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I keep on lurching on this site and particularly this forum of Joint family coz I am a sufferer myself of a joint family. Don’t know what to do….i am badly on a lookout for some woman who is in similar condition and fighting with the same kind of odds with whom I can share and feel lighter.

I had a love marriage, I love my husband coz he is nice but I hate the thing in him that he thinks only his family – his Parents, brother, bhabhi the 2 kids can feel and I am just supposed to bear everything with patience and not feel anything.

I can be nice to them, should smile to them, love them and respect them…while I can not have any negative feelings for them.

He is not ready to listen to anything to me on that front…if I do so then only can he talk to me….so that’s the first unsaid condition to our relationship. He wants me to be nice to all and be happy in being only good to all his so called family…

Have been married for about 2 yrs and 3 months have a 8 month old boy and find myself suffering with the ills of this joint family.

I can only get rid of this joint family at the cost of my marriage or else my hubby says that he can separate from his huge family that he financially supports, with his everything -tana,mana,dhana (most of all dhana)– but then he will be like a dead man living with me…and I too do not want to separate a son from his Parents…..but my problems have no end….

so if there is anyone out there who can understand this please get in touch with me…..lets share our suffering...and see if we can together find a way to tackle this....
friend replied. hi,
I feel very to read about ur problem.
I think it the same problem everywhere.
Why should we women alone suffer? After being brought up for 20-25 years in our parents place why should we sacrifice?????

but life is like that.
anyway things might become better.Concentrate on ur kid. amy be that will give a change to ur mind

desi girl replied. Hello i am going thru same thing.
for my husband his family comes first.
we are not living together as we are are in USA and they are in india. but he talks to his mom everyday for 45 min or so. and have to tell her everything that had happened with us. don't know what to do. just cry everytime it bothers me. how do you handle it?
Tracy035 replied. Would love to chat with you....