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Hi,
I am a mother of 3 month old baby, & married for 4 yrs for delivery my parents were with me, during that time my husband had a huge fight with them and still now he is like calling me names by using filthy language and rising fights between us very often, when i ask about the reason he complains about my parents as why they did that or said that way.
Now in spite of me coming down my self esteem, and trying to make the family work for my baby. Suggest me how can i handle this problem. I am totally exhausted, i have no patience in me now, its like i can't take it any more. I also explained him that he has to stay with me and not with my parents if they said some thing why the hell he has to abuse me. He replies he is like that.
Ladies all suggestion r welcomed. awaiting for a reply. hARJ replied. I am sorry for your situation. I think your husband is trying to provoke you into an argument. The best thing is not to give him a reaction. Just because he says something about your parents, It doesnt mean its true. hARJ replied. I am sorry for your situation. I think your husband is trying to provoke you into an argument. The best thing is not to give him a reaction. Just because he says something about your parents, It doesnt mean its true. Renuka replied. When he start to say badwords about ur parents keep quite. It will increase ur patience. Let him bark. If u say something abt his father he don't let u to say, that is his parents.

Including me so many ladies are suffering with his type dogs.

KEEP QUITE, LET HIM BARK.

sonia replied. Don't worry. I went through similar situation myself. My parents weren't even here for my delivary. My husband always used to make sarcastic comments about them without any reason. Just be patient. I know it is really hard. I used to cry a lot. But, believe me crying does not help. Be strong and defencive of your parents. I bet he wouldn't take a word against his parents. So every time he says something against them, just tell him you don't like it. Look him in his eyes when you say that. I did that and it worked. Also stop being nice to his parents(Do not talk to them on phone ). This will automatically tell him that you are not going to be nice to his parents if he is not nice to yours. If he starts some topic that would cause a fight, just move away from that room. You have to be very strong. Never cry in front of him. Be strong. It took me 5 years, but I did it. I know you can do it too. It is all about how you choose to take things. I chose not to take any crap from anybody. Remember, whenever your husband brings your parents into your talk, just walk away from him. Get a job when your baby is ready for school. Hope this helps.