Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I had my first child when i was 26 yrs old. Now i am 34yrs\. Is it too old to have a second child. I get very nervous when i think of allthe birth anomalies. Please share your thoughts with me. neena replied. hi,confused,we were also very firm in not having a second one and my husband never wanted it as he wanted to raise 1 in very nice manner and always give him the best.that is why in all these 8 yrs we had not even once tried and never thought about it.but in this year in june i felt there should be 2 and for sake of my son i took this decision.though my pregnancy was absoutly normal when i was 23-24(i concieved at 23 and delivered at 24)i was afraid to again go through all that labour pain and all that kind of stuff.but then my friends around me said u r young u have chance to try and etc as they (my work place colleugs)r in 40's and r regreting why they didn't do when they were in 30's.it took me 2-3 months to convince my husband.i have gone through what u r feeling now i was also very much confused.so from agust we are tring and i thought in 1st attempt only that is as soon as i will have unprtected sex i will become pregnant but things r different here.as i did not have any problem in conceiving my 1st one i thought this will be easy but......my ist pregnancy was completely unplanned.even 1% i was not aware that i will get pregnant.any way u decide what u feel right.about age differnce even i feel too much every day but i read on indianparenting only under what age gap it should be bet.2 choldren and 1 right thing i felt was now age difference will be more for eg .if ur and mine both children r 8 yrs and u conceive till next yr.and ur second 1 is born.when both become big and when they will be 29 the younger one will be 20 or may be 19 at hat time age differnce wont be the factor whereas they will have someone with whom they can share their life's decision and all things.think of future dont think of now.sorry for giving u a big lecture i hope u wont mind but i have also gone through all this.i will be 33 in jan and i dont want to do it very late.that's why we r trying let's see when GOD will listen to our wish.ok all the best if u get time read my trying for a girl under trying since long.i have got many replies may be they might help u.ok take care and bye. Priya replied. Please do try donot lose hope. Try for 6 cycles if no luck then please consult your Gyn
Baby dust to you and Neena
Priya neena replied. please read my messages under neena's name--in both waiting to try and trying since long i am also in same boat.i am 32 yrs old and have a 8 yrs old son and trying for a second one since last 5 cycles but no news.my first pregnancy was unexpected and i was only 23 yrs old now 32 and trying very much for a second one but in vain.please read my detail message.thks.