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The Only Child

- Anuradha

More and more couples are opting to have just one child. Keep some points in mind while raising your 'only child'
 

Studies show that more and more women are opting to have just one child. The reasons for this are quite varied. Some decide not to opt for a second child in order to balance a career with motherhood. Others have financial constraints. Bringing up a child these days is quite expensive with education taking up a major chunk of the parent's financial resources. 

Hence, parent's feel that the pressure on them will be too much with more than one child.

But the reason for stopping at just one child isn't always financial. Women are getting married at a later age than they did previously. The delay can set the stage for secondary infertility -- a woman's inability to become pregnant a second time.

Whatever the reasons couples opt to have a single child, they can be rest assured that "Only Child" isn't the dirty phrase it was a generation ago. 

In fact it is now a parenting trend. A paper published in 1888 maligned the only child by describing him/her as "selfish and self centered". However with the passing of a century the findings of the paper are no longer relevant and further studies have shown that there is not much difference between a first-born and a single child. In fact it has been noticed rthat single children have higher achievement levels because of the undivided attention, support and involvement they get from their parent's in all their activities. 
 

Tiger Woods, Indira Gandhi, Issac Newton were all single children! And while learning to share and adjust are normally learnt from siblings, these can also be learnt as a result of spending 8 hours at school each day!!
 

Bringing up an only child is not without its challenges: 

  • The child is the center of the parent's universe and hence their expectations are high. The pressure on the child to be a "super child" is immense. Learn to tone down your expectations and instead concentrate on making your child a good human being rather than a super human being!
  • Resist the temptation to overindulge your child as this gives him the mentality that "I always get what I want", which can cause serious problems as he grows up.
  • Create opportunities for your child to interact with a peer group either by taking him to play areas where he interacts with other kids or enrolling him as a member of a club, where he can make friends.
  • The only child tends to have a strong bond with his parent's, which can soon turn into dependence for everything from homework to entertainment.
  • Remember: It is not necessary to keep your child happy all the time by finding things to keep him occupied. Reduce your child's dependence on you and let him find things to do and how to do them without your involvement.
  • Encourage your child to share things with friends, cousins and show your appreciation by rewarding him with words of encouragement.
So avoid these common mistakes parents make and make a positive contribution to your child's development.
 
 
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Name: Deepak
Country: India

Agreed, this can be very good sharing for people in dilemma single child or two children. Children also don't come to know when they grew with two kids together.
 
Name: Trisha chavan
Country: India

I am a mother of a single daughter. The journey so far has been a memorable one. It has been full of ups and downs. I am fine with it.
 
Name: Kiran Deep
Country: India

after reading this post, I am happy that I made a choice. I am happy with my single child as i am confident of raising her responsibly. Though there are some disadvantages of having a single child, but I am sure to be able to face the challenges.
 
Name: Rakhee aneja
Country: India

I just cannot make up my mind whether to have a sibling for my only daughter. at times, i see her lonely and without friends and this makes me think for another child. Also It is not possible for me to be with her all the time. what should i do?


 

 
 
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More and more couples are opting to have just one child. Keep some points in mind while raising your 'only child' The child is the center of the parent's universe and hence their expectations are high. The pressure on the child to be a "super child" is immense. Learn to tone down your expectations and instead concentrate on making your child a good human being rather than a super human being! Resist the temptation to overindulge your child as this gives him the mentality that "I always get what I want", which can cause serious problems as he grows up. Encourage your child to share things with friends, cousins and show your appreciation by rewarding him with words of encouragement. The only child tends to have a strong bond with his parents, which can soon turn into dependence for everything from homework to entertainment. How do you raise your only child? Share with us!
Sujani
I am an only child. I am actually fine with that. Even where there are 2 or more siblings, often one of them gets all the importance due to some reason or the other. There are siblings who can' t s...
trupti
I have only one girl who is 7 years old. I agree with Anuradha Kiran. But sometime I confused. I take a dicission to grow only one child. But some times I thought whether my dicission is right or wron...
priya
Its true that a child needs company.But there is also the factor of sibling rivalry.Especially if there is not much gap between the two,the house would turn into a live hell.I' ve seen families in nei...
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