Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Dear Archie
I am sorry that i am writing ion this board but i really didnt want to scare the girls on the july board.
Yesterday i was talking to my mother in law about how to feed baby etc etc. And she constantly kept telling me babies are a big responsibility which i already know. But at night i was geting a little scared of whether i would be a good mother and if i would be alble to look after the little one well enough to know what to do when it comes to feeding etc etc. I dont know whether it is hormones right know but i do feel vunerable quickly these days. I love kids and i have worked in daycare before as a part time job while at school but i dont know.
Priya For priya replied. Hi priya,
Although this message is for Archie,i thought of writing a few lines. Priya,i think you worry a lot about everything. Just enjoy your pregnancy rather than thinking too much into your future. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Nobody knows what's in store for them in future. Don't tax your brain with unnescesary worries. When the time comes,it does work out some way or the other.
You are such a loving,caring and affectionate person. You have a genuine concern for everyone.Then why do think that you won't be a wonderful MOM. Infact your child will be LUCKY to have you for a MOM.

lastly,please don't post such questions here. This place is for people who are still not pregnant,but are trying or want to concieve. while some may not mind reading about how someones pregnancy is coming along,but there are also others who become sad thinking that they are not in the same boat as you. please do take good care of yourself. archiek replied. Dear Priya,
Someone told me what I wrote in subject line and I really find that impressive and passing the same statement to you.

It's very natural to have doubts on parenthood for both mother-to-be and father-to-be. This will be there for first baby and even while second baby. At first baby, it's natural to worry on many things, especially for mother-to-be. This is nothing but anxiety and I guess usally this question pops up in mind towards the end of third trimester as the EDD approaches. In your case you are getting this much ahead of time. Besides saying \";make your own experience\"; I would suggest not to worry as the fact is baby is coming and you will face no matter what (one of the methods to treat phobia patients is make patient to go through his/her phobia by having his/her counselling on other side).

Lets come to fact, you are reading a lot about pregnancy and already know much on what/how and when to expect. I am sure you will also spend time to gather information on how to take care of baby. NO doubot you will make a wonderful mother and your child is going to be very proud to have born through your womb and nurtured by you!!!!!
There are numerous books available. I took help of 'what to expect in first year or 12 months'. This book is just seating home although I have not read a lot, this is my savor to run if I am getting concerned about something. Mostly, I follow what I did with my friends/siblings children and speak to siblings and friends along with mother and MIL. The help I get from them is amazing, can't get in any book, of course if something I would feel concerning I would run to Pediatrician.

You being vulnerable is very much hormonal. Do not worry this will end soon in a few weeks after delivery.

Take care
Archie