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hii friends,
on account of my brother' s sacred thread ceremony he has to pierce his ears and shave his head.but my mother had a vow to shave my brother' s head before the ceremony so he had to grow his hair.as he has to pierce his ears during ceremony i insisted mom to pierce my brother' s ears even before ceremony and as he already has long hair we can dress him as a lady.(check my topic on discussion board dated 17th may)
everything was alright till then,we dressed him as a lady and we enjoyed it.he wasnt so interested in it.as our close relative passed away we postponed the ceremony for one year.we left his pierced ears open so that his holes get closed before his schools reopen.we went to tirupathi and offered his hair to god.everything was fine until then.few days later,mom and i went out for shopping but i returned back in half an hour and mom was still shopping.when i came home i stared from a window into our bedroom and found my brother wearing my clothes.he was applying eye liners to his eyes by the time i saw him.then i realised the reason why my inner wear were getting loose in the past days.he kept a hair band to pull his short hair back.he wore bangles,nail polish,lip stick and he was very girlish.he found some noise out and quickly removed everything.he took some time to wash everything and then opened the door.he couldnt get rid of nail polish and eye liners.i acted as if i saw nothing.he washed eyeliners and nail polish bit later(when i saw him half an hour later he was clean).
i came to know he had been dressing in this manner from many days as i can find my belongings loose and used.he put on some ear rings in his ears while he was dressing like a lady thats why holes in his ears arent filled even after these days.i was the one who forced him to dress like a lady before.i was so determined to transform him that i even pierced his ears even before the ceremony.but now he is dressing like a lady without our knowledge.i am the only reason for his cross dressing.is his behaviour abnormal?? i cant forgive myself if this leads to anything worse?
what should i do to deal with this?? i hesitated to say him that i know about his cross dressing because this may discomfort him and may leave us more distant to each other.he may feel shy to talk with me later.if i say this to me she will definitely find guilty with me which i cant bear right now.please give me a suggestion,is it right what he is doing or is he going into a transgender path?
akshaya replied. dear saiprasuna
it was NOT your ' fault' ,feminising a boy is not uncommon,and we girls like to the soft side of our brothers,so nothing wrong in ear piercing him or making him wear dresses.many boys have a fantasy of dressing like a girl,that is because they hav not experienced it.so tell your mother.the solution is to feminise him completely,all jewelry,hair,clothes make up et al.after some time (6 months) or so he ll get bored,and want to revert back to being a boy,so problem solved and also you can have fun feminising him after all which sister doesnt?