Did you blame yourself after you had a miscarriage? Did you try to find out what caused your miscarriage? Are you planning to get pregnant again? Maria Sequeira replied. I am 34 and my husband 40. We planned to have a baby this year. I initially thought I may have problems conceiving the child but I was happy that I was pregnant soon. But within a month I had a miscarriage. It was the worst experience I ever had. I do not know whether it is my age or some other problem. The reports still have to come. But I am scared like a small child of losing something. I am suddenly feeling incomplete. If I were to trade the treasures of the world with a baby for my family I would not think twice. I wish we had planned this pregnancy earlier. Even if we weren’t financially strong then, we are capable now. I wish I could turn back time. Please pray for me. Rudra Sharma replied. My wife had two miscarriages. She is really heart broken. I suddenly feel it would make a big differenced if one of us knew more about miscarriages. We would not pay such a heavy price. More than losing the babies I cannot see my wife so dejected and mostly in despair. She feels she is cursed. I do not know how to change her view. I feel scared to argue or stress a certain point on her. Coping with the miscarriages is not an easy task. I try to make her feel special and take her out too. But she seems to be in her own world. The doctor has suggested some tests but she is not willing to do them. I am even thinking of considering adoption. All I have to do first is get my wife back to normal. Shruti Sinha replied. Miscarriages are really heart breaking experience. I had never imagined I would have to go through one. My first pregnancy was not detected properly. The baby was stuck in the fallopian tube. I was hospitalized for quiet some time after that. It was so sad that I could not do anything. I did not know anything. I just fainted one fine evening. It really helps to pay attention to your body. Not bothering about or taking your health for granted may cost a big price. But losing a baby is the biggest loss. Only if I knew I could do something. Till this day I blame myself but sometimes I feel it may be destined to be so. I have twins now. They are the treasure of my life. Miscarriages do happen and understanding them can really help. Co-operate and co-ordinate with your doctor on every step.