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Name: divya

recently my family decided that the sacred thread ceremony,also known as upanayanam would be held for my twin brother, raghav.mom and me decided that it had to be a proper and traditional ceremony,and all the rituals had to be conducted thoroughly,including the headshave(full bald except a tuft of hair known locally as kudimi),ear boring of the boy,begging for alms and the whole lot of rituals which last for 2 whole days.

i have some queries regarding raghav' s headshave and some miscellaneous doubts,could anyone please help me,


first of all,can the headshave be done in a saloon or is it necessary that it has to be done in a temple?also is a one time headshave enough or should it be done regularly?

then,for what duration should we make him wear the earrings and any restrictions on the make of earrings etc?

what should he wear during the ceremony?(i have seen many boys wearing only loincloth during the ceremony,so should it be that?)

being his twin sister(though i am elder) what is my role in the ceremony?

what if raghav hesitates or refuses to undergo the rituals?,should we force the rituals on him?(me being stronger,he obeys me)

since last month we have banned non veg items for raghav(including egg) ,is there anything more we have to do ? and me being a hard core non veg eater,i feel bad for raghav!

can the ear piercing be done before the headshave or is there any specific order?

how long must ragahavs hair be,so that after the headshave,the length of kudimi is correct?

i would like to make raghav wear some jewelleries,what do you think?

thank you

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