Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

date:03-06-2005
name:parvinder
i need help is any body there who can help me. i get married in 1997 and after a year i get pregnant and i went to USA with my husband and after 12 weeks i had m/c before that i fell abdomen pain all the time and it was so pain full and its changed in to m/c and after my DNC i don't took any rest and after 2 days i start work in the factory and that work was so hard i have to pull and push the heavy stuff and so many time i try to told my husband but he did not pay any attention on my condition and since then i am try to conceive and i had IVF twice with negative result i paid almost $35000 from our own pocket.please some one help me what i can do i want my own child few days ago i read about POONAM WITH HER PH# AND THEY SAID THERE IS 150% CHANCES TO CONCEIVE ONLY ONE PHONE CALL NEED TO MAKE IS IT TRUE?PLEASE HELP. sunny replied. It will all work out
Sunny sonia replied. Dear parvinder

really soory to hear your story!
as archie said even i was wondering why did u go for IVF....has your doctor detected any such severe problem?
please let us know.
i know u r vulnerable and desperate right now but i request PLEASE DONT DONT fall prey to msgs like one phone call and 150 % chances.
nobody can give u thta gaurantee.its all rubbish
please understand that
go only right medical way
lots of luck
sonia archie replied. Dear Parvinder,
I am a little bit surprised to note all the story with your first pregnancy. If that was too painful had to end that way may be you have had molar or ectopic and better that ended in first trimester.
But the success of your conceiving and complete D&C should have got you easier to get pregnant in another 2 cycles. But seems your husband really did not care about you or future together. I beleive you working in factory with heavy duties may have caused some tube troubles or may have been affected ovaries to some extend.

I am however unaware on the part why did you opt for IVF? Did you see and Dr. and who did battery of test to nail down if there is any problem that may have been appeared after miscarriage and heavy duty. If there is somehting that can be fixed then s/he should have tried for that. Nonetheless IVF is not sure deal, it's as painful as natural conception process indeed. At least in natural process you can try in next cycle without paying anyone but failure of IVF in a row can be too expensive. I hope your husband is accompanying you and know the cost you both are paying today for being unattentive or ignorant when needed.

I would recommend to keep out of stress especially when you want to try by IVF which is way expensive. Keep in cool thoughts and hopefully it will work.

Give the details on cause you choose to undergo IVF!

Archie