant relative tried to do some black magic on u and he had many problems immediately and his children r worth for nothing now due to his sins.
Mention many stories which might seem her terrific. If she really try to do that sort of magics, u' ll be saved because before trying she' ll think twice of this \" reverse affect\" . Or if she has done it already to u, she might think of some small problems in her home and feel that might be due to reverse affect and she would scared of u. (TRICK is all women have problems right? she would Imagine some or other of her problem related to this Reverse affect) .

So ,All the best. Dont worry.