Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I am 32 yrs old and have been married for 10-1/2 yrs. Am still childless. Have tried many medical treatments, but have failed at every step. My husband and I fall under what doctors call 'únexplained infertility'. It's so disheartening coz at every step you are made to feel incomplete. Even in this day and age people behave strangely. I am so desperate. I am currently living abroad. We will be returning to India in 6 months time and am going to go ahead and adopt a baby and fulfil my dream of having a baby. I know there may be many woemn like me who face similar situations in their lives. I hope and pray that everyone is able to have a baby in the future. Nisha replied. GP...hie
U staying abroad have u tried treatment there like IUI and IVF
I and my hubby have been married for 2 year and we tried having a baby but couldnt manage
I underwent a hystroscopy in india which still didnt do any benifit...later i visited a very good fertility clinic in malaysia where i was diagnosed of primary infertility and i under went laproscopy where my ovaried were drilled and within 2 months i became preggy...now i am in my 5th month of pregnancy and i have a baby boy
like me i think u should loose hope...if i would have become preggy in 3 months of treatment with the doc i would have gone for some other procedure till the doc would have told me \";no use\";..keep trying
my husbands jiju and sis too are facing a same prob...they too have compleated 10 yrs and dont have a kid
my MIL is under great depression becoz of them
but thier main mistake was that they stuck to just one doc and now they have lost hope
dont loose hope dear
fight fight
sometimes even nature needs a little help...so give it a chance
Nisha Rekha replied. Hi,
I have adaughter, she is 18months old. But I still can feel the pian n trauma that society gives u cos my brother n my bhabhi are married for last 7 years n they r childless, they r trying their best. Doctors have not given up hope n have asked them to try for testtube baby. My brother is very fond of kids, he just loves them Whenevr I see him with my daughter I always blame God for this injustice. My eyes get wet always for him n my bhabhi.
But then one has to accept whatevr happens its Gods wish.
If u r not able to have ur child then it doesn't mean u will never be a mother. You have planned to adopt a baby, thats the greatest n wise decision, go ahead dear n do what u feel is right, cos this is ur life n when ur baby will come in ur life believe me ythings will change completely for u. I will be a new life a com[plete family n then the taunts n the socity will not matter much, what will matter will be that what best can u give ur child and how can u make him/her the best in life.....
Dontdont even think a b it, use all ur time in planning for ur baby's arrival in ur new home n what all would u like to give ur baby, start collecting.
chlo, dont worry....there will be a little nagel to call u ma...ma
Love
Rekha Supriya replied. Dear GP

I know it is not easy to accept and moreover society never lets you be. But if you look around yourself whether it is infertility or anything else, society 'imposes' these various norms on its members. Who made them and who sustains them are questionable.Anyways just wanted to say that adoption too is a bold step-learn to ignore such a 'society' and open your hearts and mind to the joys of parenting!
Wish you all the very best.
Supriya