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hi,
i've been married for 6 years, hv a 21 month old baby. am in the US right now. ever since our baby was born, i hv been feeling pretty depressed and angry cause i dont get any time for myself anymore (i dont know if i've post partum depression). initially it was ok, but now that he's running around and all, he wants my attention all the time, i find myself so angry on him that almost everyday i scream at him and sometimes hit him. i feel so bad cause he's small and does what he has to do. but i cant help it. i am having a lot of temper these days. my husband helps me a lot once he comes back from his work, but till then its a total mess for me. i dont get time to browse the net or watch movies or anything. all the time goes in looking after him and cooking and all. sometimes i feel i am sick of this life. do u hv some advise for me. i love my baby so much i cant explain but still when he throws a tantrum or something like that, i hit him and scream at him like mad. sometimes i feel i shd die. i dont know whats happening to me. will doing yoga or meditation help me. i want to be fair to my baby and dont want to be a bad mother. pls help me. how can i reduce this temper and enjoy motherhood. is all this normal.. rekha replied. try to get some me time to recharge your battries. Living in the US one doesn't realise..u r constantly taking care of your child...and after some time u start loosing u'r identity...and that feeling of frustration spills over in your daily life.
When he is throwing a tantrum..just walk away for a bit. Screaming or hiting a 21 month doesn't make him undersatnd that he is doing something wrong. When he is not bahving either distract him or sit him down make him look at u and talk to him. They respond better to that.

Try to get out a bit. Hire babysitter and go out as a couple or go out with your girlfriends for a ladies nite ( anything u gals like to do...as long as the main rule is no kids!!!)

Were u working befroe having your baby? Maybe that frustration might be playing into all this too. Talk to u'r hubby and see if u want to go back to work. I like rose's suggestion of day care for couple of hrs a week..whatever works for u.

We all tend to loose it sometime or the other.I'm not saying it a good thing...but work on it. I'm sure u r a great mother. Take care and all the best. rose replied. I think Yoga and meditation helps in your case. You can send your son to the day care for 2 to 4 hours everyday, so that you can get some free time for you.
Or you can ask your parents or in-laws to stay with you for some time to spend time with your son.