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I' m married for 1 and half yr now..putting up with MIL,FIL, elder BIL his wife 2 kido sons. My mil n fil are not who would decide smthing on their own and ask the sons to follow rather the elder one has all the say in the family n his wife knows how to twist the situation in their favour n r smart enough to agree t MIL aswell and FIL follows..my hubby is very attached to his entire family n wants to keep everyone together hence does everything or anything to keep everybody happy even at the cost of listening to his dad' s rebuke to calm him down as no one else(especially the elder BIL) does not listen to him..following the parents footsteps even the 7 yr kid of elder BIL speaks very badly to MIL, FIL n my hubby..still MY elder SIL manages to take MIL n FIL in her garb..she is very sweet in front of in laws n behind their back is always complaining about them to me n even has plans to move out next yr so that she her hubby n her kids can live peacefully without any interferance n has told me this with instructions of not telling this to even my MIL n FIL...she is very helpful n sweet in front of MIL, FIL n talks caringly of their daughter who just got married and even my hubby' s sis is very open n frank with her and never prefers to talk to me even when i try my best to make her feel comfortable and get friendly with her.I was wrkg all the while and just quit 2 mnths back but even at home never come to know what all is being discussed amongst the mil, sil n fil...the elder bil is very social amongst all relatives and wherever there is smthing of instant recognition he wud b there and incase any monetary help is reqd wud always ask my hubby to pool in without showing or disclosing his contribution to the world..whereas my hubby is sort of introvert always ready to help but never disclose..Sharing has never been a problem but today i feel it is the elder BIL n SIl who have become so loved ones in everyone' s eyes n sort after that my hubby n me appear no where on the scene inspite of the fact that a major monetary n emotional help to anyone is routed thru the elder BIL by us only...the elder one has his own house..very well settled in career with settling kids whereas we have just begun our lives i' m on the family way but my husband inspite of being extremely intelligent n hard wrkg is not ready to explore better opportunities just bcoz he does not want to stay away from his family..What do I do i' m really lost between the smart elder BIL his wife ...my no say MIL n FIL..my un friendly hubby' s sister and my family loving husband. I' v always admired my husband for the love n support he gives to his family and always tried to support him in all possible ways but then am i expecting a lot too much by expecting the family to ask our say...regard us ..give us our due recognition.Pls advice. r replied. Asmi i think you should not involve in this matter b' coz what will happen is if you speak anything they will all think that you are creating distance among brothers ,everyone one will see you in a neagative role tell you hubby to keep good saving for your future and your kids education or invest some good amt in property or so and if he cant save you you start saving amt be independent Your BIL and his wife are very smart if they move out of the house you have to take care of your MIL and FIL .

Be smart and save money .