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Hello I am mother of 2 and half year old son. I want to share some words and story with you.

Since i m working woman, i get my very less time and attention towards my son. my MIL takes care of my son n a maid too who take care of his bath, massage, poo and feed milk as MIL instruct day to day. I used to get up @ 6 in the morning and prepare all food for family as well as for my son. By 8’o clock I move to office.

Now the time runs. From 8 in the morning up to 7 in the evening, my MIL takes cares of my son. In the meanwhile, my maid also help my son for bath, feed him milk and other. The problem comes out of this, since my child born I joined office after 3 months of maternity leave, my son is attached to MIL , my son calls my MIL - “MUMMY”. On the very first year, I take it very lightly, but as my son is now growing up , I thought he will now differentiate between his mamma and dadi ( MIL). My MIL always speaks in front of guests, - “I am his mummy because his mamma working. I feel bad now.

As the years flew, I thought now my son feel mama’s love and affection, as I pay very less time n love towards my son. But all in vain, it’s not working and I just got depressed. Now, when I get back to home in the evening by 7, I want my child to make a smile towards me and I give him tight hug. but it’s a dream like that for me . as I enter the home , I first want to see my son and the way I interact with my son ,he make noise” muje mummy k pass jana, muje mat le ke jao” he doesn’t want to come on my lap, he reacts as I will beat him and he scares of me. Why it is so. Sometimes I thought , is my MIL says in front of him n try to make a habit that ur mamma is bad and will beat you in the evening??

Tell you one thing more, as I m in joint family, two more children are there from my sister-in-law. And her elder son is very mischief and disobedience. He speaks a lot very bad words in front of everybody and he never listens to elders. my son play with him , as he is the only boy to play with. My son often beat elders and shout at me as my SIL elder son does. After that I took my son to room , I make him understand very politely that “not to do this n make him a habit for not doing bad things. But I never scold him and beaten my son. After all I m his mamma, then why my son reacts as I will scold him . I feel very sad and depressed. Often I cry many times in front of my son. But he totally ignores me and get away from me.


Am I wrong in this scenario? I want my son to differentiate between my mamma and dadi.. I miss my mother hood, i thought of leave job , but I have to do due to financial issues .


Pls help my issues Thanks Sumedha


Priya replied. I Sumedha, don't worry everything will be fine, I am also in the same boat and worrying is not the solution. I am facing the same problems as you are.