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Hello I am depressed as well. I find that my whole day I am spending in taking care of the house and children but cannot seem to do anything for myself. Always it is about money with our family. Any thing I want to do involves money and we don't have much for spending on recreational purposes. I am bored out of my wits. I find I have not exciting reason to wake up in the morning. There is never a surprise in my life. Even simple things like having surprise presents for birthdays/anniversaries are too much to expect as I am not as important as money. If I start speaking about all this I am being too needy, too materialistic and toooooo bad. Ah to hell with this, I don't even wish this life on my worst enemy. Just needed to vent off. The message needs an icon for sure so I am going to say sad but \";sad\"; is just lightly put for whatever I am feeling right now. innerself replied. hey girl
hope yr gud.me a single mom .i feel the same too.i get SO FUSTRATED .I HAVE NO FRIENDS.NOTHING TO DO.AT HOME ALL THE TIME COS I CANT TAKE UP A FULL TIME JOB BCOS OF MY GRLS.FEEL LIKE A FURNITURE.i want ot do so much .travel live life on th edge.rough it out.meet people.expand my mind.feels like my life is passing by n i cant do a thing..u know now that ur not alone. Me 2 replied. Hi sonu and other person,
Thanks for your kind words. Like one of you have said it is hard to change a person. So I am going to change myself. Yes, I am going to work PT. It will not be a big thing as I will be spending 85% of the money in childcare for my kids. Atleast I will not be stuck at home.

your words meant a lot to me. Thanks sonu replied. hi,

i can understand ur state as i was facin the same before few months.mine problem was my delivery last year ( caserion 1) and coming back to singapore with no1 helping me in daily chores.so i got depressed.it took few months to come out of that.

anyways dear y dont u try grooming urself it will really feel well to u .like start some exercise, some massages ,try new things in ur hairs n face,try new things with ur husband in bed.these things really helps dear.

if u look good u feel good.
take care
sonu hi replied. hello,

u got to spend time on urself dear,, atleast when ur kids are asleep, or at night.. and go out everyday either window shopping, or park... if u would wish u can even start working,,, then u can have ur own money and be independent and spend it the way u want it.... if ur hubby doesnt want u to work as him that u need pocket money every month.....

there is no point in saving too much money when u cannot enjoy ur present life,, i dont mean to say u should not save money... for everything there should be a limit........ tell ur hubby
whats the point in saving money when u cant enjoy it... of course its not easy to change a person ........

i feel the best thing u can do is start working