my baby girl of 10 months old..i am feeding her as per hetal's food chart..but eats less.ne ways..i am not much worried abt weight bcuz she iz active n reaching her milestones at time.she weighs 8.8 kg now...birth weight was 3.3 kg...her prob iz sleeping
i dunt know u beleive or not frm her birth she has never slept in a single stretch..she sleeps well during day without any prob..i cant find wats haunting her at night...
as per my mil's advice i made her wakep during day but she more restless at night n cries often..then i kept my room opening all windows during day n let her to play..she still wants to sleep during day..she iz both breastfed n botle fed ..she takes around 20 oz of formula n rest breasfed.i even tried giving her formula b4 sleep..still she wakesup after 1 hr...
the prob iz she doesnot sleep if she wakesup..once she opens her eyes she will stand n start blabbering,clap her hands n play the next moment..then she wunt sleep for 3 or 4 hrs..sleeps next day.i tried rocking her immediatly she wakes up n breastfed her..noway...she cries loudly to play n pushes me to let her her play...i used to give her massage n warm bath daily b4 sleep..wat might b her problem???she has got another prob....stranger anxiety....my gosh i am very much hurt frm my il's....they are not in gud terms wid us..so my baby have seen them only hardly 4 times..each time they take her..she cries without breathing..i am feeling very embarrased..and they also says very bad words if she cries..they said that my baby doesnot like humans..i am very much hurt by thiz word..she will b pleasant if we go out..n she reacts with others depending upon them..if they smiles at her n plays then they take her she wunt cry...after staring at them she will start playing..but my il's simply come n pick her up without any smile..she starts screaming..i feel sometimes to tell them not to pick her bcuz she cries continuosly for another 15 min without breathing for long..i will get scared that something might happen to my baby.i am in a dilemma..wat shalla i do?
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my baby girl of 10 months old..i am feeding her as per hetal's food chart..but eats less.ne ways..i am not much worried abt weight bcuz she iz active n reaching her milestones at time.she weighs 8.8 kg now...birth weight was 3.3 kg...her prob iz sleeping
i dunt know u beleive or not frm her birth she has never slept in a single stretch..she sleeps well during day without any prob..i cant find wats haunting her at night...
as per my mil's advice i made her wakep during day but she more restless at night n cries often..then i kept my room opening all windows during day n let her to play..she still wants to sleep during day..she iz both breastfed n botle fed ..she takes around 20 oz of formula n rest breasfed.i even tried giving her formula b4 sleep..still she wakesup after 1 hr...
the prob iz she doesnot sleep if she wakesup..once she opens her eyes she will stand n start blabbering,clap her hands n play the next moment..then she wunt sleep for 3 or 4 hrs..sleeps next day.i tried rocking her immediatly she wakes up n breastfed her..noway...she cries loudly to play n pushes me to let her her play...i used to give her massage n warm bath daily b4 sleep..wat might b her problem???she has got another prob....stranger anxiety....my gosh i am very much hurt frm my il's....they are not in gud terms wid us..so my baby have seen them only hardly 4 times..each time they take her..she cries without breathing..i am feeling very embarrased..and they also says very bad words if she cries..they said that my baby doesnot like humans..i am very much hurt by thiz word..she will b pleasant if we go out..n she reacts with others depending upon them..if they smiles at her n plays then they take her she wunt cry...after staring at them she will start playing..but my il's simply come n pick her up without any smile..she starts screaming..i feel sometimes to tell them not to pick her bcuz she cries continuosly for another 15 min without breathing for long..i will get scared that something might happen to my baby.i am in a dilemma..wat shalla i do?
Hetal replied. i wanted to write you yesday as and when i was reading your post,as so many things were coming to my mind,,,,but i couldnt sit longerr ,,,
thanks for your patience...
now about the reply :
respect her apetite,,no matter how it goes..just make sure she is eating the required ! 10months is just the right age from the time,,kids start being obnoxious towards food !
as far as she is showing a good growth rate with a considerable wght gain as per her age,,there should not be ne probs..
about sleeping, sleeping habit varies from individual and it holds true for infants,babies and toddlers too !
my baby never used to sleep more than 14hours,,right from 2nd month ! believe it or not !!! but thats her habit,,i couldnt change,,and i whenever i succded in changing it or making her sleep more following some tips or something,,she would becomes lazy !! which i never want !! its better for kids to be on active mode as far as they dont look tired or fatigue,,its perfectly fine.
some kids resting period dpends on how thr sleeping habits are, how active they are and as to how thr body is able to actually rest while in sleep !!sleeping is not just closing eyes,,but it means resting,,and not all babies actually are in resting period from the time they close thr eyes to the time they open them !!! its only some 50-60% of the time when they are actually in resting period,,where thr body is compltly relaxed and is refreshing,,the rest 40% is just lying position..if you wake them in that condition,,they will wakeup without ne fuss !!!!! thats what explains why some babies cry when they are wakeup in middle of sleep,,some like mine are fresh,,as if they didnt require ne sleep at all !!!
but in that 50% of the resting period,,which is actually the sound sleep,,that is required,,so as far as your child is able to sleep certain times in 24hours in a way that her body is in resting period/totally relaxed,,even if you touch or talk loudly,,it wont affect her,,,thn she is resting ! let her rest.
now that was about sleeping times,,and considering that,,please note that resting times for each individual varies..as far as your child is not looking tired no matter how much hours he slept,,you should not be worried about total number of hours he slept,,what your worry should be,,watever time she is sleeping,,is that enough for her body to gain rest or not,,it will show on her face,,just the time she wakesup !!!!
another myth is people often think and in some cases it has also hold true,,as baby apetite was on higher side or baby remain hungry,,that midnight waking up is because of bm or inappropriate food intake !
its not always that.many babies were fine even after skipping night meals and missing thr night feeds !! they sleep thru out night without a move,,it dpends on body own resting period habits and whenever it asks for rest,,body takes rest,,no matter wat !!
considering that she was 3.3kgs,,which is considerd on an average to heavy baby esp in indian race,,i can atleast expect that her apetite should be more thn what she is taking !
may be there are other reasons for her not taking enough food quantity wise..may be its flavour, texture, shape, colour, timings,,she might be the one who might be right candidate for too many mini meals,,every 2-3hours with less qty than as for normal babies who often tend to be hungry by say 3hours and take bigger qty,,at 10months,,so you can try working on that,,and make sure thats not the reason...
all you said about clapping hands and whenever she is awake,,she will start blabbering,,this is just the right age ! not all babies do that,,i agree, but yes,,even my baby has done that...
but i observed onething,,the more you try to make them sleep,,they are able to smell that ! esp 10months old is smart in that.
your child is the right candidate of sep anxty and is maturing from infant to toddler !
she will get emotional, she will express, she will show her likes, dislikes,,preferences,,,all you have to do, is respect her expressions and emotions. if you try to force her she will get wild....
about strangr anxty,,therre was a good discussion that just happnd in other board,,let me just paste the link for you,,see if it gives you more ideas..it has all about crying while looking at own people,,all you talked about... :
http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=2076&table_name=dis_healthissues
so try them,,they work !
and dont worry about inlaws,,they dont know whats going on with baby,,it seems they arent aware of how tough it is for parents alone to take care a baby,,and its quite natural that a baby in nuclear family has higher chances of feeling sep anxty thn the ones who were brought up in joint or multifamiles ! reason exposure to people !!! the more the caregivers and the more noise,,kids gets more used to other people thn just parents...
about what you said about baby crying only when they see certain people..its more of pyschologcal thing ! babies upto 2-3years, live in thr subconcious mind that can very well sense the inner personality of the human they attend or when someone calls them ! thats y some babies even after being very friendly,,sometimes will never like to be one person in particular...
no matter how hard you try...
but you can rule out this theory at this stage,,as this might lead to your personal problems in future..but yes it happens,,some babies never feel comfortable in presence of some people,,even after they are above 2-3years !! and it carries with them thru thr entire life,,its quite natural for a first impression of personality or negative energies to remaind for lifetime !!! but to rule that out,,in 4 meetings or even 6-10meetings in not a proper approach...
what you said, happens to many kids,,happend to mine too ! but you have to keep trying.
at first, never show your child that herr crying is making you angry...ask your dh, to explain to your inlaws that your baby is still getting used to people and if someone just comes and picks her up ,,she gets scared...tell them to ignore her for a while in first few minutes of your meeting and see if that works out ! i understand people in india do behave like that...my uncle came to my place,,he came and picked my dd,,my dd never had sep anxty but if someone comes and picks her up,,she was looking at me,,i didnt respond,,she cried ! i went away from her sight,,guess she was perfectly fine !!!
my prob was my dh was not around,,when my uncle visited me and so i had no other way but to leave my dd and his uncle alone,,after a while,,when i entered the living room,,my dd looked at me,,she cried and came to me,,and thn after 2mins,,she was playing with my uncle without ne fears !!!
see if that works for you...
i was very funny in speaking though,,,during initial stages when my dd was trying to come out sep anxty at 6months onwards,,i used to tell people around me that dont mingle with her,,she will not come to you if you attack her ! they used to feel abit weird hearing this,,but the parents who were mature enough to understand,,they knew it well wat i meant,,which was jst enough for me !! i wont advice you that though !!!
alternatly you can ask your inlaws to smile at her whenver they are entrng your house,,or when you are talking to them,,make sure to make it more personal,,and when your baby sees you doing that,,she understands it well that these people are not going to harm me because mom is talking nicely with them ! my dd looks at my responses first when someone enters from the door !!! its only then she will allow that person to pick...until then she will play hide and seek,,peeakboo,,or just stay with me...
about her sleeping habits, we can work together if you let me know her whole days routine//including sleeping times...just the average times with average no of times,,she usually eats, plays,or sleeps,,,etc,,and we can try to balance something from it.
as far as her diet intake and formula etc intake is concerned,,you can check on the below links :
you can consider the below post also,,as most babies are very well able to graduate to older stages when it comes to diet or intakes,,it dpends on thr health and growth spurts !
http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=1270&table_name=dis_sleeping
you can also try to check if she is interested in finger foods and such other altnernatives,see if change in colour, flavour, tastes,,shapes, or appearances,,all that makes her get interest in food and she might eat a couple more tblsp...
above and all, i want to know her total no of sleeping hour with rspect to 24hours and also her activity level and how is the moods of parents,caregivers thru out the day,,who takes care of her,,and wat are the evening chores in your house...wat is your sleeping time...if you feel comfortable.,,it will surely help me..
hope you have a wonderful year ahead,,and a very happy new year to you and your family ! i wont be able to be online tommrrow but will be back on 1st !
take care,
Hetal replied. hi, i couldnt get a chance to visit this board nd right now i couldnt complt reading your post, but rreplying halfway as i have delayed the reply,,,,,
i will reply tmrow first thing first...right now i cant sit longer,,but,have somethings for you......
thanks for your patience.
2006-12-31
#1
Name: Hetal Subject: Reply:
i wanted to write you yesday as and when i was reading your post,as so many things were coming to my mind,,,,but i couldnt sit longerr ,,,
thanks for your patience...
now about the reply :
respect her apetite,,no matter how it goes..just make sure she is eating the required ! 10months is just the right age from the time,,kids start being obnoxious towards food !
as far as she is showing a good growth rate with a considerable wght gain as per her age,,there should not be ne probs..
about sleeping, sleeping habit varies from individual and it holds true for infants,babies and toddlers too !
my baby never used to sleep more than 14hours,,right from 2nd month ! believe it or not !!! but thats her habit,,i couldnt change,,and i whenever i succded in changing it or making her sleep more following some tips or something,,she would becomes lazy !! which i never want !! its better for kids to be on active mode as far as they dont look tired or fatigue,,its perfectly fine.
some kids resting period dpends on how thr sleeping habits are, how active they are and as to how thr body is able to actually rest while in sleep !!sleeping is not just closing eyes,,but it means resting,,and not all babies actually are in resting period from the time they close thr eyes to the time they open them !!! its only some 50-60% of the time when they are actually in resting period,,where thr body is compltly relaxed and is refreshing,,the rest 40% is just lying position..if you wake them in that condition,,they will wakeup without ne fuss !!!!! thats what explains why some babies cry when they are wakeup in middle of sleep,,some like mine are fresh,,as if they didnt require ne sleep at all !!!
but in that 50% of the resting period,,which is actually the sound sleep,,that is required,,so as far as your child is able to sleep certain times in 24hours in a way that her body is in resting period/totally relaxed,,even if you touch or talk loudly,,it wont affect her,,,thn she is resting ! let her rest.
now that was about sleeping times,,and considering that,,please note that resting times for each individual varies..as far as your child is not looking tired no matter how much hours he slept,,you should not be worried about total number of hours he slept,,what your worry should be,,watever time she is sleeping,,is that enough for her body to gain rest or not,,it will show on her face,,just the time she wakesup !!!!
another myth is people often think and in some cases it has also hold true,,as baby apetite was on higher side or baby remain hungry,,that midnight waking up is because of bm or inappropriate food intake !
its not always that.many babies were fine even after skipping night meals and missing thr night feeds !! they sleep thru out night without a move,,it dpends on body own resting period habits and whenever it asks for rest,,body takes rest,,no matter wat !!
considering that she was 3.3kgs,,which is considerd on an average to heavy baby esp in indian race,,i can atleast expect that her apetite should be more thn what she is taking !
may be there are other reasons for her not taking enough food quantity wise..may be its flavour, texture, shape, colour, timings,,she might be the one who might be right candidate for too many mini meals,,every 2-3hours with less qty than as for normal babies who often tend to be hungry by say 3hours and take bigger qty,,at 10months,,so you can try working on that,,and make sure thats not the reason...
all you said about clapping hands and whenever she is awake,,she will start blabbering,,this is just the right age ! not all babies do that,,i agree, but yes,,even my baby has done that...
but i observed onething,,the more you try to make them sleep,,they are able to smell that ! esp 10months old is smart in that.
your child is the right candidate of sep anxty and is maturing from infant to toddler !
she will get emotional, she will express, she will show her likes, dislikes,,preferences,,,all you have to do, is respect her expressions and emotions. if you try to force her she will get wild....
about strangr anxty,,therre was a good discussion that just happnd in other board,,let me just paste the link for you,,see if it gives you more ideas..it has all about crying while looking at own people,,all you talked about... :
http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=2076&table_name=dis_healthissues
so try them,,they work !
and dont worry about inlaws,,they dont know whats going on with baby,,it seems they arent aware of how tough it is for parents alone to take care a baby,,and its quite natural that a baby in nuclear family has higher chances of feeling sep anxty thn the ones who were brought up in joint or multifamiles ! reason exposure to people !!! the more the caregivers and the more noise,,kids gets more used to other people thn just parents...
about what you said about baby crying only when they see certain people..its more of pyschologcal thing ! babies upto 2-3years, live in thr subconcious mind that can very well sense the inner personality of the human they attend or when someone calls them ! thats y some babies even after being very friendly,,sometimes will never like to be one person in particular...
no matter how hard you try...
but you can rule out this theory at this stage,,as this might lead to your personal problems in future..but yes it happens,,some babies never feel comfortable in presence of some people,,even after they are above 2-3years !! and it carries with them thru thr entire life,,its quite natural for a first impression of personality or negative energies to remaind for lifetime !!! but to rule that out,,in 4 meetings or even 6-10meetings in not a proper approach...
what you said, happens to many kids,,happend to mine too ! but you have to keep trying.
at first, never show your child that herr crying is making you angry...ask your dh, to explain to your inlaws that your baby is still getting used to people and if someone just comes and picks her up ,,she gets scared...tell them to ignore her for a while in first few minutes of your meeting and see if that works out ! i understand people in india do behave like that...my uncle came to my place,,he came and picked my dd,,my dd never had sep anxty but if someone comes and picks her up,,she was looking at me,,i didnt respond,,she cried ! i went away from her sight,,guess she was perfectly fine !!!
my prob was my dh was not around,,when my uncle visited me and so i had no other way but to leave my dd and his uncle alone,,after a while,,when i entered the living room,,my dd looked at me,,she cried and came to me,,and thn after 2mins,,she was playing with my uncle without ne fears !!!
see if that works for you...
i was very funny in speaking though,,,during initial stages when my dd was trying to come out sep anxty at 6months onwards,,i used to tell people around me that dont mingle with her,,she will not come to you if you attack her ! they used to feel abit weird hearing this,,but the parents who were mature enough to understand,,they knew it well wat i meant,,which was jst enough for me !! i wont advice you that though !!!
alternatly you can ask your inlaws to smile at her whenver they are entrng your house,,or when you are talking to them,,make sure to make it more personal,,and when your baby sees you doing that,,she understands it well that these people are not going to harm me because mom is talking nicely with them ! my dd looks at my responses first when someone enters from the door !!! its only then she will allow that person to pick...until then she will play hide and seek,,peeakboo,,or just stay with me...
about her sleeping habits, we can work together if you let me know her whole days routine//including sleeping times...just the average times with average no of times,,she usually eats, plays,or sleeps,,,etc,,and we can try to balance something from it.
as far as her diet intake and formula etc intake is concerned,,you can check on the below links :
you can consider the below post also,,as most babies are very well able to graduate to older stages when it comes to diet or intakes,,it dpends on thr health and growth spurts !
http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=1270&table_name=dis_sleeping
you can also try to check if she is interested in finger foods and such other altnernatives,see if change in colour, flavour, tastes,,shapes, or appearances,,all that makes her get interest in food and she might eat a couple more tblsp...
above and all, i want to know her total no of sleeping hour with rspect to 24hours and also her activity level and how is the moods of parents,caregivers thru out the day,,who takes care of her,,and wat are the evening chores in your house...wat is your sleeping time...if you feel comfortable.,,it will surely help me..
hope you have a wonderful year ahead,,and a very happy new year to you and your family ! i wont be able to be online tommrrow but will be back on 1st !
take care,
2006-12-31
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Name: Hetal Subject: Addins
i strongly recommend you to go thru babycenter dot com and look at stranger anxty / sep anxty topic,,m sure it will help you..i was impressed to read the articles therein when someone was confused with US and indian style of parenting & i was asked to read them.....but they are very well written...please go thru it.you wil get more tips therein.
respect your child sentiments,,support him, but at the same time,,draw a line whenver its needed,,just make sure the anxty does not become habit !! take care..
2006-12-31
#3
Name: Hetal Subject: Addins
i strongly recommend you to go thru babycenter dot com and look at stranger anxty / sep anxty topic,,m sure it will help you..i was impressed to read the articles therein when someone was confused with US and indian style of parenting....but they are very well written...please go thru it.you wil get more tips therein.
respect your child sentiments,,support him, but at the same time,,draw a line whenver its needed,,just make sure the anxty does not become habit !! take care..
2006-12-30
#4
Name: Hetal Subject: Re:
hi, i couldnt get a chance to visit this board nd right now i couldnt complt reading your post, but rreplying halfway as i have delayed the reply,,,,,
i will reply tmrow first thing first...right now i cant sit longer,,but,have somethings for you......
thanks for your patience.
2006-12-31
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Name: hema Subject: ok hetal
thank u hetal..i am checking my post daily n waiting for ur reply hetal..
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