i recently had a baby loss due to meuconium aspiration. would like to know after how many months can i conceive again....my gynaec told me take folic acid from 2 month u would be ready after 4 months... i also got cycles 3 times at regular time period .....


pl help[ K.Radha replied. Hi Siya,

I am very sorry to hear of your loss but you have come to a wonderful forum with many women who' ve all been in your place. A lot of women want to conceive again as quickly as possible after a loss, it is a normal reaction and a feel that seems to be very strong in most women. Many see a new pregnancy as a way to heal from their loss.

There are a lot of things to consider when trying again, primarily your physical condition. Doctors advise that you allow a minimum of three cycles break after both early and late pregnancy loss, and at least 6 if you have delivered by c-section. Next there are some emotional considerations.

* Have you had a chance to work through your grief?
*Have you considered how you will cope should such a loss occur again?
Are you really ready to deal with the stress and anxiety of another pregnancy?
*How will you cope if you have fertility issues? (quite a common concern after a loss)
*Do you really want another baby or do you want the baby you lost?
These are the questions any good health professional will ask you before giving you the go ahead.

There are some good reasons to wait before trying again. Waiting allows you to work through your emotions regarding a loss, the initial feelings one feels when their baby dies are rarely the worst. So many report that upon reaching the three month mark their feelings have intensified due to a combination of the shock wearing off and having time to fully comprehend the true situation. Waiting allows you to make the most of the support your friends and family will give, often when you announce you' re expecting again people are often less supportive regarding your loss or disregard it all together.

Allowing your body a 6 month break has been proven to be highly beneficial. Stdies show that women who' ve had a full term or near term baby & conceive in less than 6 months are more likely to have a premmie or underweight baby, plus they' re also at a higher risk of another loss.

Conceiving again soon also has its benefits. It can give you something to focus on and look forward to. There will be less time to dwell on infertility issues and further losses. If you or your partner are in an older age bracket time may not be on your side so waiting isnt an option.

Any woman in your postion needs to have a long heart to heart conversation with their partner discussing both of your feelings and needs. Between you both you need to decide on a time that suits you both, not just one, because you in the same place emotionally, the much needed support of a spouse is worth much more than anyone else can provide.

Ultimately when you are ready is something that you might know immediately or it may take some time to know when you' re ready. But you will know. For myself there were days my heart broke at the thought of waiting and other days I was terrified beyond belief at the thought of another loss and while these emotions contradicted ach other they were very normal and very common.

Just remember that future pregnanies will be a highly emotional time for you. It is a very painful process but one that is also filled with joy. The blissful ignorance is gone, you' re no longer naieve or unaware of the sadder side of pregnancy and may find yourself worrying about everything. I sincerely wish you all the best is coming to a decision as to when you will try again and wish you ALL the best in your future pregnancies.