There are many situations where parents lose patience and it is difficult for them to avoid hitting or yelling. However, these ways can only hamper the development of children. Have a quick look at few constructive ways to discipline children without hitting or yelling at them.Parents play a vital role in developing their children. So, it becomes necessary for the parents to pay keen attention on the behaviour of their children and bring them up in a disciplined way.
Why Do Parents Hit or Yell at Their Children?
It is a well known fact that parents always
shout at their children only for correcting their behaviour and making them disciplined. Sometimes, it is to be noted that many parents do not shout at their children or hit their children initially. They would try to enforce good behaviour or discipline in a very polite way. They would try to teach them in a very calm way several times even. But, when the children do not listen to their advice even after repeating several times, they would become angry, out of which they would yell at their children or hit them.
Handling Children without Hitting or Yelling
Mostly the toddlers do lot of mischievous activities and do not listen to the advices of their parents. Even a few children above the age of toddlers also have the same behaviour. In order to
discipline such children, it is good for the parents to divert the children on some other interesting tasks when they do some mistakes. Sometimes, when the parents emphasize that they do not like their behaviour also, such children would not repeat the mistakes in order to draw the love and affection of their parents.
Enforcing Discipline at the Initial Stages of Child Development
Many parents who get angry try to discipline their children by being very lenient or lovable to their children until they get angry. Instead, the parents should try to know the limits of their patience and try to enforce certain rules on their children and correct their behaviour within the time they get angry. This can be done by enforcing certain positive rules to the children such as allowing them to play after finishing their homework, allowing them to use internet or watch television after completing their studies, allowing them to eat chocolates after eating some fruits or vegetables, etc.
Parents should also take care to give small
punishments to their children such as not allowing the children to perform the tasks liked by their children for a day or two when the required task is not done by them. It should be taken care that they relax the punishment after a day or two, allowing the children to think about what is right and what is wrong and correct their behaviour in order to win their parents’ love and affection.
Impact of Hitting or Yelling at the Children in Public
When parents hit or yell at their children for disciplining their children, it may create negative impact or frustration to them or the children may become very aggressive in future. In spite of this, it is still worse to yell or
hit the children in front of other children, relatives or in public. This would even spoil their entire future.
Matured Approach to Discipline Children without Yelling or Hitting
One of the matured approaches recommended by psychologists and doctors for disciplining the children, especially the teenagers, without hitting or yelling would be to talk to them and explain them on how to handle things or how to follow
self-discipline when they make mistakes. When parents teach them with patience and love, the children would definitely understand their mistakes and try to correct themselves gradually. Even if they make mistakes again and again, it is better to remind them and emphasize the same very strongly again and again.
Another matured approach would be to praise the child for the good deeds and leave the mistakes unnoticed for sometime so that the child understands what is required to be done to receive the affection of everyone and what is not to be done.
Approaching a problem in a positive way would definitely solve the problem in due course. It is the same in case of parenting also. So, it is always advisable to follow a balanced approach in order to discipline the children.
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