Hi all,

I have been fairly silent these days mainly because of the flu that I succumbed to...u moms can guess the tension that I had with Santhosh exclusively BF...he does not even take the bottle...so when I had high fever I had to try out the hypoallergenic formula sample that I got from the ped...imagine that's the first time he was trying out formula...and as uguessed he wailed his head out...I was so scared to carry him because of the fever, but then had no choice, and then with him not bottle feeding I had no option but to BF him accepting the fact that he too might fall sick....thankfully he didn't catch the fever...I was so lazy and stupid enough not to store enough of expressed milk either...just had about 6 oz...and to everybody's surprise, after crying his head out, when I took him and sofly told him how I love him but can't feed him due to fever, he silently accepted the bottle...well for just a day...then he knew that fever or no, his mom would BF him, and now he again refuses the bottle...I am almost back to shape now...tired and lethargic at times, but I am happy that he didn't catch the flu...

other than this, Santhosh is growing fine, got his 2 months shots without too much fuss, weighed 11 lbs and was 24 inches, he loves to lick his hand like some tasty lollipop, and smacks on it so loud...like Rishu Santhosh also has learnt to push the breasts and then cries because he doesn't find his milk supply.he gives cute smiles...thank God for those...it keeps me going. He DOES not sleep in his crib, only on the bed near us...or sometimes in his swing...please please give me some tips to get him to sleep by himself...even if we put him on the crib after he falls asleep, he wakes up with wide eyes in an instant and then we have to carry and rock him...don't know how to change this habit, my hubby is against seeing him cry, whereas I feel it's not good to pick him up as soon as he cries...rarely I try tummy time, hubby is scared about this too, but I think it is good. I sometimes feel insecure if I will ever be a good mom in the eyes of others including my hubby and inlaws, who stay with s permanently...
Poor Santosh got a nick in his head...don't know how...but how it has all healed.

Reena...thanks for the diet regimen, I too am on the no milk protein diet, tried soy milk, but he got some rashes...the whole grain bread that I buy didn't seem to have milk ingredients...hope I am reading the label right. It was nice to read your long update :)
Sush...hope ur little photogenic Tia is getting better with the bottle...I haven't yet started the battle with Santhosh...I keep putting it off scared about his screams and wails, which his dad can bear to hear and I am in a fix...board books and the ballons were good ideas...hope I find some good board book in the library
Vani...enjoyed viewing Rishi's pics...yes he looks like you :) I am J of that because here Santhosh hardly resembles me...I just wait to hear someone even by mistake say that he faintly resembles me...but no...he is his daddy's boy.
Komal...Congrats to little Megha on completing 3 months...saw her pics and she is adorable.I tell my hubby how the girls in the group are better behaved and give less trouble when compared to the boys! Santhosh has another 4 more days to complete his 3 months
Raj...Sid seems to be growing into a smart, active and naughty kid! keeping mom on her toes I guess, I just can't imagine how u manged the move with Sid. We moved when I was in the 2nd trimester and I was so worn out.
Maurni...u know what, I am so so J that u daughter sleeps thro the night...that too with BM. How many oz does she drink...oh well I guess some kids refuse to sleep thro the night. I wasn't able to view her pics...her folder seems to be empty

Vidya...how is little Diya? Keeping u busy as usual? I wan't able to view her pics either

PK, how is ur diet coming along? I too find that Santhosh's neck has a lot of milk deposit...I call his neck folds as his milk factory....also it stays a lot behind his ears...I usually wipe it with a wet wash cloth, and/or use oil so that there is less friction.
Chaya...wish you a safe trip, and I hope ur baby does fine during the trip and stay there.

OK girls I think this is long enough to make up for the silence...

Love to all

Tweetie Rajashree replied. Hi there..Good t hear from u..:-).Sid is a naughty boy but mamma's darling now..He has a lous voice too and at times i m worried-what if the neighbours lodge a complain..hehehe !!
Hey, its OK for babies to cry once in a while for 5-10 min, so dont worry abt it..
Plz dont think that u r not a good mom.We all make mistakes when we raise our baby , but thats natural.They say, the couple who never fought beforem, will fight over their babySo fikar not.U do what u feel is the best for your baby.:-).Tummy time is good too,it helps to strenghten the muscles and also its sort of an exercise for the baby.
I used ot put Sid in hiscrib when he used to be drowsy,now he sleeps beside me(there is no crib here), but sleeps on his own.I have never rocked or sung to him so far.
Post some snaps when u have time..
Lots of love,
Raj..
Reena replied. Hi Tweetie,

Awesome to hear from you man! Hey dont ever say or think you are a bad mom as you are the best mom to Santosh any day. He knows and loves only you the MOST. And re in-laws well, my MIL teaches me things all the time (yes, from the phone all the way from India) but I dont care as she talks abt bringing up kids the way they used to 100 yrs back. I just take things from her that I think make sense, thats all!!
Re crib sleeping yu have to make yr hubby understand that S needs to learn to sleep in his crib and that its ok if he cries a little. Tell him that babies get distracted when they sleep between the parents as they are super sensitive to all kinds of noises say when each of yu are even changing sides for eg. We did the same for Rishu and let him cry for 5 mins before we picked him up so that he learns to sleep on his own and he has gotten better. Pehle he was waking up every hr and we were going half mad...abhi bhi he is a very very light sleeper but at least kabhi kabhi he falls back to sleep on his own na so something positive..
chal then hey also have never seen yr snap..pls post some..nice to have a face to a name na..
Bye Reena sush replied. Hi Tweety
Nice to hear from you after a long time...I read somewhere that one can BF even if one is having fever etc since it doesn't affect the baby..just make sure you keep washing your hands frequently(keep Purell /any hand sanitizer pump next to you/the baby at all times) & cover your mouth well if you sneeze/cough in front of the baby..neways good to know that you have recovered..
try putting Santhosh in the crib when he is awake & try playing w/him there..you can pull up a chair & simply sit there..also do the ballon & prop board books in the crib..make the crib a fun place first..& then try to go from there..
re: bottle well..I don't want to say but welcome to hells doorway ...I & Tapash have learnt to tune ourselves out when Tia The Terrible screams..& oh boy can she scream..one can hear her all the way to India I'm sure..just don't worry..feel happy that their lung capacity is great but be prepared for a gassy baby there after since they swallow air during crying which causes gas..
& just \";enjoy\"; being a mom !Chill out & relax..be \";bindaas\";..you simply can't go wrong
love
sush Vani replied. Good to hear from you after a long silence but felt sad reading about the flu. Thank God, Santosh did not get it. When some of my friends tell me that their babies have fever or cold, I used to think how much more can Rishi fuss if he gets any of them. He too is very restless when he wants to sleep and we have to rock him. Today I at my in-laws' place and she is scolding my mom that she has made this a habit. If I were here, she would hav done the same thing, but who can tell her that!

But try this... instead of rocking him in your hand, you can put him on your legs. ie, sit in the bed and keep your legs straight and put one pillow horizontally below your knees. Lie Santosh down with his head and body on the pillow and bottom and legs in your leg. Shake your legs and it will be like rocking for the baby. I do this these days and Rishi ji accepts it most of the times :) Let me know if you were successful too.

Rishi refuses the bottle too... have to join work on June 13, so praying that he shud get used to it soon.

Take care then. Be careful with what you eat and take rest.

Kisses to Santosh.

Love,
Vani