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Hi everyone... Thank you all for the wonderful advice offered in the topic I posted previously (WILL DISOWN HIM)I wanted to give you all an update. Upon learning of our pregnancy my partner and I put in all the relevent forms to marry but after much talking we decided against it. It seems we were a bit rash in our decision not to marry and it has raised some concerns. We were advised to marry asap before breaking the news of the pregnancy to my partners parents.

We married in a small ceremony last Saturday (April 16th)and told his parents of the news. His mother went rather quiet but his daddy took the news much better than expected saying what is done is done. Several hours later when the shock wore off my \";husband's\"; aunt and brother called from the states as his mother had called them worried and they were asking if we had gone mad and then after much talking we were able to tell her everything. Including about my children from my deceased husband. His Aunt seems to be the peace keeper and has vowed to break all this news properly so his parents can understand the extra information we've not yet had a chance to tell them.

Come what may we have the support of his brother and Aunt and they believe with time everyone will calm down and accept things. I am so happy that there have been no threats of disownment and that everyone is trying their hardest, and it is hard for people, to understand and accept. I even got to speak to my husbands brother briefly for the first time ever and his words were \";Do not get caught up in all the shock and upset, right now you must be happy as every new bride\";... Thank you everyone for your help and advice, especially Rekha and Augustborn. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you & Bless you all. Tracy035 replied. Congratulations....Prayers do come true.....I have all the same new bride questions you do....I hope yous goes well....I have had no contact with my husbands family....Maybe it's a good thing...Only time will tell... advise me replied. Rekha and Augustborn... You guys have been amazing listening to me go on and on and on. You've given great advise and offered your congratulations... Your friends must be blessed to have people like you in their lives, I feel really blessed having had the benifit of your wisdom... thanks you ever so much.

I had just one last question... Last one(s) I promise. Hubby is mailing his mom & dad as usual and recieving replies. I am never mentioned. Should my hubby begin making small references to me or should we let sleeping dogs stay sleeping? Should I make an attempt at contact with his parents? I mean, I wonder should I introduce myself some how? His aunt and brother continue to be supportive and that makes all the difference I think. Once again thank you so much for EVERYTHING!!! Rekha replied. First of all congratulations. And I'm sure everything will work out fine. U have support from some of his family and they will help ease the tensions.
Ok...congrats again....I'm so happy for you guys. I wish you a very happy married life and all the best for the new baby.
I'm so glad you posted this update. Thanks for thinking of us.
Enjoy and lots of love and happiness to all of you...
And CONGRATS again. augustborn replied. Dear dear Friend!
CONGRATULATIONS!
I am so happy for you...All is well that ends well...:)
Wishing you a very happy married life. Things will fall in place and eventually everyone will come around...
Congrats once again and be happy!

Cheers!