Name: Ek DIL
Hi all,
I have been reading posts on MIL,FIL,SIL problems from long time and i have also added some complaints about mine.But at one point of time, when I look towards my life from OUT OF THE BOX and see the problems in world with OPEN EYES ,i see I have got much better than others.
The major problems girls face with HUSBANDS only(which i think most of us are lucky to have atleast good husbands!! thank GOD!! )...
I have seen examples of well educated families cheating in marriage.One of friend's engagment broke bcoz guy married to different girl in USA..now what should this girl do ? who will marry this girl even its not her fault ? will Single, never married person consider her situation as normal ? One of my Engineer friend got married and after one year she came to know her husband is gay..nothing is worst than this girls ..imagine if you would be in such situations...u must have thought why this happened to ME ONLY ,RIGHT? But this is all about life!!! Everyone deserves best from his/her own perspective but not everyone gets it..infact nobody gets perfect life!!! if you feel your friend/relative has got more good than you..then you are wrong..she might have other problems my be worst than yours but she is not telling..you never know ppl..dikhaneke dat aur khaneke dat ek nahi hote...
The only thing here i want to say is..I know you can tolerate things done by inlaws(i completely agree !) But think from other side...you have got very good husband..who is the first person and sole mate of your life!! Nothing is imporant than him to you girls!! evenif you are having double degress..evenif you are earning more than 50,000 pm...Can you live without a person you love most ? Can you imagine life without that person for a second ?
So girls..try to ignore as much as you can..without disturbing your relations with husband ! Nothing is perfect in life and will never ! If everything was perfect there is no meaning to life! Ask is there any person who is very happy with his life ? you will not get a single ! Happiness lies in how you take the
things..nobody else but you yourself can be happy and keep your childeren and husband happy ...
AND MOST IMP, Think out of the box..do some good things for others...you eventually will feel good..If you try to make ONLY YOURSELF happy for whole life..keep in mind you will never be happy..so keep your loved ones happy and be happy..ITS ALL IN MIND as YOU CAN NOT CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE AND CAN NOT WAIT THEM TO CHANGE TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY So forget thinking about such nasty people and enjoy your life!!
AGain you have got only ONE life so think twice before taking any rash step !!
Hope you agree on this point !
( Again I was writing before as ana with compaints about my MIL and i went for consuling for my depression now girls i am feeling very relaxed and better as truth of life is that you can not change others but can change your thoughts on which only you have control no other person..I took some medication also which helped me a lot ! So i would suggest if you are also depressed first go to some doctor and get your mood raised by medication or advice..dnt waste your life ..its a precious gift you have got from god..you all are well educated and aware of latest facilities...so go ahead and take help for YOURSELF !
Go Girls Go!!