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Dear All,

Today went and consulted another doctor in Bangalore.Today amniotic fluid level has become 0.It was 3 before.And blood is not going thro' umblical now.It is just reversing back.It is very difficult to save my baby now.They said if it is 28 weeks they would have considered it.Now that's it.Everything is over.I lost my 2 nd pregnancy too.Tomorrow they are taking blood from baby's heart and brain to do some research on why this has happened.They will prick me thro' abdomen and take blood from there.Bit scared.My husband is coming down here on Thursday.Then we will make decision abt whether to deliver the baby here or in US.What i don't understand is when i done AFP test in US result came out to be normal.I was 17 weeks pregnant at that time.I don't know how it came normal at that time.Sometime i feel like i have done a big mistake by travelling to India this time.
Anyway what ever has to happen it is happening.Will come to know the reason on Saturday.just little bit frustrated with god.Then i feel like what he can do with this nah?Just waiting for my husband to come.I am the unluckiest girl in the world.

Please don't cry after reading my message girls.Pridu please don't cry da.That's y i didn't message u personally also.I might or might not stay in India.Don't know what will happen.She said baby may die in 3 days.I am little bit worried abt my health now.

Please do take care of yourself girls.Have a safe and healthy pregnancy and enjoy.I might not come back to this website again for another 3 yrs.Good luck to everyone.

Suba Piya replied. Dear Suba,
I don't know what to say. I am sorry. I am feeling very sad after reading your message. Don't blame yourself. Take care of yourself. Keep praying to god. God will give you and your husband strength to deal with the situation.
Piya sonia replied. Dearest Suba,

Last two days i was feeling so concerned abt u. Please the god give u both strenght to tide thru this. Sometimes dont understand whats in his mind.Im really feelinf upset reading ur msg. I dont have words to say...i really dont know what to say to u. You take care. Dont blame urself for whatever .and please be our friend. do visit the board .
God bless.
warm hug.
Our association although very short your msg r having a sad effect on me. I had really hopes and prayed for the best for u last cople of days.
sonia Smile replied. Dear Suba,
I am feeling very upset for whatever you are going through. I pray God to give you and your husband the srength, to overcome this difficult situation. Please keep visiting this board. whenever u feel like talking to someone, we are here to listen. Please keep writing to us. Take care.

Hugs
Smile pridu replied. Dear Suba,

Please do not blame u or india trip for what has happenned! im very upset...i never expected this to happen.everything was goin so smooth! now u hv to take care of ur health, which is also very important suba. do take indian docs advices..i know its goin to be very hard for u and ur husband, but please try not to breakdown, i know that u r a very strong girl. i pray to god to give u all strenght u need to cope up with the situation. im waiting to talk to u. never blame urself. do not lose hope in god. keep praying. :-( u wont visit this site for 3 yrs? y suba? dont do this...i know that everything is easier when said...do take care of urself, try to be in india till u get some strenght, both physical n mental..as u r with ur parents now. take care...

-Pridu. archie replied. Dear Suba,
It's saddening to hear whole epic how it went with positive progress and all of sudden all negative. I feel at loss while writing this message. Please be strong and take in right spirit, I know easier said than done.

No, I don't think you should blame on India trip. Your Dr. would not have advised you to travel if she knew pregnancy had some complications.

Although in USA they would not typically investigate more unless one loose three pregnancies in a row. Here in your case your Dr. might want to make some special discount on the rule and go ahead investigating on your hormones and immunological stuff in order to know what's making pregnancy terminate before it's fully developed.

Let your Indian Dr. do investigations, she may do much more investigation without going through rules as they can't in USA due to legislation reasons. The results might help your both OB/GYN to understand cause of loss. If your Indian Dr. wants you to stay a little longer to overcome with loss and go to the root of cause allow yourself to stay as per requirements.
If your Dr. wants to know cause why Fetal Hypoxia arose all of sudden given all reports were normal before that then it would be of great help for future.

I am so sorry and pray to God that he offers you both strength to cope up with situation.

Sympathetically
Archie Priya replied. Dear Suba
I feel very upset after hearing this from you, but please saty positive till the end. You are strong and tyour strength will see you through. You did not make a mistake in travelling to india, alot of women go back to india for awhile and come back safely.
Suba you are a really nice girl, god will not do wrong by you. I know this is hard to say and deal with but think of this as a test to see you strength and will power through this tough time. Please do keep visiting this site we feel that we have developed a bond with you and that is hard to forget.
Priyaxx