Hi Mommies of angels,

This is a good site for ladies suffering from miscarriage and abortion to come together and share their grief..Pls do put in ur experiences when u r ready to and we can together come out of our griefs.
I too lost my son when I was 8th month pregnant and am grieving till now..it would be nice and helpful if we share our experiences..

Hugs,
Karuna
Aparna replied.
I saw your message on the main message boards page, and was wondering if you were the one who used to post earlier. I am shocked and sad to find that you are.

I cannot imagine what you must have gone through, please accept my condolences. I'll be praying for you and your husband and hoping that you will heal and find peace.

Aparna. Radhika replied. I am logged in the oct forum too..very active people there..I saw ur note as soon as i logged on to indiaparenting site..was touched seeing ur mail..yes i think of u often, not so much because of pregnancy..but since we share losses of loved one..no matter how old or young..DOn't worry, I trust God and now unfortunate incidents am not so scared of them, because everytime we have overcome them...and we learn a lot from them..all it has taught me is to trust God, do my best, rest I don't worry its upto Him to decide whats best for us and I have 3 angels looking after me..Pa,Ma and my grandma. So lot of \";sifarish to God\"; from them to take care of me hopefully..and they know about u too if they are listening to me...and taking care of u if i know my parents, they will..
Hope u r doing fine..don't lose ur cheerfulness and smile..don't worry about me either..I have become quite tough now..and surrounded by family and friends who were and are very mentally strong and don't allow me to think negative, i enjoy more i think than before because know the value of having the people i have with me now...take care of ur health, eat well and start a every day with new hopes and smiles...take care.
u can mail me anytime u need to talk at radhikap(at) hotmail(dot)com.
Take care..i will update my news to u here...
Radhika Radhika replied. Sorry Karuna...that is very difficult.
Sometimes just leaving a body is better than being in pain. Thats how i comfort myself when I try to find a reason for losing my Pa and Ma. Ma was in coma for a month,seeing someone u love on bed that long is painful for them and us, so think it was a better decision from GOd to take her, so also Pa had chemo for 3 months ,seeing someone so active,independent in bed was painful too and had chances of being disabled..now when i think of it, feel atleast he didn't suffer much, and had a good healthy life 90% of the time..though we miss them, would be selfish on my part to expect him to live with pain for us, I would prefer both never fell ill ever. SO i can understand how u feel. Pa had to make a very difficult decision to keep Ma on the ventilator all her life or let her leave us...and letting her go was best so atleast soul was in peace and didn't suffer with us. God gives us courage to make decisions such times...I cannot imagine the pain u are in..it took me 2 years to get over losing Ma. I hope u don't get into the loop like i did, was brave in front of Pa but inside was a wreck, till i ended up asking for help myself, no one knew of it, got better with counselling, learned relaxation techniques, living life..and to date that was the best education i ever received..so don't hesitate to ask for help from friends, outside if u feel low..i will try the best i can thru this forum.
I am in my 6th month of pregnancy now..
was talking to my husband y'day about u. We both pray and hope God gives u strength to get over it, a loss of a person and memories will always be there, but time heals. Helping others helped me during my time of grief.
Be positive..have a nice day..
Love
Radhika Radhika replied. I am so sorry to hear the news..I have 3 friends who have gone thru' this and it was painful to see them go thru it..however all 3 have had normal pregnancies the next time..one on their way, so don't loose hope.
MY ma also had delivered twins who passed away one week after birth..so now that i am pregnant, i don't take even a day for granted..and pray everyday goes fine.
what puzzled me was generally when u have a baby after the 6th month they say its a premature baby...how can u have a miscarriage?
I always believed whatever God does,we may not understand and is for some unknown reason...but He knows best..have lost both my parents and it was something i had to live and accept.. I cannot though imagine the pain if I lost my little one now ...I do understand..after going thru the depressions of my friends' losses and my own..will just say live one day at a time..and its natural to grieve, but do try to make an effort to divert ur mind, because there is another angel waiting for u to be his/her mom..
Till then trust God ..I am sure He has something very special in store for u..
I am sure all of u will be there to share ur feelings and talk it out.
Take care.
Radhika
sailaja replied. Hi,

I am glad that there is some one out there with whom i can share my sorrow.I had a miscarriage yesterday.I was 8 1/2 weeks pregnant.The doctor said the babys heart had stopped beating and he had to do a D&C and take it out.This was my second miscarriage.I feel so depressed and cant help but blame myself,though the doctor said it si not my fault.I am scared that it might happen again and it is such a painful experience to go through.Especially when there is no one to help us through it.I understan what u are going through,espcially since u lost urs in the last trimester.I am not going to say dont worry.Cause we have to worry and feel the pain for us to get over it.

Best wishes,
sailaja