Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi archie and every one else.
i have been married for 8 months now and have recently decided to have a baby. I started trying in jan 2005. In Feb, around 5 days before my period, i started getting cramps, which is normal for me. They last until the day my period starts. But in Feb, i also got a lot of lower abdominal pain along with the cramps, which, at that time i thought was due to the heavy badminton i had played a day before the cramps. Along with the pain i also experienced headaches, backaches, a little bit nausea, weepiness, breast soreness, bloated abdomin and constipation. I just had a feeling that i might be pregnant as something like this has never happened before. But i got my period right on time. Again, in March same thing happened that 5 days before my period, i got cramps along with lower abdominal pain which used to trigger with bending and walking. But this time I did not have any other symptoms other than sore breats and bloated abdomin. Also, i was expecting my period on the 2nd of march but it did not happen until the 4th. On the 3rd, i also took a home pregnancy test which was negative.
I would like to know if getting pain along with cramps is normal or not. As i mentioned earlier, i have always gotten cramps, sometimes more, sometimes less atleast 5 days before my period which goes away on the day my period starts. But i have never gotten any pains before. I got married in July 2004 and we were using condoms until Nov(although we stopped using condoms in november, i actually did not seriously started trying until jan). I am 28 years old and have a regular cycle. Someone suggested me to take an ultrasound of Pelvis and menorrhagia to look for any cyst. Do i need to take those. My husband thinks its too early for those things and i should wait for another month. archie replied. Dear confused,
First of all confused is not a good pseudoname change it to some sensible if you don't want to use anywhere close to your name.

you playing badminton in luteal phase can be bad especially when you try. I would put that off right on or after ovulation. To estimate that let me know how many days are there in your cycle, will better understand choosing your day to plan intercourse.

Although your test on March 3rd was negative and you are still running late for period, it's worth retesting. Do take test on your first morning urine only.

Give about a complete year before you get on to worry about why you are not getting pregnant, it's normal to take some months for any healthy couple.
In this regard your husband is truely correct let it happen naturally and avoid stress that would work opposite for ttc process.
Archie SK replied. Hey,

well i think your husband is right....it is early for all tests and stuff.
It is beleived that it might take time for even the healthy couple to get pregnant ....atleast a year.
I would say keep trying...and do not think about YOU DID NOT GET PREGNANT...but think about WHAT YOU CAN DO THIS MONTH TO GET PREGNANT...
The signs you mentioned are not exclusive pregnancy symtoms..they appear during periods also.

Try to detect your ovulation and try that time....
since you have regular periods that should not be a problem.Beleive me that increases a chances a lot....
do not get upset and think too much on it..just enjoy thats all...
wish you the best...