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I hope whoever reads my problem will advice me with some kind of solution.
My real Elder brother's wife tries to become very smart, insult my parents, has no value for me and my younger brother. In fact she insults our whole family. My Parent side family is very simple and tolerating. Knowing this fact she tries to act like bitch.
She tries to talk unnessary with my husband,when he does not want at all.
Since he is my real brother and we all respect him alot.Becos of my brother we all have to atleast keep her in our house.But she is making very good use.
Please advice me how to deal with sch kind of women.
Regards s replied. What do you mean by real elder brother ? If you are so tolerating and simple then what is your problem ? Your sister in law is also a member of your family, so why should she stay away. And what use is she making by staying at your house ? You seem to be very jealous of her. If you are not married, i wonder how you are going to adjust with your ils. latha replied. Don't you ever call your brother's wife a bitch. You said that she does not have any regard for you. It does not look like you have much regard for her either. And what did you ever do for her so she will love you and your family instantly. Did your parents accept dowry from their parents ? Do you people respect her parents ? And by the way, what are you and your husband doing at your parent's house ?
Look Anjali, respect should be both ways always. If you love and respect someone, it comes right back. You can never expect love from a person who you don't love. I do not like my husband's sister and my in-laws too. The reason is they always make sarcastic comments about me and my parents. I can not love people who do not love me. It is that simple. Try to be happy with people around you. Try to make your Bhabhi comfortable at your prent's house. I wish you all the best. friend replied. It is not clear how your sis-in-law is trying to act smart or how she is insulting you and your parents? For every girl her parents are always the best. They refuse to realise that their own parents can also be at fault. By saying this, i am not saying your sis-in-law is a saint.
Since you are married too,i am sure you can relate to some problems that normally occur in relationships. If you want things to work out,then find out what triggered all the unpleasantness. Nobody behaves in a bad way right from the beginning,there is a bad experience somewhere that has led to all the problems. If the problem was checked at that very moment,issues after that don't pile one over the other and get blown out of proportions.
Find out from ur sis-in-law,if something is bothering her instead of badmouthing about her. Find out if you and your family have done something unknowingly to offend her or maybe her parents. You feel that she insults you and your parents and viceversa she must be feeling the same thing.
If you don't want to get to the bottom of it, then i think you should step back and let your parents,brother and sis-in-law handle the situation . You have your own life and set of problems that needs attention. Time is the greatest healer. Things change over time. We change everyday. So just give eachother the space you all need. Hope this helps.