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i have read many post here and found out that many girls have problem thru their MIL but my problem is my FIL ,my MIL expired 2year ago.FIL was incharge of the house and even now he wnts to continue but i feel his days are gone he should understand that .my hubbby is the sole earner of the house as soon as he gets the salary FIL withdraws,he pays the bills etc..though my hubby had limited the money on his account but i still feel whatever he get is more for him after paying those bills.he spend money like any thing.my hubby know about this but he is such kind of person like let him have those money and he himself will do less shopping ,i mean will spend very less for himself whereas will satisfy all my need.he doesnt satisfy his need but will satisfy others need ifeel very sorry for him but he is happy with that.FILand his mother are creating abig problem for me.their dont like what i cook etc..their two are like one side and iam other .my hubby supports me but he cannotbe at home all the time.i feel very upset and bored in this house this is my FIL's house. i want my own house my own family but my hubby will not move out from here .he is like papa's boy .though he supports me and always take my side but in heart he likes his dad very much.no matter what injustice he has done to him.


was just sharing my problems. does any one in the same type of situation and what you feel and what are u thinking to do about it? saheli replied. di bh is right.

e more thing that seemed aarent from your post. If you are looking for perfect solution that you want, which is i think living sparate from FIL, then i dont think that is possible .. and sorry to say ... should not be too.

You can only look for treatment/remedies but wont b able to remove the 'problem' itself.

A thousand times before, your hubby has asked his dad to get something for him. Irrespective of FIL cd afford or not, he must hv sacrificed own wishes t fulfill his.
Ur hubby is just appreciating it and saying thanks in a way.

But u too hv ur right to live. Join a job, or take small amount money from hubby for urself every month, do what u want with it and forget whats happening to rest money.

good luck di bh replied. Hey,I understand your pain.Even i face the same from my FIL/SIL combo. I do have my MIL. But she is fine. I can talk to her.I dont live with in laws. My FIL/SIL try to run my life from far away. but i snubbed them and it took a lot out of me.
Hey why dont u look for a job for yourself.In that way u will be occupied the whole day and face less of FIL.And in turn your husband will respect u more.In that way u can have some savings and invest in home or whatever u wish.If your FIL tries to influence u to give your salary ,tell him u will give some not the whole. better lay down the rules first. So he doesnt do the same as he does to your husband.Even my FIL told me you married my son for 4 yrs and wasting his money not doing a job nor studying. So i told him your son has money becoz of me.If not for me he wudnt have any money for me to waste. he was shocked as it was first time i said that but i did it. Dont let anybody undermine u . if we let them they will do all the time and we will develop low self esteem. not worth it.especially for bad in laws.Try it. best of luck. post back.