Hi All,

I gave birth to a baby boy. I had no problems during my pregnancy.But in the 8th month diagonised with congenital diaphragmatic hernia.But doctors assured me that it can be cured through a surgery.They didnt wait for normal delivery and had to undergo a C-section.
Soon after delivery my baby was moved to NICU.After 5 days my little baby underwent a major surgery.But after surgery his condition worsened day by day.
On the 10th day we lost him.We lost our little Angel.The worst day in my life.
I returned to my house crying, without my baby.
I am at home, no longer pregnant, with only memories of what we had planned for our little angel.
Me and my husband believe that he was really an angel send to us by God.
Might be like this, God wanted an angel through us, We are blessed.
But I am really afraid of having my second baby.How long should I wait to have a second baby after a C-Section.
Does anybody know about the recurrence of this disease - Congenital diaphragmatic hernia.
Please Help.... indu replied. Hi KRK

I also belongs to bangalore. My delivery happened in manipal. It was a preterm C-section, on completion of 30th week. We got our son after 9 years of marriage.The reason for c-section was aserious blood flow problem to the placenta. He had to undergo a surgery since the meconium(first baby stool) was not passed till then. He recovered from that. Started taking food, started putting on weight(he wsa only 940gm). after 2 weeks something went wrong, dont know what.he was affected with a serious infection, day by day things started moving to the negative side and on 26th day of birth , he was taken back

yes, everybody says \" sometimes it happens, we have to accept facts\"

i also wants to think like that. but question comes to mind \" But why ?\"

i want to know, which hospital and doctors u were consulting though i dont have any bad experience with my doctors or hospital. Doctors were right . It is only our fate !!!!!!!!!

indu
krk replied. Hi Anu, Vini and Neha,


I can completely understand your situation as I was also few years ago. I was madly looking out for some hope in every possible way.

Here goes my story. I write this down to give some hope to everyone who suffers after losing a baby.

I got married 8 years ago. After an year, we started planning for a baby. Initially, I was not really crazy. We had just started. It was about 5 months since we had started, and when I casuallly visited a gynaec first time, she detect 2 problems. I had fibroid and had started hypothyroidism... This was a shock of my life and I came to know that fibroid had started off due to a biggest blunder I had made. I had used oral contraceptives for 8 months after my marriage. And these were the foundation for the fibroid. Then, the gynaec had told me that people do conceive even with fibroids and also deliver successfully. I spent almost an year trying only in vain... Started losing hope on the doc too.

That is when I thought on consulting another gynaec suggested by a neighbor of mine. That is when I was for a another big shock. This gynaec was a very experienced lady and a very short tempered one. After seeing the scan reports, she straight told me to forget having a baby. The fibroid had become so big that it had to be operated and after the operation, I will absolutely have no chance of having a baby. This news was like an end of world to me and my husband. But then, we did not really know that this indeed was actually a stepping stone for success.

We started to hunt for best possible gynaec in the city. We actually found 2 of them but I actually settled down with a better one. I had almost already lost >2.5 years. This gynaec was my first goddess. She gave me immense hope that she would operate me to remove the fibroid and then I will surely be able to concieve. The surgery was done and since this was a major one, I had to wait for atleast 10 months before I resume my trials again.

I did patiently wait. Then, I started trying again. 2-3 months passed and no results. On going back she did quite a few tests to both me and my husband and this time... it was due to him.. his count was low for natural conception. She suggested IUI for quick results as such problems in men might take a long time to get right.

First try with IUI and I conceived. Can you guess what this day was like when I came to know I was pregnent?? I was really at the top of the world. And then the coming nine months were not easy at all. We had 2 deaths in the family which along with me presurrized job gave me a very very tough time. This pressure set in gestional diabetes in me. I had to slog more than a normal person when my ppl were ill, were suffering and finally 2 died too.. And then when all this was over, all of us started looking out for the lil one who was about to come into this world. At wk 34, I started showing up false pains and got admitted to the hospital. The baby was fine, he was weighing 2.2kg then and was almost ready. But, the doc decided to wait for another 2 weeks before the delivery. My parents and in laws were so eagerly waiting for a lil one, they arranged a grand function too for me. 3 days after this function, in the afternoon, my waters broke... I was leaking so badly. Me, my parents and few relatives who still were at home were so eagerly waiting for the lil one. We reached the hospital in 10min and as I entered the gate, I could feel my baby move... That probably was his last movement. Yes, I was in for a bigger shock. The docs scanned and said, they could not find the heart beat of the baby. He had died!! Doctors said this was actually a sudden demise and they could not really get the reason.. they predicted this could have been because of ups and downs in sugars... I don' t know if anyone could have undergone such repeated problems at all... I was thinking this is only a dream... why me.. how many times.. i was angry.. i was depressed.. crying profusely .. many many such things which all you could be undergoing at this point of time... I just could not take this at all.. It was like my whole family was under an evil spell. I think there was no single hour/day when I would not have cried. My depression was at a peak and as a result my gestational diabetes actually turned to diabetes.

One waits waits and waits for this moment and then you get to hear the lil one is no more!!! I had a C-section due to my earlier surgery which meant a wait for another year to try another time. Many a times I wanted to kill myself too... but then my husband, parents and in-laws supported me and helped me to get out of all the depression. With all this too, I still had no hope at all and was just living with no wish to live.

I don' t know how many times I was angry with God for having made me go through all this. Then, it was like as though I challenged God that I would not let him get away with this. It was 10th month after I had lost my lil one, I started doing a very difficult vratham (kind of pooja/prayer). This was for 48 days. And guess what, God was really pleased. we jsut gave a try just once naturally, and even before my pooja actually got over, I had concieved. This time I just checked myself whether I had actually conceived. The results were true. But I wanted to confirm. I went to the same gynaec. While scanning, she was just saying that it was very very unjust with what had happened to me... and was saying that God would definitely return back what I had lost along with a bonus.. and yes she literally screamed with joy... I was carrying twins.. With this news, I did not know whether to even smile. I started crying and told her, I could not have success with one, and how will I do with 2 now?? She gave me a lot of hope in return.

During my preganancy, I was actually scared every moment as to what could happen. I was so very careful in every lil step I took unlike the first time when I was literally daring. Upto wk24, both babies were doing fine. Then one of them started showing IUGR (Intra uterine Growth Restriction). Panic had started again. So many scans, dopplers which always showed normal, so many specialists to meet...

But something had made me so bold. When docs were saying, one was doing fine and you should be happy for that, I was so adamant and would reply back that this time I know both will do fine and God cannot cheat me... I barely was sleeping too... But I would repeatedly talk to my children loudly, that both will do fine and we all will live a happy life... I also started looking out for a good neo natalogist since I had a risk of pre mature delivery too due to many complications I had. I did find a very good neo natalogist. Went and met her and another very good gynaec. This was my wk31. Something made my husband get me admitted to the hospital in the same week though we just had to wait. We felt much safer to be in a hospital in case of any emergency.

It was a sunday and the third day since I had got admitted. Early morning, I was feeling so tired and some kind of uneasiness, knowing little that contractions had begun. My 2nd goddess, the new gynaec came to the hospital just to see me at 6.30 in the morning. She still does not know what made her do that. She checked me and decided for a C-section immediately. I was so lost and was literally dumb. All docs pooled up in about a hour and I was taken into the operation room. The state of mind cannot be described at all... I was actually continously praying all possible Gods. Anesthesia was given. Gynaec asked me, what babies did I want. I just answered her, it would not matter to me whether its boys or girls.. they should be healthy only. When, she prompted me more, I spoke, I literally would like to have one boy and one girl. And yes, she said this time I was actaully given what I want, it was ONE BOY and ONE GIRL... I was happy hearing this but still not completely... scared of post things... I did not bother what was actually happening to me... but was contiuously watching my children. Since they were premature, my third Goddess, the neo natologist was continuously working on them. The operation was successful.

Our baby girl was 1.9kg was in NICU for 3 weeks and then came to us. Our baby boy was 1kg and was in NICU was 6 weeks and then came to us. Now, they are 1.5 years old and are doing fine by God' s grace... They are so mischievous and they are growing up each day. God has finally given me the ultimate happiness in this world. And the 3 docs are really forms of God to me.

The saying still holds good, where there is hope there is a way...

My best wishes to all of you. I wish none of you will have such a difficult journey. Believe in God and he will give you all the happiness.

-krk Vini replied. Hi anu..I understand the pain ur going through as Iam also sailing in the same boat. I lost my baby boy on 25th April 2009 just 4 hours after my delivery. The only thing that I can say right now is dont loose hope and believe in God. I have full confidence in GOD and I know if he has taken our baby from us, it could be that HE did not want us to go through a lot bigger pain in life. He would return our baby back to us in a much healthy condition. Don' t be scared as HE is always with us. Take care..And I would surely pray for you. neha replied. hi i wnt thru ur sad story n became nostalgic as i also lost my baby. as he ws suffering 40m d same disease. actually dis is a kind of abnormality dat occurs in baby. i gt to no dat my baby spinal cord is nt accurate as ll as he had hernia also. i lost him wen i ws 15 weeks pregnant. dnt worry sis u ll soon b a mother of little angel again. believe in god