Speech therapist Ajit Harisinghani
tells you how and why your child's stammering can be stopped at the right time.
Mum..mummy! We wa.wa.wa..won the
mmm..mmmatch!" Mrs Sharma's body tenses up whenever she hears her ten year-old
son stuttering. Whenever Amit gets stuck on a word, she gets desperate.
Amit's younger brother speaks absolutely normally, and that makes Amit's
handicap ever more noticeable. Very often classmates tease him. Last year,
he came home crying quite often. Interestingly, Amit has no difficulty
when he sings or recites from memory. But the problem comes when the teacher
asks him to read aloud in the class. Also when he is very excited and angry.
Talking on the telephone is also difficult for Amit. Like Amit, many children
face the speech problem. And like Mrs Sharma, many mothers worry over their
child's stammering. But mere worry does not help. One has to understand
the disorder before tackling it.
What is stammering?
Stammering is predominantly a 'male'
condition (80% of stammerers are male) and it usually affects the first-born
male child. A significant majority of stammerers (65%) have a family
history of the disorder. Nearly always, stammering starts before the child
is five years of age. If left untreated, it peaks in severity around the
age of ten to eighteen years and then begins to stabilize or fade away
as the person grows older.
A stammerer knows precisely what
he wants to say but cannot, for a moment, say it because of an involuntary
repetition, prolongation or cessation of the speech sound. Research suggests
that the disorder might be caused due to a 'neurological mistiming' during
the act of speech which leaves the stammerer confused about when exactly
to say the word he or she wants to say. Speaking is not merely the movement
of the tongue but involves a fine coordination of both mental and physical
processes. Like all other physical actions, the act of speech is
the result of neuro-muscular coordination that involves the transmitting
of electro-chemical messages from the brain to the appropriate muscle groups.
Actually, all stammerers have periods of fluency when they are emotionally
relaxed but revert back to diffluent speech under stress. Answering the
roll call in a class, or speaking on the telephone, or
talking to someone in authority, or speaking in a group, or attending a
job interview are some pressure situations which might increase behavior.
What is exactly
wrong?
Another interesting fact about stammering
is that even those who stammer severely can sing fluently without
any speech blocks. It is because when we sing a song, we know exactly
when to say what. But in a conversation, people become
disoriented and cannot maintain smooth forward flow of words in the form
of sentences. Even as a child stammers, he builds an accumulated fear of
stammering. With growing years, these fears keep snowballing until the
child begins to experience tremendous frustration, anxiety,
shame, embarrassment, and even guilt. He or she begins to recoil from speaking.
He fears listeners. In the bargain, he also loses confidence. But, he does
not know that except for the stammering, he is a normal human being. In
fact, most stammerers are sensitive and intelligent people.
It is a habit
Speech is one of the strongest habits
of our body. And naturally, stammered speech is also a habit. Stammering
is not a disease and therefore, it cannot be treated through medicines.
The stammeringchild or adult has to be helped to develop
a new, more fluent manner of speech through specific
speech fluency--building techniques. There is no other solution but just
to unlearn and undo stammering.
Never hide the
problem
A stutterer usually tries to hide
his or her speech problem. This attempt at camouflage is counter-productive
because it only acts as psychological 'fuel' for further speech-blocks.
If the stammerer is open about his speech difficulty, he experiences lesser
stress and is able to speak with greater control.
In the final analysis, stammering
ans stuttering can be overcome if the sufferer seeks scientific, professional
guidance and is ready to work towards achieving speech fluency through
regular practice of therapeutic techniques. It certainly cannot disappear
by some magic pill. And as a parent, one has to realize this fact.
Name:
P.S.SUSENDHRAN
Country: India
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Stammering is not a disease but a speech disorder, so it can not be cured by medicines. That is very important to understand. There is no instant cure or a secret potion that magically cures your stammer. It also takes a bit of work on your part, and you must have patience and stick with it. It needs a special therapy to cure it and a lot of patience, continuous support and encouragement. Stammering is a very embarrassing situation which forces repetitions of sounds and make speech non-fluent. It has great impact as a whole on the speaker, who feels himself very frustrated for not conveying his message properly. The stammerer is not able to speak certain letters properly. In order to get rid of it they try to avoid those letters or words and use alternative words.
Feelings and perceptions of Stammerers: It is very natural to feel very embarrassed when you are not able to convey your message properly to the listeners. What to speak about the stammerers who feel many obstacles for saying one simple sentence. They have very negative feelings of these unavoidable situations. If others make fun of their inability they feel very unhappy and disappointed. Some are as followings:
Frustration: They feel frustrated very much for not able to express their views in fluent way.
Shame: Stammerers feel ashamed by their inability to talk in an effective way.
Low self confidence: Their self confidence is very low while speaking to others because they feel that they will not be able to convey whatever they want to.
Guilty feeling: Stammerers feel themselves guilty for not able to speak in proper way.
Hopelessness: They don’t have any hope for getting rid of this embarrassing situation. They always tend to hide their inability.
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Name:
VIKAS GUPTA
Country: India
MY 3 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER SUFFERING GROM STAMMRING.
I SEEK ANY CONSULTANT IN GURGAON.
PLEASE MAIL ME ON vgca_btp@yahoo. com
Name:
Sivamani.Susendhran
Country: India
Stammering is not a disease. It is a defective style of speaking problem, hence it can be effectively cured by practicing breathing exercises and doing vocal exercises. I am an ex-stammerer and sucessfully cured myself using my own techniques. Anybody who wants to get relief from the burden of stammering may contact me. Please mail me at susee6@gmail.com
Name:
Lakshmi
Country: india
this is really a very informative article. keep it up!
Name:
jaskaran singh
Country: usa
i been looking for cure, but i don't know where to get it. when i talk alone and sing it speak clearly.some time i know answer very well, but i don't say it because if i stammer, other kids will make fun on me.but i realy like ur article. i got to know lot of information. thanx
Name:
tom
Country: india
i have a five year old boy who started stammering all of suddenly please help me how i can cure or help him
Name:
menaka
Country: india
i am graduate with good fluency in english,but i am unable to express because of stuttering.please help me out in this.
Name:
Viswanath
Country: india
i am viswanathan (24 yr) from tamil nadu. i am having some difficulties (stammering)while speaking to some senior officers, other unknown person over telephone, and even direct face to face also. normally i am not getting any problem in my speaking fluency with my friends or family. this problem happens only when i emotionally affected, feeling, lack of confidence etc. i have completed my graduation in 97, since then i have been working in it industry.
please anyone could guide me with some tips so that i can come out of this problem. i am very much thankful for all the time if anybody can help me.
my email id is (viswanath_25@indiatime s.com)
Name:
C S Rao
Country: india
please read my article 'who is controlling your mind? not you' in the web site 'geocities. com/suryamchenna'. a proven 'beginner's method' for control of mind which also cures stammering is described in it. it has helped a person aged 50 get rid of his stammering which he had from his high school. please write to me if you need any clarifications about it. addresss to 'suryamch enna@yahoo.com'.
good luck.
c s rao
Name:
andre
Country: usa
hey i thk you very much for this article it is right on target with it's information. i've had a stammer since i could remember and it has been better at times and very bad at times. but i;ve always been able to handle it. although you stated earlier my first born son now has the same problem and i would like to help him becuse i sense that he will be alot more senative than i was. amazingly, my second son has no sign of a problem again your info really helped me understand more about the problem.
Name:
Devi
Country: malaysia
the article was very informative. basic guidelines on how to deal with the situation would make the article more resourceful
Name:
singingyogi
Country: india
there is an qualified and experienced speech therapist dr. ajit harisinghani in pune, india who might be able to help stammering cases.
Name:
Kumar
Country: india
let me thank you for the article. the " neurological disorder" you have mentioned - will it occur due to any "accident" like say a fall during childhood. my sister's son had a fallfrom the swing to a tiled floor. he is a brilliant and intelligent child ( 2years old ) has a good vocabulary of 200 words and could form logical sentences comprising of 3-4 words. he could identify and name the flags of the nations ( 30 countries ). he started stuttering all of a sudden. he could recite the numbers in english, tamil , hindi & russian too...the only thing we could observe is the sudden change in environment. he is brought up in his grand parents home. will such change in living conditions create a shock and result in stuttering ? please advise. thanks in advance - tashkum@rediffmail.com
Name:
coleend@sebi.gov.in
Country: india
pl tell me how to help my 4 1/2 yr. old who has started to stammer at times. this is only when he begins to spesk at other times he is absolutely normal. he also has difficulty prnouncing some alphabets like s, sh, c, ch. pl guide
Name:
M_D
Country: england
i am 15 yrs old and i have a recurring stammer, how can i get this under control or stop it all together?
Name:
mil
Country: india
can i get a telephone # to dr ajit harisinghani at pune, india
very distressed
Name:
Aniket
Country: india
i had undertaken the tongue freeing minor surgery at pune around 10 years back with your advise during my visit to pune . there was no significant improvement after that. i have the realisation after going thru your several articles and that yoga & medidation may help in a long way .
pl help me in getting related help on net so that i may put efforts towards the same.
kindly reply to the following id " saurabh.akhauri@t elcon.co.in
re gards,
Name:
adhi
Country: india
it is good
Name:
darren
Country: england
i have had my stammer since i was a young boy. it was bad at school.so my parents sent me to a speech therapist.i went on weekly courses,which learnt me to speak slowly and not to rush when speaking.i dont stammer as much now only when im nervous,im 34 years old.i have three daughters,my second daughter seems to stammer slightly she is 4 years old.i will continue to monitor her and if it seems to get any worse i will take her to see a speech thearpist. my parents cant seem to workout when i actually started satmmering,but my auntie says it started when my grandfather died when i was about 6 or 7 years old
Name:
krista
Country: usa
any help that anyone knows of for helping your child at home? my son is 3 years old, and it seems his studdering is getting worse not better...
Name:
Stutteringboy
Country: india
hi,
does anyone have experience about dr. ajit harisinghani's therapy ? . is it good or just another lie?
Name:
D.L.
Country: singapore
i had been stuttering since primary school. i don't know how it started. sometimes in the night, i can suddenly speak very fluently, without any stutters.sometimes,even when i am not nervous, i also stutters.i have always been laughed at for being a stutterer.i really do not know how to cure my stuttering, if anyone of you know any cure for stuttering, please tell me, i will be wery grateful to you.
Name:
sangita
Country: india
my 4 year old son has stammering from the past 6-8 months. he speaks 4 languages and is very fluent in 2 of them. he speaks ot me in one language and his paternal grandmother in another. his grandfather (to whome he was very attached) passed away 6 months back. could this be the reason for his stammer? or is the thinking process of converting languages too much for him. please hep a very worried mother
Name:
Sally
Country: united kingdom
i look after a little boy of 4 who stutters. i so want to help him. could any one give me any advice
Name:
Edinah
Country: zimbabwe
help my 3 yr old daughter is stammering and it seems to be geting worse. she is a bright little girl. her 5 yr old brother is perfectly fine. please help me. edinahm@icaz.org.zw