Hi Everyone!

Almost each one of us on this thread has lost a baby either due to miscarriage or still birth or health issues.I was only 10 weeks when I had a missed abortion and I thought it was the end of the world.SO I can only imagine what each one of you must have gone through after a still birth or having a miscarriage when you were further along or having to make the decision of aborting your baby.Its something neither of us is going to forget.Its always going to be a part of us and has changed us forever.But like K Radha said,try to built happy memories and that will help us with our wound healing.I am going to risk being considered insensitive but I have to say this ' If you have a wound and you keep messing with it,it leaves a scar behind.However,if you apply an ointment on it,not only does it heal well but also doesn' t leave a scar behind' .So instead of thinking about your loss and the sadness,try to think about how wonderful it felt to be pregnant.How wonderful it felt to have a dream.Especially now that we are TTC.Lets us all try to be positive.Trust me,I know it is hard because you cannot help wondering what if........But instead of that lets think about a positive ending.Like Dr.Wayne Dyer says \" THINK FROM THE END\" He believes that is you think from the end,it will happen.So my dear friends,please think of a positive end.Think about that beautiful baby who will be playing in your arms soon.Think about that healthy baby who will drive you nuts.Think about the wonderful moments you will share with your baby.Try not to wonder what if...........Think Positive and we will have positive results.I know of atleast a few women who have had healthy babies after a loss.So I don' t see why all of us shouldn' t.So my dear friends,THINK ABOUT THE BEAUTIFUL,HEALTHY BABY IN YOUR ARMS.May God Bless all of us with a healthy baby soon.

Good Luck to Everyone!

Take care and keep in touch! sudha replied. hi miss positive( it would have been very nice if we could call you by your real name)
i agree with you that revisiting the painful memories to bring in unpleasent memories.i dont have anything of Rishona as i had not seen her .the only pics of her i have is that of an usg and my pic when i was about 28 weeks ,u know after almost 8 mnths ( today she turns extly 8 mnths)yesterday i picked out the calender where i had marked all her dev through out the 34weeks and i had put a cross on 4th nov ..... it has everything my lmp to my due date...when her eyes were dev ...when she 1st responded to my voice ...when she 1st identified her fathers touch it was heart rending but i didnt cry because Rishona wouldnt like her mama crying she knows mama is strong as she was her little angel
she is like a little lost poem who will be in my heart forever .i wish all of you pray her soul rests in peace and love .
love hugs and blessings
sudha