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Hello Friends,
I first want to thank all of you who sent in responses to my topic concerning my FIL...Thank you very much.


Well, the update is...
I have sat down and talked to my MIL. I was so scared at first, but, I knew in my heart that if I didn't tell her, my relationship with her would for sure be different when this all came out.

I told her what took place over the weeks and I explained to her that I didn't know how to approach her since it's a touchy subject. She took it well. Then, she told me that she isn't too surprised at his behavior since she has seen the way he has acted way back in their marriage. She said he's literally a fool. I didn't agree, I just listened. However, I did agree in my mind.

After we talked, she said from now on, she will stay back with me at home like she should have in the first place.

I told my husband that I did not feel comfortable with his Dad being at home with me during the day and he should insist that he accompany him at the shop. At first, he didn't pay much attention, but then, I told him his Dad wasn't behaving improperly to me. I gave the details.

He grinned and thought I was kidding, but, I kept a straight face; I truly felt like crying. He told me that he'd talk to his Dad, but first, he was going to insist he go to work with him instead of his Mom.

The very next day, he told his Dad to come to work with him; his Dad tried to refuse to go...then, my BILs asked him why he doesn't go to work and let the women keep the house. After being put on the spot, he got dressed...went to work and stayed there until late evening like everyone else.

We are looking into moving to a house that may be ready in October. I don't know if we'll move then, but, I really, really want to. Even though this situation is okay for the time being, I cannot expect everything to be \";happily ever after\";.

I think my FIL knows he's being watched. He's been pouting around the house. I think he'd better consider himself lucky since I have not called the Police on him -yet-.

I will update you all as thing go on.

Thanks again!!!!

V Jasmine replied. Hi V -

I am so glad that you spoke to your MIL and husband about this. It could not have been easy but that is your house as well and your FIL was wrong.

Your MIL sounds like a great woman and I am glad that she is on your side. I hope this talk will generate a very close relationship for both of you. I am also very happy for you that your husband understand.

You are strong woman and a very smart one. You have, it seems, a very good family. I wish you all the best and lots of love.

Keep well. prabha replied. Hi V,

It's very very good to know that you are in a better situation now.May God bless you and Give you a wonderful life,in which you need not worry every moment.

Keep in touch,
Prabha Worried replied. V, I am glad things worked out for you liek they did and Kudos to your Mom in law for having handled the whole affair so well. She is indeed a very nice lady! Even more than a mom to you! Cherish her forever and keep her happy...........you are indeed a very lucky soul.

Yes things cannot go on ike this forever and so take up the project of moving out on a priority and All the Best! abx replied. Hi v,
REally glad that u have taken the necessary steps, and things are getting better in ur case. Keep up the good job and keep us posted about the further improvements. bye