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Hello friends,
I am in India with my parents and I came to know
about my husband in US that he was badly hurt at his left arm and he is undergoing treatment which would last for 3 months.
I couldn't stop myself giving him a call and
he blamed my Dad for his injury.He said he slipped because of him and started abusing my dad.
He also knows that he was blaming my dad unnessarily.
And he told me that no body will come to take me back home and started quarrelling with me.and blaming my parents for our separation. He said that my parents are using me settle abroad.

Since that day I am left with no respect for him.
Now I don't want to think also about my life with him.
There is no use of reconsiderring my life with him.
Mani RR replied. HEllo Mani,
From this message and your previous message I think that you are not totally for the separation. I would say that you should discuss things with him coolly. There are so many times we fight with our family members and sometimes in anger we do say things that we really dont mean to say.
Dont take any decision in haste or in anger.. because this is a big decision and you should try to make one which you will not repent later.
I know staying with a person who does not understand you and your feelings is not easy..
but life after a divorce is not easy either..
and if you plan to remarry who knows how he will be like..
So, give the relationship a try.. I am not saying that you give in to all his whims.. take a stand.. you know what is better for you..
think of divorce when you are totally convinced not out of anger.
I hope you have a happy life
All the best!! Q replied. I suggest, instead of looking at answers provided thru the net, which may not be relaible at all times however well meaning they maybe.

Why dont you try counsellors who will offer you sound advice. Call up your hsuband and ask him to not be angry with whoever for two minutes.

Discuss with him, how much you love him and how you would like to give it another try earnestly. But only aftyer seeking help, coz these problems wont go away.

Both of you have to keep your family out of this if you have to find a solution. And if it doesnt work out....its for the best.

Above all, KEEP A COOL HEAD. vcv replied. all these days i was reading ur messages on this board, i thought atleast when u called him he should have replied to u in a nice way and not by blaming ur parents for separation , he and his family are equally responsible for separation and not only u and ur parents..........