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Waiting to try:when should i try

2002-03-08

Name: kkua I will be completing 26 this july 02 , I don't know when should I try for baby. Is there something you feel to have a baby or is there something that just u go for it since u r getting older. I'm a bit confused and scared to get preg since u have to go through so much. Can anybody help me?

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I will be completing 26 this july 02 , I don't know when should I try for baby. Is there something you feel to have a baby or is there something that just u go for it since u r getting older. I'm a bit confused and scared to get preg since u have to go through so much. Can anybody help me? Friend replied. I agree with you nicemom. Both partners have to be ready..you will know when you are ready. Your marriage must be strong and stable. You should be emotionally and financially ready. Make sure that you and your spouse have done all you have wanted to do together because once the baby arrives, it will be almost impossible. I don't want to scare you but it is a fact of life, children are beautiful, they are loving, but they take all your strength away from you, they need all of your attention so the attention for your spouse is hardly there.

My husband and I spoke about all these issues because I didn't want to be told after the baby was born that you don't have time for me. I told him that this is what happens whether we like it or not and there will be many days when I just will not have the stregth to have sex (many days at that). In addition, a woman's body goes through many physical, emoitional and hormonal changes. The men have to understand that, be prepared for it and so do you.

My advice would be to talk to your friends, encourage your husband to talk , get books regarding the changes and speak to your doctor.

All in all ---children are great, they are lovable and believe me when you see them everyday ( you and your husband)...all you can say to yourself is this child is the product of our love. nicemom replied. hi,
the right time to have a bay , in my opinion, is when you have a happy marraige, financially you are stable and also age.
its imp that your partner also wants a baby at that time.raising a baby is a big expense. every parent wnats the best for his/her baby.
its good to have babies before 32 yrs atleast. i'm talking if you think of going for the second too. after that chances of birth defects in the baby increases.
keep me posted

2002-05-03

Name: Friend
Subject:

Agree with nicemom

I agree with you nicemom. Both partners have to be ready..you will know when you are ready. Your marriage must be strong and stable. You should be emotionally and financially ready. Make sure that you and your spouse have done all you have wanted to do together because once the baby arrives, it will be almost impossible. I don't want to scare you but it is a fact of life, children are beautiful, they are loving, but they take all your strength away from you, they need all of your attention so the attention for your spouse is hardly there.

My husband and I spoke about all these issues because I didn't want to be told after the baby was born that you don't have time for me. I told him that this is what happens whether we like it or not and there will be many days when I just will not have the stregth to have sex (many days at that). In addition, a woman's body goes through many physical, emoitional and hormonal changes. The men have to understand that, be prepared for it and so do you.

My advice would be to talk to your friends, encourage your husband to talk , get books regarding the changes and speak to your doctor.

All in all ---children are great, they are lovable and believe me when you see them everyday ( you and your husband)...all you can say to yourself is this child is the product of our love.

2002-05-03

Name: nicemom
Subject:

you're right!!

hi friend,
you're absolutely right, what you've written about life after the baby. tho' i had 9 yrs before marraige and 2 yrs after marraige to be with my hubby (11 yrs!!!), i thought life after the baby would be more or less the same!! the extra work would be changing diapers and feeding the baby.
But it is not so. unknowingly most of youe attention and love is for the baby now and your relationship with your spouse changes. however hard you try to balance the two, it gets difficult. emotionally and physically.
keep in touch

2002-04-29

Name: nicemom
Subject:

when you are emotionally and financially prepared

hi,
the right time to have a bay , in my opinion, is when you have a happy marraige, financially you are stable and also age.
its imp that your partner also wants a baby at that time.raising a baby is a big expense. every parent wnats the best for his/her baby.
its good to have babies before 32 yrs atleast. i'm talking if you think of going for the second too. after that chances of birth defects in the baby increases.
keep me posted

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