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i am a mother of 9yrs old son.3&1/2 yrs back my husband expire.3mths before i got married again.my son has accepted this relation but he is not happy here.my all relatives are away.im the only one with whom he is related here remaing all doesnt matter anything for him.now i am feeling guilty.i think that i should not remarrry.i have spoiled my childs careear.i dont know what should i do?should i go back ? or i have to adjust here.here at inlaws placwe all has not accepted this marrige wholeheartedly.please help me in taking right decision.... AB replied. As far as your new relationship is concerned...first erase off the feeling of guilt in you, and believe you have done no wrong..

Secondly, as far as your son is concerned, try talking to him, and making him understand in short , sweet words.Remember at this point of time, you are the only person he could confide in and noone else...So dont force anything on him whatsoever, even if hes stubborn has his own mindsets, let him see things for himself...And explain the greatness (how he has accepted both of you and so on) of his new dad...As for you, you need to analyse your hubby's reaction to your son as well, and try talking to him, if you feel its neccessary,in a cool and composed manner.

So take things one by one and give things a little time, and never jump to conclusions or take fast decisions and regret it later on...

Sometimes let the head rule over the heart...

As far as your in laws are concerned, keep that aside for sometime, first patch up things in your family and then the rest...OK

Take care and good luck. vs replied. As long as you are there for your son, the rest of the world doesn't matter. It will take him some time to like the new family and vice versa. I am sure he will appreciate and understand your deciaion as he grows up. yes replied. new relationship alwys takes time tosattle down.new place means new enviorment,new people new process of adjusting.children feel uncomfotabe intialy but soon they adopt.but it depend on people around him esoecilly his new father.how he treat?yu must be open with yr child.take him in confidens.loving child will surely lilke yu to be happy. keep patience.for more from me?