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I have a very different problem, my husband ignores me after the birth of our baby. I was searching for some advice on the internet and found that usually its the other way round - husbands/fathers feel abandoned.

Our relationship weakened after our two year struggle through high risk pregnancies, the earlier one resulting in demise. We finally having a beautiful baby but relationship with my husband is non-existent. Presence of my in-laws and parents worsened things and it seems that all my husband wanted was a baby from me. Although we've had ups and downs in our marriage, separation has never been a choice and now it's as though the only thing left in our marriage is our baby.

I really love my baby but feel ignored by my husband. It is not the kind of closeness I dreamt we would have as a family after what we've been through. I feel like he doesn't want anything to do with me now and it's just a transactional relationship.

When I mentioned this to him, he denied it completely and says that I prevent him from loving our baby. To top all this he'd like us to have another baby so that our first one gets a sibling. I told him that unless our relationship improves I will not consider it. I am so confused .. any advice appreciated. prem replied. Hi, it a coomon problem. As attention is not being shown by u r hubby u feel he is not bothered for u. Before jumping to conclsuion got out for dine and try to hear from his heart for his beahvior . help him in his problems if any!!! Donot not take things for granted. it could be becoz of various pressures or reason. So try to understand and do things which is of mutual interest. Go on a holiday spend awy from family and become more intimate. Varun replied. Hi,

I am a discreeet but bold gentleman from Mumbai and want to interact with bold mums. Older the better. No money deals offered or expected, just friendsh Varun replied. Hi,

I am a discreeet but bold gentleman from Mumbai and want to interact with bold mums. Older the better. No money deals offered or expected, just friends Man replied. Man's Perspective.

Firstly this is a common issue, which if not delicately handled and if left to time would weaken your relationship with your spouse. You have a routine, rearing your baby. Is your husband a part of it ??? If not you gotta find a way to get him to do things. Please remember, your dreams are your own unless you make your spouse a part of it. Revisit your past, find out what your spouse enjoys doing and try to participate in them. Out of your friends recall couples with newborns and invite them over. With your baby occupying a major part of your day, you will need to find things that involve all three of you more often to spend time together. Above all, please keep fit, dress well and be interesting for your husband during this trying phase of life. At no point should he find himself wanting to explore other opportunities. All the Best.