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Dear Archie and all,

I am doing okay.I hope all of you guys are doing fine.Well i got all my blood reports and got baby's blood result also.By god's grace everything is fine with me and was fine with baby too.Doctor couldn't tell exactly what happened with this pregnancy.She said it could have happened bcoz of an infection....She said it will not happen in next pregnancy and asked us to try in another 2 -3 months.Well we both are really not ready for another pregnancy now.....I am hurt both physically and mentally.My husband is more worried abt me still he cries sometime.We need sometime for ourself now.Pridu sent me your message...I am ok yaar.I don't want to try for another pregnancy now.Atleast want to give 1 yr gap.

Archie.....I am listing down what are all test i have done so far.

1.APLA Syndrome Panel(Anti-Phospholipid ABS)

2.TORCH Panel

3.BT,CT platelet count +Hemoglobin level

4.Triple test


The above tests are done with my blood.


They took baby's blood for cordocentesis.It includes karyotyping,C.M.V(virus),and toxoplasma.By god's grace everything came out to be normal.I have all that reports with me.We have plans to meet doctor over there in US too for consultation.I hope doctor here has done all possiblity test on me and baby.Good thing is baby was alive when they took blood.I have got severe contraction on 16 th night automatically and had pain on 17 th and delivered on 18 th.I saw my baby.First i thought i shdn't see it.But cldn't control myself...That too baby girl ...We both love baby girl.Anyway what ever happened it happened.There is no point in worrying abt it or crying.Now i am doing fine only.Sometimes very rarely i cry....Probably god is not ready to bless us now.

We might come back to US on 28 th of this month.Pridu said she kept a message already ...but i cldn't find any... Archie do u suggest any other test?Let me know.


Suba Priya replied. Dear Suba
How are you sweetheart??? Hope you are well and recovering from your loss. I hope that you and your husband will be able to confide in each other through this difficult time. Men are emotional but you cannot see it at times as they hold themselves back.
You are a strong girl, I can already see that you will be an icon for all those girls who have been through something as sad as you have.
You baby girl was an angel and had come to see you ans it had owed you something from it's past life.
Suba mishaps happen which we have no control over, it is not your fault and please donot hold yourself responsible if you are.
We were all concerned about you, i also asked Pridu for your email add.
Suba i know Archie has told you to try again as this will help you forget this episode and help you get on with your future, but i feel if you need some time please use as i feel it is good to feel better about yourself before you try again.
I know that you will be a good mother you are a sweet and kind person. Your future baby will be very lucky to have parents like the both of you.
Priyaxx Archie replied. Dear Suba,
I took a long to get over your grief. I totally understand you being mother how hard it could have been on you.

Pridu wrote to me on Expectant parents boards. On the primary board go under \";routine tests\"; and you will see pridu's message to me and our conversation. If you can't find I can paste it here again.

Yes, I feel your Indian Dr. should have done stainings on placenta. Also blood culture to investigate any possible bacterial infections.

It's your decision on when to ttc. Looking at whole episode I personally consider not to wait too long. After such loss your body is pretty much ready for another pregnancy. Also new pregnancy brings new hope and helps putting behind previous loss.

Good to assure that pregnancy was healthy although it ended up in loss. It would hard on both of you to let forget your unborn girl. However, you will have to console each other. It may not be very hard in India as you have family aquaintance but when you go to USA it can get hard.

Wait to hear your OBs comment in USA and weigh all comments made by your Indian OB, USA OB, along with mine and make a healthy decision that will help you both make feel comfortable.

Suba I could not hold myself for almost one week when I heard about amniotic levels below 3 and fetal hypoxia. You know I can't just suggest people and forget about them. After your loss I told myself I am better off without OB/GYN profession at least I won't meet many Suba! I mean girls who are great at heart but have to meet such unpleasant mishap.

Take care
Archie