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hi all,

well im a regular reader of this board,even my family is good(touchwood).hubby is loving and caring.i live with my in laws.my MIL is nice and sweet but she has mood swings.Not that she says much things to me,but she cribbs to my FIL about small and meaningless things.In her mind i feel constantly im going on....im not a kid.Even smallest activity in my hubby and my life she wants to know.i find her very insecure and sensitive.my hubby is only son so she is very possesive about him.she keeps on worring about future things which have not happened she keeps on assuming and getting tense on stupid things.i find this crazy...what will happen will happen, y to create tension in whole house.she thinks after them what will happen to my hubby,because she feels im still young.She just wants importance more from my hubby than her own hubby.i have never treated her badly or answered her back.still she is insecure i dont know about what.she wants all things her way.......tooooo much of expectations about life.i get irritated.husband dosent understand.he thinks mother is a BOND.tell me what to do.very disturbed. Nishant replied. Hello Friend,
There are people in this world who feel very insecure, esp. with their sons getting married, they feel that the DILs will snatch away their sons from them. This is more so if they have a single male child. There are two things that I can suggest to ease this situation:
1. You continue to be ur self (no back-answers, hot feelings etc).
2. Let your hubby also share part of his time with his mom so that she doesnt feel insecure... Let him talk to her (when both of u are present) about what happened at office (or something that he used to talk before marriage). Let it go on for some time when the MIL will finally gain back her confidence.
Yes, I know that the second point is a very big step and that takes a lot of patience from your side, but if you want to permanantly ease the situation, then this might be a good idea.
Cheers,
Nishant.
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