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I brought some ready made salwar which does not have a duppatta. I used to wear it just like that without a duppatta to college. One of my collegemate asked me why do you wear salwars without a duppatta. Don't know if she was meaning that I purposely wear it to show off my curves. But ever since my collegemate has told me, I feel very conscious about wearing t-shirts. Now, she has settled abroad, and sent photos of her wearing pants and t-shirts. I too feel like telling her, why don't you wear something over the t-shirt. This collegemate has irritated me several times before. Once I had eczema, and told her that I had suffered during those times, \";the itching was unbearable\";. For that she said, people who dont have work find a lot of time to scratch their bodies. Another time, when I showed her a famous psychologist who was seen in our college, she asked me \";Did you any time visit the mental hospital ?\";. How do I tackle her ? She always gets on my nerves. I try to ignore her, but that makes her more happy because she thinks I dont know how to answer her back. juvi replied. Dear Submissive,

The problem lies within you more than her. It is because of the loss of self confidence in you that you are getting under her. What you want is that someone should praise you, appreciate you and say yes to what you do. And since she does otherwise you feel bad. If you trusted yourself more than her you wouldnt ever bother what she says.
Anyway dont worry, you are among hundreds of people who are in the same position as yours. If you can improve your self confidence you would see a change in yourself.

Some tips that I have used in these situations are. Always say yes to such a person as long as it doesnt harm you. And flatter her always, feel that you are praising her for nothing. Dont take her words seriously, and tell before her that she is right. Boost her ego as much as you can but believe yourself that she is a bitch. This way you dont have to answer her back and she wont harass you since her ego is already high, but dont believe in her.

For example as she says that people who dont have work scratch. Dont get annoyed, instead say yes i dont have work, only you have lot of work. i scratch and you dont. How great are you not to scratch. you are too much. etc. and say in your heart \";get fucked by dog, you bitch\"; and relieve your anger.

ALso you can try to remember her taunts and fire her back the same and remember the answers that you get. You can use her answers to respond back.

Another thing you should do is to excel yourself in some field so that she cannot taunt you, since you are much better than her. for example get a position in college, or impress other friends than her. this way her taunts dont carry weight.

all the best. cheer up and enjoy life.