My baby is 21 days old and I am bf her. We managed the phase after caserarn delievery alone as parents were not able to come from India, Life is now full of happiness as well as fears.
Could you please help me!
1. I am Bf my baby and whenever is asks then. The problem is that I am getting good milk supply in one breast and the same one has grown big and the other one is not supplying good quantity and the size has also remain the same. My baby doesn't like to feed from the small one but I am sure that milk is coming from that as whenever she stops drinking her mouth is either full of milk or signs of it. What can I do about it?? Generally, its said that 3-4 day after delievery comes the milk flow with pain, fever etc..I didn't feel any of these and felt I won't be able to feed her but now I feel the bigger side full of milk and then empty after she finishes..I don't know how long I will be able to feed her as with time her demand will also grow...

2. I feed her whenever she asks but sometimes she will drink hours with gaps because of sleeping or simply stopping and looking around.
Is it normal ?? when do babys start having a schdule because in my case I am having sleepless nights there is no fix time ...I asked my mother about it she said try to have a gap of 2-2.5 hrs between feeds otherwise her digestive system will go week....but I can't do that as she can't stay so long with those small feeds because of gaps..

wd like to tell that her wet nappy count is o.k and weight gain is also good.
Because she had jaundice after birth and was given a phototherapy, my fears have grown with time..everytime the same question \";if I am doing right\";??
will be glad to hear from you. Hetal replied. 1.start pumping from the smaller breast while//just the same time you are feeding the baby from the bigger breast.
it should help..if it does not,,make it a concern to your lactation consultant..oftn in ne womns body not both the breast produces equal amts of milk,,its like if you measure your eyes, ears or even both of your hands and legs,,they will not be exactly same,,esp the lining wise or when it comes to ear lobes,,fat lining! its a quite natural,,its just that in your case,it has affcted your milk supply,,and it might be abit more lower thn the average differnce....no problem,,see if pumping helps you.
also, massage the small breasts more often, and try to feed baby from smaller breast, after offering the bigger breast(like he take some 75% of bm from it, and thn try to offer 25% from the smaller one)..see if it helps..
about the size,,if and only if you are not havng ne other complications regardng breast like ne pains or lumps or ne infections thn once you wean your baby down the line,,in longer run though,,your both the breast will be of same size,,which means,,the bigger one will come to its original size...
right now its producng milk and the milk glands are doing its work,,which swells the size of breast,,and many people are able to get back in shape after weaning ! it dpends on how your body is acceptable to changes...
but i want you to visit lactation consultant and show your breast to her...or get the breast examination done from your gyn...
its not necsary that all women have fever, chills or ne such things when the milk flow starts,,it dpends more on body thn to rule out that it happens to all ! let mee give you my example,,i had csectn,i started havng colestrm when i was dilatd to 1 cm !!! i was induced earlier,,leading to long labour hours,,during which i was managing with not only labour but with severe pain in breast,,because of engorgmnt...which is very abnormal to happen,,,,and just after the delivery, i got fever,,chills, shivers and even though i was not in better shape because of an emergency csection,,my nurse hold the baby,,made her latch right after the birth and fed her from my breast !! i had not gain my senses and was shivrng at that time !! but it doesnt mean thats just because its not that happen to all,,will rule out the possblity of bm supply less ...instead i was bf my baby upto 7.5months,,and later on during my second pregnancy,,my dr allowed me to offer my bm without ne medication to my 13month old !!!
so remove that from your mind...maintain your milk supply as long as your body is able to cope up and as long as its not tiring you,,eat healthy diet,,stop gettng into loop of what ifssss !! they will never end..
instead think that if you are positive, your baby will grow positively !! bm or formula,,it doesnt make ne difference,,you are still in better position to offer something,,many people are not able to do tht at all !!so be postive and think positive.

2.your baby is too small to feed on demand..make sure to offer as below :

http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=1071&table_name=dis_breastfeeding

it has it all you will need for 1month old...

if your baby is having infant jaundice thn best thing that should NOT worry you at all,,is bm/breastfeeding !! feed more often and as often as needed as above chart or during growth spurt,,offer your breast more times...make sure to wakeher up for feeding esp breastfeeding atleast 1-2months of her age...after that its not required.

and so your question\" if i am doing right\" ,,,with more and more breastfeeding sessions with your baby,,,,,its answered \" yes you are doing just the right thing !!\"
thats the key for you.
as far as your baby is not showing signs of jaundice again,,you shouldnt worry,,let me give you one more link that can help you deal with fear management ::

http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=1612&table_name=dis_healthissues

take care, njoy your motherhood and try to offer your baby all you can !
good luck