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how much greedy an in law can get, specialy MIL & SIL who thinks having grandchildren by her daughter in law, will take away son's attention ?..did you guys get my point?..let me make it clear..if son has his own children , they are scared he will give importance and more time to his kids and ignore them and also they are scared it is going to effect thier financial incoming?..can you believe it?..it is happening with me.her daughter can have children but not daughter in law..this kind of people live in this world..believe me and it is 100% true..any comments?. yess replied. don't worry we are in same boat. K.Radha replied. MIL's should be shot the moment you marry. LOL. But seriously how do you know this is how your MIL feels? Did she tell you this personally? If so were you alone with her then? And if not are you sure someone isnt trying to create problems by telling you these things? Just a few things to consider before trying to handle things.

I will be surprised if you have children & proove your MIL wrong because I believe she is correct in her thinking. But it is only natural that a child should be more important than anyone to its parents. I would try very hard to see her concerns as a backhanded compliment at your hubby. It is always better to twist things to make a prettier picture as it is easier to deal with such things when they sound nicer if you know what I mean.

Forget what your MIL wants and think about what you & hubby have planned. Because I can promise you that nothing in your life will ever compete with the lovliness of motherhood. I know just how hard it is when a MIL is like this or at least I can sympathize. I think to some degree many women understand your position. Be strong, certain & just make the most of hubby.

Hugs
Kate mallika replied. So Sapna,
Is ur hubby understanding?!I mean does he believe if u say they r jealous of u?!!
Charu replied. Sorry to hear about your situation Sapna. But yes, such evil forces exist in our own families and it is sad. You know my MIL's MIL forced my MIL to have an abortion twice because she felt that her grand kid would take her son away from her. May be thats why my MIL is like a mother to me , she is so protective.

Coming to your situation do not bother about u r MIL's comments, just go ahead, and plan for a child. It is your life, also if she tries to tell u about not having kids, do not even bother to listen or comment. Once u conceive what can she do and what will she do?? Nothing. ENjoy your life with hubby and take care. Pooja replied. Hello Sapna,

I posted the last query on the message board, there I have mentioned how my MIL cried on the airport, asking my hubby how much will it cost when we will become 3?? They were totaly againsy having kid when I got married. They wanted me to get get a job, work for 2 years then go for kid, they think we cannot support our kid...then how did they do it???
Now its 3 years of our marriage and I have been trying to have a baby since last 2 years, no luck. I think the baby also knows not to come in this family, as it is full of GREEDY people. They think it will be extra burden on hubby. Also, they have consulted some astrologer, according to Mr. Astrologer, my hubby's horoscope shows a male child and mine a female....they say, if it has to be a child, then a boy....

I definitly want a girl child now....

I know how it feels...have gone through all this..still going through...