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Hello,

I do hope someone can help me. My fiance's family are opposed to our relationship for a lot of reasons. The main being that I am a white girl, with that said we've decided to marry early next year and my fiance has asked me to wear a saree. I have agreed but I am scared because I do not know how to wear one. I came across a site that sells automatic sarees that are stiched with pleats in it so that all you do is wrap and drape over your shoulder. I really want to wear one the right way. I don't want his family to think I am stupid or uncaring enough to learn. I don't know any female indians and I'd prefer my fiance didn't see the saree before the wedding. I want to surprise him and his family by wearing the saree correctly and proudly. Can anyone here offer some help to me? How do I drape a saree properly? Should a bridal saree be worn differently? So many questions and I have no answers. please help me Poornima replied. Hi,

Its good to know somebody abroad wants to learn how to wear sarees whereas in india the culture is getting vanished with the so called western apparels coming to india.

Anyway please mail me at poornima at enventureonline dot com if your problem is not yet resolved. Due to ill health i could not browse this site for about a month's time.

Today i saw your message and thought i can send a reply.

Regards,
Poornima. abc replied. hi newbie to saree,

i am an indian but i am still unable to wear the saree properly, i need my husbands help when i do wear it. i dont wear it too often, though, just twice or thrice a year on some ocassion. so just to assure u, in case u r not able to learn to wear the saree, its ok.

its sweet that u want to surprise ur fiance and hubby by wearing a saree urself on ur wedding day, but i think its gonna be difficult, not impossible though. reading ur posts here that u dont hv any indian female friends nor any indian parlour nearby, it would be a good idea to wear the readily stitched and pleated saree. one of my friend has them and no one can make out the difference whether its the actual saree or the stitched one. so u can go for it.

another thing u can do is ask ur fiance's mom or sis for help to wear the saree. this might help u to get close to them and they might like the idea that u asked them for help. and then after ur wedding, u can learn to wear the saree from them. just a suggestion.

hope it helps. bye. good luck on ur wedding. amit replied. dress whatever way you want, he wont mind, as long as he gets it undraped for you :) rada replied. you can go to any indian beauty parlour. Sneha replied. Hi,
Do you from which part of the India he is? Sarres in different part of the India is wear differently.

Thanks,
zee replied. do u hav any indian girlfriends? u can take thier help in beginning.i hav an american friend whom i helped several times to wear saree.now she is prety comfortable to wear by herself.