Hi,
its good to hear that you all are doing fine. I'am in my 17th week-it really feels great when you hear your unborn's heartbeat!!! I went for my checkup on 22nd August .I was very excited and had lotzaa question to ask ..but somehow (i donno howcome) on the morning of 22 Aug..i was very upset, felt very lonely and depressed though i managed to visit my O/B but felt like crying and i did.Later on i was filled with guilt and remorse. At times i get upset on small silly things, have become very touchy....that day i presume what made me upset was...my Mother-in-law saying she wants a grandson only and wont be happy if i have a daughter....this thing really shattered me .i'am at US wanted her to be here at the time of delivery but now i really dont feel very comfortable while talking to her but i dont want my loving husband to be disturbed...... suggest me what shall i do as she , directly or indirectly stresses on the same thing.I'am really perturbed at the thought that if i get a daughter then i wont be able to enjoy the long cherished moment in my mother-in-law's presence as i 'am pretty sure that she will cry!!!!I don't know what to do and how to keep everyone happy .I just dont feel like talking to anybody about my fear but yeah its trapped in me and so i cant enjoy this phase at full. Plz help me with your suggestions .

Take care,
Sona. fairysen replied. hi sona, if i was in ur place i would have told my husband to explain to his mother.
dont bother too much on this. tell ur hubby to tell your MIL that she is also a 'female' by gender!!!
fairysen shilpi replied. Its common to have mood swings in pregnancy, so don't worry abt it at all.
As for ur MIL's demand of having a baby boy, I agree with Sonu's advice that you could find out the sex of the child and then prepare ur MIL for whatever happens. And also, why are you keen on calling ur MIL for the delivery and not ur mother. Most of the people I know of prefer having their mother while delivering. I called my mother to US when I delivered my first child, and my MIL visited me abt a month after that, and I thot that worked out perfectly. I guess if you speak with your husband abt this, he will understand why u need to have ur mother instead. And if you have a baby girl, ur MIL might decide not to come after all, if she is really keen on having a grandson.
Its really sad that in India people still prefer having a boy to a girl. My MIL didn't say anything directly but I knew she wanted me to have a boy with my first child. But I didn't care, and just wanted to have a healthy baby.
Shilpi fairysen replied. hi dear. mood swing is common in pregnancy. yesterday even i had the same. its natural. dont bother about your MILs demands. just take it lightly. tell her u want a healthy baby and not bothered about gender. u have to be blunt at times. even i am sensitive like u but at times u have to tackle the situation cleverly. next time when u speak to her just make it clear that ' most important is healthy baby n nothing else'. bye. take care.fairysen

ammy replied.
Hi Sona,
I agree on what Sonu has said. Mood swing is very common through out pregnancy and even after delivery. So cheerup and enjoy it.. I suggest you to take this lightly and just remove your frustation on someone who is dear to you and who can really understand your sutiution and support you.
It is your child and her grand-child... its not going to call your MIL as Mummy and you as Dadi... Speak to your hubby and ask him to explain her.. If even he fails.. then if she raises this topic again tell her that you would prefer to have a girl than boy... I know your MIL might not digest this... but you have to be strong enough to protect yourself and your child.
Even my MIL sometime says that she want to have a Grand-son.. but she is fully aware that it is not in our hand... but still everytime I speak to her she says the same(she sometime enjoy to pull my legs)... I take it lightly. So just check out whether you MIL is pulling your legs or her remarks are serious. If atall she is serious.. then don't go to check the gender during the US scan... Why I suggest this because.. I know how some India MIL's are.. they will go to any extream to have a baby boy... I hope you are getting what I am telling.
I am sorry if I am rough in speaking...but could not help myslef... Take care about yourself and enjoy this gift which you have got in life.

Best of Luck.... Take care....

luv
Ammy(Dec 2005board)
Sonu replied. Hi!
It is very sad to hear abt you. cheer up!!! I have a friend who is due Sep, she had a lot of mood swings....but she never had a reason for it. Hers was mainly becoz of hormonal changes. But in your case you have such a specific reason. You gotto over come it. I know it's easy said than done! But you need to do it. First and foremost, think for whom are you doing all this? Why did you think of having this baby? You are having this little one becoz you wanted it. You are not having a baby for your MIL. I can understand the pressure you are going through, but try so that this does not effect you. As long as you are happy with the baby either being a boy or girl then just don't be bothered wht others have to say. The baby is going to be YOUR daughter or son not someone else.

Just the other day we had a get together at a friend's place and the way people pamper you is amazing.....all becoz you are pregnanct and carry your baby! Seriously felt so nice. Trust me when I say this.. I think in a girl's life there are two occassions when she is treated like a princess....one is the time between engagement and wedding and the second one is when you are carrying!!!!!!!! You will not get this moment back. It is very precious, don't let others ruin it for you.

Why don't you find out the sex of the baby so that way you can prepare your MIL even before she comes here and the birth of your little one. I am sure she will also come to terms if you tell her 4-5 months before your due date if you let me know that youw ould be having a baby boy or girl.

Sorry to bug you with a long lecture...I really hope it helps.