my son is 1 and 1/2 years old. i want to stop breast feeding him. i have tried applying neem oil to my nipples but i am not able to stop him. he simply wipes off the neem oil by sucking for two or three times, and when the oil is wipe away, he starts sucking my milk. i dont know what to do now. is there any way to stop the secretion of milk? Rebecca replied. Hi, I haven't weaned my baby yet, but I have a good book on babies and breast feeding (The Baby Book by William and Martha Sears) and here are some excerpts that my be helpful. You should know that they advocate attachment parenting and this may not be your style. Their approach is just one, so take what you like and ignore the rest. I don't think this is the ultimate weaning recipe, but hopefully something in it will be helpful to you.

Wean Gradually: \";Avoid weaning by desertion - leaving baby to go on a getaway vacation. Sudden detachment from mother's breast and from the whole mother all at once my be a combined stress that is too much for baby to handle. THe key to healthy weaning is that it must be gradual. Some mothers purposefully start skipping the least favored feeding, for instance the midmorning time when mom and baby would really rather go to the park or read a book or have a snack. After a while they make another adjustment, then another, either intentionally or just as life unfolds, so that months later they find they are down to just one or two feedings, usually nap time and bedtime.
The time-honored weaning method of 'don't offer, don't refuse' seems to work the best for most mothers and babies. Weaning means releasing, not rejecting. Minimize situations that encourage breastfeeding (for example, sitting down in the familiar, inviting rocking chair), but be open during needful periods of the day. It is quite normal, as babies are naturally weaning into other relationships, for them to use mother as their home base for nutritional and emotional refueling. Be prepared to back up a step or two if you see negative behavior (tantrums, anger, sadmess) cropping up...
Be preparpared for regressions. Between eighteen months and two years baby may have occasional spurts of marathon breastfeeding, as if it were newborn time again. Here's why: as your budding explorer comes across new situations, it is necessary for him to check into home base frequently for a brief boost, reassuring himself that it is OK to resume exploring unknown territory...
It is OK to say No...There are many creative ways to say no that will not be regarded as \";Mama is hardening her heart\"; but rather as \";Mama wants to help me find a way to be content\";....Stories, toys, games, songs, outings, projects, may be just the reserves you need. Consider weaning as broadening your relationships with your baby, not losing it. As with all parenting styles there is a balance...As you develop more playful interactions as alternatives to breastfeeding, your child will gradually learn to be content with them and actually prefer them as a substitute.\"; Hope something in this is useful. Good luck. Rebecca