I have a daughter of 4 yrs old. She is very very active and infront of her friends and children she gets excited a lot.She does not listen to parents at all in that time.She is very good at study and very talkative also. She becames jealous when I picks to any other children.How to control her tantrums and behaviour.
Please help. Thanks Shyama replied. hi my kid 1 is very active. i can say he has a bee on his bum.he will never sit and do anything. always jumps around and sometimes he is very demanding.
i tried the time out method, all that mom has written but nothing is working with him.i have 3 kids and this is the only one who is difficult to handle when it comes to behaviour.
he always feels that he is not taken care of. even though we make sure that he is attended first. my kid 2 and 3 are so easy. they understand it well that kid 1 is very demanding and they allow that. but kid 1 still feels that he is not taken care of.
i thought i will be able to help you but after reading your post i have the same question to ask.my kid will start throwing things at me, if i say anything to him. always he wants his things to be done in his own way and itz not always possible for us to satisfy all their needs. he will do that in stores too.
i hope i get some answers for my queries.
dad, you can try babycenter dot com for some tips on it. it will reduce your daughter tantrums. it has somewhat worked with me but still it doesn't work all the time.
sometimes i have to get my child out of that place in order to control him, it goes that worst.
hope my personal experience conforts you atleast that you are not the only parent facing this. mom replied. As for getting excited and being active, i m not too sure, may be Rushika is right. I want to talk about jealousy since i sailed in the same boat some time back.

When we were expecting our second baby, my hubby and I were also working on getting our 4yr old \" mentally ready\" for that so that there is no jealousy or sibling rivalry.

Your kid is 4 yr old. Kid at this age can understand quite well, i mean, probably more than we can imagine.

Have u tried talking and explaining her things like an elder (i mean, a more mature kid than u assume her to be)? Try it, u might be surprised! Dont treat her like a kid too much. She is growing up and can understand things.

Talk to her at some cool times, like a friend. Create a playful and friendly atmosphere for a while (this will help the kid be comfortable and open up for talks) and then sit with her and talk (at her level) and explain her why it is important/needed for parents to love other kids. Remind her \" havent you noticed everybody loving you when we go for outings or shopping, people who are strangers stop by and love the baby or kid .. because they are just so cute loveable ... everybody loves kids.\"
Also tell her that kids like to be loved, ask her dont u like to be loved by everybody?
And talk about things like that to make her understand that as an elder, you would express love to every child who visits your house.
Also explain her that it does not mean you do not love her. You do love her, and more than anyone else. Show her that you get gifts and all the things for her, you play with her, take her out... but for other kids, you only love them (thus u r proving u love her ... and u love her more than others).

I am cutting this long story short, i think u can guess now what i mean to say.

Also, when u r expecting other kids to visit you, say a relative coming at 9 with his kid, then talk to your kid at 830 and set expectations again, that you will be loving that kid and probably givign a gift as well (remind her that that kid's parent also loved and gifted u when u visited them).

Talking to my kid at a higher maturity level that i had assumed earlier, and with respecting her like an elder (comparatively), has helped me.

And you will have to do this time and again bec they are kids afterall, they forget. When i love the new baby infront of my kid, she used to watch me quietly with some expressions on her face. I always made a point to cuddle her and love her immdly after the baby.

I have started expressing my love \" physically\" more to the kid... like, i hug and kiss her more. When i m with her, i ask her to come close and say that i like her company and like to be close to her ... and ALSO tell her that \" see i m loving u, u r such a good girl!\" .
And later when she sees me loving the baby and says \" mumma u dont love me\" , i remind her .... and she agrees! What more, she joins me in loving the baby!

One more thing. When initially my kid started saying \" u dont love me\" , after a few times, i also started saying same thing to her \" u too dont love me\" and showed her times when i wanted to love her and she ran away for play. For eg, i come from office and try to love her but she is busy with her new toy so refuses. I show i am angry/upset and say \" see u dont love me\" . She smiles and comes to me hugs me. I say i need more love. So she giggles and i get lots hugs and kisses all over my face!

So this is it. It has helped me. See if it works for u, let us know.

mom ruchika replied. hello,
my daughter is 2yr 9mnths she is just same as ur daughter just similar.
i think kids are like this.
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