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Hi girls!!!!!!!!nice to see everybdy' s response. Ruby keep on sharing ur views n experiences. It really helps!!!!!!I' m really really depressed.....one of my relatives who got married last year, has delivered a baby. Though I' m happy for her, I juss cudnt digest that I cant even do this simple thing in my life. Life is looking like hell............sometimes even the thoughts of suicide creep into my mind....really dun wanna lie this life full of despair........cant write much...lets from a frnds group...so we can share more n ease our tensions.....as I really dun have anybody, except for my husband, with whom I can share my thoughts, my worries n concerns.....with whom I can crib....n the one who completely understands me.....looking forward to replies n suggestions...of course for this frnd grp as well...plzz plzz... be in touch all of you!!!missing talking to all of you.....hope we all become gud frnds....at least we can share n care...love u all...keep scribbling Vaylan replied. Hello All -

We have surplus embryos from a successful IVF cycle. We would be glad to donate those embryos to any Indian couple. Please reply if interested.

Thanks sa replied. After reading your message I have come to know that all of us are feeling the same way. I am living in sharja. I am married for 10 yrs. I have been diagnoised to have mild endometriosis, all other tests are normal. There is no problem with my husband. I feel very guilty and stressed. All my neighours who came after me are pregnant They avoid telling me that they are pregnant. This hurts to the core. I just feel like I am a waste product in this world and feel very guily that I am not able to provide a child to my husband which he deserves. I am a housewife. I used to go to work bt now I want to concentrate in IVF. Hope for the best and the rest is in gods hand.
madhu replied. hi ruvi,

i feel exactly the same way you feel, every word of yours is true for me also. i am married for last six and half years with no children. i have got diffrent problem, my husbend is having ED problem. please any one sugest me best fertility centre in bangalore. Leena replied. I am a regular luker on this site and I hardly used to reply. But when I saw your message, I really felt that I should reply, because I feel exactly like you. I have been married for the past 8 years. We had a baby who was born with severe heart problems and we lost him after 8 months. Ever since we have not been able to get pregnant. We tried IVF 3 times and we are planning to try it one last time again.
There is absolutely no reason why things happen. My husband is my greatest support. When I see my friends, neighbours, relatives all getting pregnant, I just feel like you do.. why to live this life like this? It is better to finish it off, instead of living this for no reason.. And I just dont feel like talking to old friends, because there is really nothing to talk. When they talk about their kids, I just have nothing. But my only hope is that our prayers wont go wasted. I pray to God very honestly. Earlier I used to feel very sad going out to a party..but nowadays, I have got some good friends. Even though I do feel sad, I just dont show it out. I just dont take it to my heart and allow my brain to work on it.
I sometimes feel that it is very difficult in US, because most of the Indians over here are all well off and have kids and have a settled family life. In that group, you seem to be like an odd one out when you have these kind of issues.
As everyone else mentioned, there is no rhyme or reason for everything in life. I have gone through a lot and I am not sure what else is in stock. So just take it as it comes. Enjoy your day and dont think about anything else. We are doing everything that we can (in terms of treatment) from our end...
I hope i didnt depress you more... semi replied. ruvi, I know it is not easy not to be depressed with infertility problem, specially if u have tried all but no success. I can understand your pain and depression since I myself feel same way on and off. I try hard not to feel depress and sad but it happens. Even I have seen my entire friend group, relatives , neighbourous having kids one after another and here I am with no kid after trying from 10 yr. and doing every single effort. The most fraustrating part is that we both fall under unexplained infertility. I really like what ruby has expressed \" living gracefully and try hard not to feel depressed\" . Even sometime I feel my life hopeless and meaningless and cannot seem to find answer for my pain...but than again I recollect myself for next day and that is how life is going on from last 12 yr. My mom and other well wisher says that God is kind.. I doubt this though after seeing what he has put us through.. well. try to take your mind off from this problem by keeping yourself busy and do the the stuff what make you feel good (like talking ot your mom, going for a long walk, watching your favourite tv shows , buying something nice for yourself, going out for dinner, etc.) Take care.. Do write when u get a chance. I feel good by talking to all of you.
semi Ruby replied. Hi ruvi, Hope you are feeling better at this moment..Please remember that we ( women ) are not here on this earth just to have kids, but much more than that..It is God' s will..but atleast treatments are available for us to have , we need to do whatever we can do ..atleast thats what i think..i am struggling with infertility for last 15 years and stil try to live gracefully..even though i saw my sister my brother , all sister in-laws and many of my friends having kids and many many baby showers ..To top it up my husband' s brothers wife is pregnant with her first baby with ivf (after 10 years ) so we are planning to go see the baby soon..see is not here in US..basically I feel i am the only one who deosn' t just get pregnant but you know thats what made me so strong ..I live so gracefully and keep my self nice and fit..I pray alot whenever i feel sad and take long walks in fresh air..end of the day we can do whateven is in our control and the result is in God' s hand..am 40 year old and still have so much hope and will keep on trying until am 45...atleast in that way i won' t have any regrets that i wish i could have done that..so please take every day as it comes and live your life with courage , you never know , God is kind at all times..take care
Ruby Dd replied. Hi Ruvi,
I know it is hard but try to come out of depression. concentrate on something else. I am also trying hard & keep my self busy with the work. i know that feelinf too. I had gone to my bil' s city last week for 2 days & spent a lot of time with their daughter. When I came back i was missing her soo much, but now my husband is here & he realy helps me a lot to divert my mind. he encourages me to work as well as make good contacts with my old coledge friends. I am going to be busy for 2-3 days but I will keep my massanger on in next week & you can talk to me in the afternoon whenever I am in office. It is my own office so i do not have any restrictions.
I will look forward to chating with u next wek.
Hang in there. God definately has some plans for us too!