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hi all
thanks a lot for all ur advice. i really really appreciate it. well the thing is i do feel threatened when hes really nice to other people. i dunno maybe i am selfish like he says, but i want him to love me more than anybody and anything else. im not asking him to leave anybody and everybody, but if it comes to it, i want him to be with me. i mean isnt that wat marriage is all about?
like hes the most unselfish guy ive ever seen. hell do anything for anybody, and for me hell do literally anything like take me shopping anytime i want, take me to places i want to eat. he comes from a family where guys dont do any house work, but he helps me a lil bit in the kitchen cos i told him i want a companion, n not some male chauvinistic guy. but he feels if his family sees him helping me, theyll think hes henpecked. so hes always so worried abt wat they think abt him, n thats why i feel so threatened n scared of them even before meeting them. i think his family n i have different views about life n marriage, than he n me. wat shoud i doo?:-(((
n secondly, when im with him he keeps me so happy. he knows im confused abt this whole inter religious thing. but he says watever i want , be with him or not, hell totally accept. ive hurt him a number of times by backing out of this relationship. but i always go back, cos i fall for his sincerity n love. even now he says, he knows ill back out any minute, but hes still with me.
so i dunno wat to do. hes 26 yrs old. he says im still young (22 rs), and that im not completely mature. but he has certain responsibilities towards his family n he cant not do that. i dunno wat to do. i love him, but i dunno if ill miss all the chrisitan things im used to, my cousins, aunts, uncles, mallu movies, jokes etc. im so confused!!! arian replied. Marriage is loving, compromising and over all giving. It is not demanding love and forcing somebody to keep living with you. If you expect him to love you better than everything else, You should do the same. Do not worry about the Christian things, cousins, aunts, uncles, mallu movies, jokes etc etc etc. Just stay with him and shower love on him. The rest will fall into place. Though our(mine and my spouse's) marriage was arranged in the same caste system, culturally we were light-years apart but we found a way to work around our differences for the love we have for each other. Christian/Jew/Hindu, religion is just a road to reach God and God is one for all of us. BE worry-free and enjoy your partner. Good luck.