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I have a question to ask about having in-laws with me. My in-laws (mom and dad) are visiting for 6 months. it has been four months now. they are obsessive about their son (my husband). every time he has to leave the house for work, they get sad. sometimes they will make sarcastic remarks like if you are going to leave us home alone, just send us back to india. We are trying to do our very best to spend every minute that we are not working with them, taking them places, ect. but still they are not happy. I didn't think that they would be this irrational, that even when we have to work, they would make us feel guilty about that. It's not so much me, because they don't care about me, just want to be with their son every minute. Looking at them sad and depressed, makes me very upset.
They are retired and live alone in india. atleast here they always have one of us. What should i do to make their days more entertaining, so that they don't complain about being alone.
Please help me. I just want everyone to be happy, enjoy moments we are together. They give us this look like we leave them alone. but what are we to do? quit working? my husband can't take a 6 month vacation?
Also, the sadness and depression, comes out on me, since i'm the only outsider between mom, dad and dear son. they will pick on why i use dishwasher. and how i can't do a single thing right, and picks a fight with me on which spoon i use to cook. she'll force my husband and everyone to eat stuff she makes, like a very rich heavy sweet for breakfast.
bottom line -- all this strange behavior, shouting at me is a result of the fact that they miss their son. instead of realizing that he is a grown man with responsibility and can't be sitting home with them all the time as a retired person. they want to baby him like a 3 year old. can't tell you how crazy it gets.
but just help me, make them feel better about their life, so that we can all live happily.

a replied. Hello Jyoti,
I am having same issues like you. My inlaws are here for six months, they don't want my husband to go to work, they will stick to him every minute when he is at home. They pick on me without cause. I am just sick of all this and waiting them to get back to India.
Its very difficult for me these days, I don't know if there's any solution!