Hi,
Really I need moral support.At this momment I hve no hope for life.I don' t know why all this happened in my life.Problems has started with my marriage.We lost my younger sister, Father-in-law,sister-in-laws daughter after a few hours of our marriage in an accident.My husband,myself,My MIL,SIL,and her son was injured very badly.By God' s grace we are fine now.I have a guilty feeling that they died just because of my marriage.My husband was a nice person.He was supportive some times.He don' t like my parents because of some misunderstandings between his and my parents.But he never restricted me going to them.We got married in june 04 and never been together till may 05.After that I stayed with his mother who was badly injured and my husband used to come every weekend.I was shocked when my Mil asked me if I am using any means for not to be pregnant.I felt bad but I understood her feeling.I was really shocked when my husband asked me the same thing.I never expected this from him.It was because of his weekend trips.luckily I conceived in Aug 05 and delivered a baby girl in may06.During first few weekd of mypregnancy there was no mental peace for me.My MIL and my husband used to pinch my heart everytime that I am not eating well,I don' t care for my baby something like that.Because of vomiting i couldn' t eat well.Later on from 4th month he was well with me.Actually he is very caring.But when something related to my parents comes in my life he completely changes.Now again I have conceived in Oct06.But I had a miscarriage in my 27th week.That was a baby boy.Actually I had a spotting in my 12th week and doctor suggested me bedrest.Since it is not possible to stay in bedrest MIls house with my 8 months old baby I came to my mother' s house took rest and went back.After that everything was fine.After 2 months i.e in my 5th month again I came to see my parents.my misfortune follows me everywhere.I had amniotic fluid loss but when I was scanned Doctor told me to be in bedrest and luckily there is enough fluid inside and baby' s growth is fine.I was in bed rest from then but no mental peace.Daily tensions.My husband wanted me to come back to him and I was not in a condition to go.He scolded me for going and stopped speaking with me.That was very painful to me.That was the time I really needed his supportand he left me alone.My parents are there to give me moral support.Still I was very badly missing him.Suddenly in my 27th week I had abdominal pain and had normal delivery.That was baby boy.He din' t survive.Just 10 days back all this happened.According to my doctor she told me that It was better i delivered in 7th month.In 9th month if I was to deliver that would have become a threat to my life too since I had severe internal bleeding and the result would be the same.Since baby' s lower body was formed completely with blood clots which I had in my third month.But I donno why doctor' s could not diagnosis this in scanning.They thing was normal.Now my husband is pointing me that everything bad is happening to him just because of me.He said to me directly that misfortune entered his life with me.I know he has that feeling but never expressed to me directly.may be in depression he might have expressed this.First of all I am in depression for my child loss but somehope I am living just seeing my daughter(11 months old).i love her very much.I love him too.But after listening this from him I just want to give up my life.Why all this is happening to me?One tragedy after the other.I know my parents are also upset with me.They lost their daughter after my marriage.All ways tensions with me and my husband and MIL.Now this loss.But they never expressed to me.After all they are parents.They love me.But after experiencing all this I started hating myself.Just because of me so many people are in trouble.I just want to die.Only one emotion is stopping me my little daughter.If I am not there who will take care of her.So many are there my parents,her father.But will they be able to replace my place.I am in confusion.i posted this because I am feeling alone and I need somebody to share my feelings.Actually I want to share everything with my husband but he is not of that kind.That is also my misfortune.But I love him v ery much.Really i am getting mad with all these thoughts.Doctor adviced me to take rest for a month.But my husband wants me to come back immediately.My parents don' t want to send me in this condition.But I have decided to go.But i donno how they receive me.Please help me.
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Hi,
Really I need moral support.At this momment I hve no hope for life.I don' t know why all this happened in my life.Problems has started with my marriage.We lost my younger sister, Father-in-law,sister-in-laws daughter after a few hours of our marriage in an accident.My husband,myself,My MIL,SIL,and her son was injured very badly.By God' s grace we are fine now.I have a guilty feeling that they died just because of my marriage.My husband was a nice person.He was supportive some times.He don' t like my parents because of some misunderstandings between his and my parents.But he never restricted me going to them.We got married in june 04 and never been together till may 05.After that I stayed with his mother who was badly injured and my husband used to come every weekend.I was shocked when my Mil asked me if I am using any means for not to be pregnant.I felt bad but I understood her feeling.I was really shocked when my husband asked me the same thing.I never expected this from him.It was because of his weekend trips.luckily I conceived in Aug 05 and delivered a baby girl in may06.During first few weekd of mypregnancy there was no mental peace for me.My MIL and my husband used to pinch my heart everytime that I am not eating well,I don' t care for my baby something like that.Because of vomiting i couldn' t eat well.Later on from 4th month he was well with me.Actually he is very caring.But when something related to my parents comes in my life he completely changes.Now again I have conceived in Oct06.But I had a miscarriage in my 27th week.That was a baby boy.Actually I had a spotting in my 12th week and doctor suggested me bedrest.Since it is not possible to stay in bedrest MIls house with my 8 months old baby I came to my mother' s house took rest and went back.After that everything was fine.After 2 months i.e in my 5th month again I came to see my parents.my misfortune follows me everywhere.I had amniotic fluid loss but when I was scanned Doctor told me to be in bedrest and luckily there is enough fluid inside and baby' s growth is fine.I was in bed rest from then but no mental peace.Daily tensions.My husband wanted me to come back to him and I was not in a condition to go.He scolded me for going and stopped speaking with me.That was very painful to me.That was the time I really needed his supportand he left me alone.My parents are there to give me moral support.Still I was very badly missing him.Suddenly in my 27th week I had abdominal pain and had normal delivery.That was baby boy.He din' t survive.Just 10 days back all this happened.According to my doctor she told me that It was better i delivered in 7th month.In 9th month if I was to deliver that would have become a threat to my life too since I had severe internal bleeding and the result would be the same.Since baby' s lower body was formed completely with blood clots which I had in my third month.But I donno why doctor' s could not diagnosis this in scanning.They thing was normal.Now my husband is pointing me that everything bad is happening to him just because of me.He said to me directly that misfortune entered his life with me.I know he has that feeling but never expressed to me directly.may be in depression he might have expressed this.First of all I am in depression for my child loss but somehope I am living just seeing my daughter(11 months old).i love her very much.I love him too.But after listening this from him I just want to give up my life.Why all this is happening to me?One tragedy after the other.I know my parents are also upset with me.They lost their daughter after my marriage.All ways tensions with me and my husband and MIL.Now this loss.But they never expressed to me.After all they are parents.They love me.But after experiencing all this I started hating myself.Just because of me so many people are in trouble.I just want to die.Only one emotion is stopping me my little daughter.If I am not there who will take care of her.So many are there my parents,her father.But will they be able to replace my place.I am in confusion.i posted this because I am feeling alone and I need somebody to share my feelings.Actually I want to share everything with my husband but he is not of that kind.That is also my misfortune.But I love him v ery much.Really i am getting mad with all these thoughts.Doctor adviced me to take rest for a month.But my husband wants me to come back immediately.My parents don' t want to send me in this condition.But I have decided to go.But i donno how they receive me.Please help me.
sharadha replied. Hi sireesha,
when I read your mail, I was totally taken aback. I felt really sorry for u. What you have went thro' is something really pathetic and agonising. But when I saw you were a B.tech student my Opinion on you was mixed, one way I was looking high on you on your qualification and then i felt how can a well educated girllike this let herself to think about ending life and so on..
YOU ARE A MOTHER NOW. Look at your daughter' s face and think. Does she have to pay for all these things? No one in this life can live without mom' s love. Iam mom too with a toddler. I can understand how You will want to enjoy your 11 month old cutie' s smile, crawl, trying to walk etc... whenever your mil and or your husband upset you such stupid thought pop up in your mind. Is it like that?
I just want to tell you that YOU DON' T VOLUTARILY ACCEPT BLAMES FOR THESE MISFORTUNES. Self-pity will psyche us out and will make us mentally ill.
Your Mother in law has lost her husband and grandchild and she sure will be sad and upset. Some People when they are angry and upset they unreasonable target hapless people and you became victim of these harsh comments and stuff. YOU DON\" T HAVE TO REALLY CARE ABOUT THIS.
THink positive and productive now. People who suffer in their lives have two options One.. either succumb to these pressures and spoil thier lives and the lives of thier lovable kids or Two.. COMPLETELY IGNORE THESE THINGS AND CONCENTRATE ONLY ON THIER KIDS.
As you are a well qualified girl I wish and want you to take option no two.
Personally I' ll tell you one thing. My mom is a wonderful lady in this whole world. I can hapily and proudly say this because her life was not a cake walk. She suffered terribly in her marriage life and after my two brothers were born she lost her third son exclusively due to her mothers in laws torture. believe it not she was hit with a thing we call in tamil \" atukal\" a substitute for grinder, and her abortion was a very painful thing. After some years I was born.
I have always seen my mother' s eyes filled with tears but I could not understand things in those age. My mom one day thought about ending her life but that night she had a dream where god spoke with her and asked her not to do such thing. From that day My mom always said prayers and no matter how much her inlaws tortured she never had such ideas. Now after 25 years we are all engineers and Doctor. We don' t come from finacially strong family or with morally supportive family members, but only reason for our success is my mom' s dedication and prayers.She stood alone with us in all stages of our life. My father is good to us but he has never understood my mom. He has not done anything to make her happy. Now we can get anything our mom wishes though she is least intereseted.
Iam telling my personal storu to you simply to tell you that don' t think you are the only soul suffering from such things. So many have suffered even worse than yours. I cannot imagine my life today if my mom has not stayed alive that day. Especially as a girl I specially tell you PLEASE THINK ONLY ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER' s life only.
\" AMMA\" is the only being she will need more than anything in this world. Don' t let her loose that invaluble possesion.
Trust and believe in prayers,and one day your husband will truly start loving you. ITS a promise. My prayers and best wishes for your happy life.
RGDS
sharadha
nisha replied. Dear sireesha
I feel sorry that u had gone through the most bad experinces in ur life and it was so pathetic.This is the most appropriate time that u should be positive,confident, bold enough and u must gather courage to ditch all these problems. I know its v.easy to say but hard to follow.see every one has their own problems and difficulties and is this the solution to end life to get rid off from all these difficulties then there would be no one in this whole world.There were so many people in this world who were facing the worst situations than u and us.u compare with those ones and think that i m in a better position.Atleast u have got nice parents to support u and have a v.cute daughter.u should feel v.happy for this.Life is like that and every thing is not in our hands.u just focus and contemplate on ur daughter.May good times come for u.
ps replied. Dear Sireesha,
I read your mail and empathise with your feelings.See life is full of ups and downs, every one has some difficulties in life, it does not mean u should give up ur life.
U were saying in ur mail that if any one can replace ur place for ur daughter \" NO NO NO, NO ONE CAN TAKE UR PLACE. \" By gods grace u have beautiful daughter and ur responsibility is 2 tk cr of her and show her the right way.
Now this is the time u should see positive side of ur life.To be storng there is no need 2 see anybody less look at ur mother hw strong she is ., she lost her grown up daughter and she is supporting u with ur problems .Just see her u will get great inspiration from her.Just rememder after every sunset there is a sunrise .
Take care of daughter and every thing will b alright.
Just dont think much on what ur MIL and husband says .Constrate on ur daughter, dont disappoint her.
Believe in urself, learn to love urself, face life with courage and focus on the positive things in your life.Dont worry.
Take care
padma
K.Radha replied. Dearest Sireesha,
I am sorry to read about the loss of your son. It can' t have been easy going through that however I won' t dwell to heavily on that as it seems from your post that this loss is not why you' re here. I have no idea where to begin, you are dealing with a lot of drama at the moment and life sure seems hard for you... My first thought is to say that you need to put aside your ideas of harming yourself.
You don' t want to kill yourself, you know that you don' t! If I were to ask you right now how you planned to end your life I don' t think you would have an answer. You' ve said your daughter is the reason why you have not killed yourself that in itself should alert you to the fact that you don' t have any intentions of self harm. What you want is to have someone give you a reason to believe your life is worth while... And after all of these accusation who wouldn' t need someone to remind them of what a great person they really are?
To have people tell you that you are a source of misfortune must be very upsetting but you can not allow yourself to buy into others stupidity. JJ was right in telling you that life & death is out of your hands and it was a matter of unfortunate timing but nothing more than a sad coincidance.
Your husband sounds like a childish man saying you have brought misfortune to others and himself. Life is what we make of it and it doesn' t sound like he has tried very hard to make a life with you and as such he has no right to blame you for anything in his life. You are hardly even a part of his life, your family still support you because he won' t do the right thing. How can you be responsible for his problems? As for the lives of others it is not his place to say anything. Forget his words and ignore the accusations from your in-laws, they seem to be small minded people who are FAR beneath you!
I do not know you personally but it is very obvious that you' ve endured some harsh emotional upsets and a terrible loss but you' re still here and for that to happen you have to be a pretty good person inside... I don' t think anyone here will think otherwise. I think your doc was giving good advice suggesting you take a month to rest before going back to your husband. I think you should listen to your doc but that is my opinion and this is your life.
You have a lovely daughter who you cherish and perhaps you should invest yourself in her emotionally rather than putting all your feelings into a man who cleary doesn' t care about you or your needs. I wish you well in your decision to be with him and hope that he will change otherwise you can do little else but realise that this is the life you have chosen and accept it. All the best and may things improve for you.
Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change
courage to change the things I can
and wisdom to know the difference.
JJ replied. Dear Sireesha,
I read your mail and empathise with your feelings. Indeed, its unfortunate that you are going through a bad phase of life. But remmber that God tests only those close to him. You are close to Him. Have faith in GOd. Sometimes, we only think about our misfortunes, we dont focus on the positive things in life. I am sorry to hear abt ur childloss and also the death of your beloved ones. But please remmber, that death and life is not in your hands. These things are controlled by a higher power than mere mortals. It was just a coincidence dat the accident happend around the same time as ur marriage.
The minute the doctor advised bedrest in ur second pregnancy, aftr sharing it with ur mil and husband, you shud have gone to ur parents place to rest.
Anyways, if the baby was already having clots, then, like the doc said, its better the ways things happend. Imagine if you had delivered and the child was in pain or having probs, then, it wud have been difficult for u to handle. Also ur mil and husband would have blamed you for the abnormality of the child. So, its better this way. watever happens, happns for ones own good. Please remmebr this. Face life with courage and hope.
Every1 encounters obstacles in life - the only difference is dat some ppl face less obstacles and some more.
Overcome the obstacles in our life with courage, faith in God and hope.
Look at things in positive light and take things positively. Dont think too much abt the misfortunes in your life. U are just wasting your life thinking abt the unfortunate incidents. there is more to life than that. Learn to love yourself and njoy life.
You have a pretty and beautiful daughtr. Giv her all your love.
Ending your life is very easy..Its a nice way to escape all the problems. But if u do that, who will look aftr ur daughtr? what is the assurity that some day she will not be treated like you? thn, who will b her support? who will understand her?
Live for your daughter. Make her into a nice human being. Teach her to face life with courage and to have faith in herself. To teach her all this, you must start practising - right now, from the minute u read my reply.
Believe in urslef, learn to love urself, face lif with courage and focus on the positive things in your life. Everything will change for the bettr. Dont worry.
Live for your daughter. She is depending on you to show her the right way of life. Dont disappoint her.
Take care,
Jaya
2007-09-26
#1
Name: sharadha Subject: Hello
Hi sireesha,
when I read your mail, I was totally taken aback. I felt really sorry for u. What you have went thro' is something really pathetic and agonising. But when I saw you were a B.tech student my Opinion on you was mixed, one way I was looking high on you on your qualification and then i felt how can a well educated girllike this let herself to think about ending life and so on..
YOU ARE A MOTHER NOW. Look at your daughter' s face and think. Does she have to pay for all these things? No one in this life can live without mom' s love. Iam mom too with a toddler. I can understand how You will want to enjoy your 11 month old cutie' s smile, crawl, trying to walk etc... whenever your mil and or your husband upset you such stupid thought pop up in your mind. Is it like that?
I just want to tell you that YOU DON' T VOLUTARILY ACCEPT BLAMES FOR THESE MISFORTUNES. Self-pity will psyche us out and will make us mentally ill.
Your Mother in law has lost her husband and grandchild and she sure will be sad and upset. Some People when they are angry and upset they unreasonable target hapless people and you became victim of these harsh comments and stuff. YOU DON\" T HAVE TO REALLY CARE ABOUT THIS.
THink positive and productive now. People who suffer in their lives have two options One.. either succumb to these pressures and spoil thier lives and the lives of thier lovable kids or Two.. COMPLETELY IGNORE THESE THINGS AND CONCENTRATE ONLY ON THIER KIDS.
As you are a well qualified girl I wish and want you to take option no two.
Personally I' ll tell you one thing. My mom is a wonderful lady in this whole world. I can hapily and proudly say this because her life was not a cake walk. She suffered terribly in her marriage life and after my two brothers were born she lost her third son exclusively due to her mothers in laws torture. believe it not she was hit with a thing we call in tamil \" atukal\" a substitute for grinder, and her abortion was a very painful thing. After some years I was born.
I have always seen my mother' s eyes filled with tears but I could not understand things in those age. My mom one day thought about ending her life but that night she had a dream where god spoke with her and asked her not to do such thing. From that day My mom always said prayers and no matter how much her inlaws tortured she never had such ideas. Now after 25 years we are all engineers and Doctor. We don' t come from finacially strong family or with morally supportive family members, but only reason for our success is my mom' s dedication and prayers.She stood alone with us in all stages of our life. My father is good to us but he has never understood my mom. He has not done anything to make her happy. Now we can get anything our mom wishes though she is least intereseted.
Iam telling my personal storu to you simply to tell you that don' t think you are the only soul suffering from such things. So many have suffered even worse than yours. I cannot imagine my life today if my mom has not stayed alive that day. Especially as a girl I specially tell you PLEASE THINK ONLY ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER' s life only.
\" AMMA\" is the only being she will need more than anything in this world. Don' t let her loose that invaluble possesion.
Trust and believe in prayers,and one day your husband will truly start loving you. ITS a promise. My prayers and best wishes for your happy life.
RGDS
sharadha
2007-04-27
#2
Name: nisha Subject: be strong enough
Dear sireesha
I feel sorry that u had gone through the most bad experinces in ur life and it was so pathetic.This is the most appropriate time that u should be positive,confident, bold enough and u must gather courage to ditch all these problems. I know its v.easy to say but hard to follow.see every one has their own problems and difficulties and is this the solution to end life to get rid off from all these difficulties then there would be no one in this whole world.There were so many people in this world who were facing the worst situations than u and us.u compare with those ones and think that i m in a better position.Atleast u have got nice parents to support u and have a v.cute daughter.u should feel v.happy for this.Life is like that and every thing is not in our hands.u just focus and contemplate on ur daughter.May good times come for u.
2007-04-27
#3
Name: ps Subject: change ur mind
Dear Sireesha,
I read your mail and empathise with your feelings.See life is full of ups and downs, every one has some difficulties in life, it does not mean u should give up ur life.
U were saying in ur mail that if any one can replace ur place for ur daughter \" NO NO NO, NO ONE CAN TAKE UR PLACE. \" By gods grace u have beautiful daughter and ur responsibility is 2 tk cr of her and show her the right way.
Now this is the time u should see positive side of ur life.To be storng there is no need 2 see anybody less look at ur mother hw strong she is ., she lost her grown up daughter and she is supporting u with ur problems .Just see her u will get great inspiration from her.Just rememder after every sunset there is a sunrise .
Take care of daughter and every thing will b alright.
Just dont think much on what ur MIL and husband says .Constrate on ur daughter, dont disappoint her.
Believe in urself, learn to love urself, face life with courage and focus on the positive things in your life.Dont worry.
Take care
padma
2007-04-27
#4
Name: K.Radha Subject: be strong
Dearest Sireesha,
I am sorry to read about the loss of your son. It can' t have been easy going through that however I won' t dwell to heavily on that as it seems from your post that this loss is not why you' re here. I have no idea where to begin, you are dealing with a lot of drama at the moment and life sure seems hard for you... My first thought is to say that you need to put aside your ideas of harming yourself.
You don' t want to kill yourself, you know that you don' t! If I were to ask you right now how you planned to end your life I don' t think you would have an answer. You' ve said your daughter is the reason why you have not killed yourself that in itself should alert you to the fact that you don' t have any intentions of self harm. What you want is to have someone give you a reason to believe your life is worth while... And after all of these accusation who wouldn' t need someone to remind them of what a great person they really are?
To have people tell you that you are a source of misfortune must be very upsetting but you can not allow yourself to buy into others stupidity. JJ was right in telling you that life & death is out of your hands and it was a matter of unfortunate timing but nothing more than a sad coincidance.
Your husband sounds like a childish man saying you have brought misfortune to others and himself. Life is what we make of it and it doesn' t sound like he has tried very hard to make a life with you and as such he has no right to blame you for anything in his life. You are hardly even a part of his life, your family still support you because he won' t do the right thing. How can you be responsible for his problems? As for the lives of others it is not his place to say anything. Forget his words and ignore the accusations from your in-laws, they seem to be small minded people who are FAR beneath you!
I do not know you personally but it is very obvious that you' ve endured some harsh emotional upsets and a terrible loss but you' re still here and for that to happen you have to be a pretty good person inside... I don' t think anyone here will think otherwise. I think your doc was giving good advice suggesting you take a month to rest before going back to your husband. I think you should listen to your doc but that is my opinion and this is your life.
You have a lovely daughter who you cherish and perhaps you should invest yourself in her emotionally rather than putting all your feelings into a man who cleary doesn' t care about you or your needs. I wish you well in your decision to be with him and hope that he will change otherwise you can do little else but realise that this is the life you have chosen and accept it. All the best and may things improve for you.
Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change
courage to change the things I can
and wisdom to know the difference.
2007-05-15
#5
Name: sirisha Subject: hi radha and all
dear friends,
I came back to my in-laws place.No problem with my Mil and Sil.They are nice with me.But my husband he is behaving as if I have no importance in his life and in his house.I came to him almost 20days back but he never asked cared about my health.He always wants me to work.For that I am not feeling bad.He comes to me only during nights, that too only for that 15 to 20 min.Totally I am losing interest in him.I am just taking care of my child.i am enjoying with her.I never tried to discuss anything with him.Am i doing correct.he shares everything with his mother n sister but he never bothers about me.Sometimes i am feeling very aloof.What to do?
2007-04-27
#6
Name: JJ Subject: Have faith in God
Dear Sireesha,
I read your mail and empathise with your feelings. Indeed, its unfortunate that you are going through a bad phase of life. But remmber that God tests only those close to him. You are close to Him. Have faith in GOd. Sometimes, we only think about our misfortunes, we dont focus on the positive things in life. I am sorry to hear abt ur childloss and also the death of your beloved ones. But please remmber, that death and life is not in your hands. These things are controlled by a higher power than mere mortals. It was just a coincidence dat the accident happend around the same time as ur marriage.
The minute the doctor advised bedrest in ur second pregnancy, aftr sharing it with ur mil and husband, you shud have gone to ur parents place to rest.
Anyways, if the baby was already having clots, then, like the doc said, its better the ways things happend. Imagine if you had delivered and the child was in pain or having probs, then, it wud have been difficult for u to handle. Also ur mil and husband would have blamed you for the abnormality of the child. So, its better this way. watever happens, happns for ones own good. Please remmebr this. Face life with courage and hope.
Every1 encounters obstacles in life - the only difference is dat some ppl face less obstacles and some more.
Overcome the obstacles in our life with courage, faith in God and hope.
Look at things in positive light and take things positively. Dont think too much abt the misfortunes in your life. U are just wasting your life thinking abt the unfortunate incidents. there is more to life than that. Learn to love yourself and njoy life.
You have a pretty and beautiful daughtr. Giv her all your love.
Ending your life is very easy..Its a nice way to escape all the problems. But if u do that, who will look aftr ur daughtr? what is the assurity that some day she will not be treated like you? thn, who will b her support? who will understand her?
Live for your daughter. Make her into a nice human being. Teach her to face life with courage and to have faith in herself. To teach her all this, you must start practising - right now, from the minute u read my reply.
Believe in urslef, learn to love urself, face lif with courage and focus on the positive things in your life. Everything will change for the bettr. Dont worry.
Live for your daughter. She is depending on you to show her the right way of life. Dont disappoint her.
Take care,
Jaya
2007-04-27
#7
Name: Sireesha Subject: Thanku JJ
Dear Jaya,
You are right whatever happens in our life we should look at it in an optimistic way.Before my marraige I was like that only.All my friends used to come to me for support.But with my marriage everything has changed.I think I myself has changed totally.May be it is because what everbad takes place in my house my husband points at me.He simply say it is because of my iron leg or hand.Though I think I shuld not take his words to heart but I do take.Because I love him very much and I want the same from him.I am going back to him with a positive perspective of life.What ever happens and whatever he and my MIl thinks of me I am not going to take their words to heart.I got a lovely daughter who loves me and cannot stay without me even a single day.I live for her.
Deep in my heart I have a strong feeling that financially I must be independent.But thought I am a BTECH graduate I never went for a job.But i very strongly want to be independent financially.But my husband he doesn´ t want me to go out and work.I donno what his problem is.Whenever I try to discuss with him he simply says he always wanted a good housewife who will nicely take care of his children and parents but not a women who goes out and work.So i burnt my desire inside my heart only.Even after 4yrs of my marriage life he never gave me anything except food n shelter.All mt clothing needs n all other needs my parents are looking after.But nowadays I am feeling very guilty.Even after my marriage they are bearing me.They may not feel it bad but I am feeling very very bad.My sister has to get marriage.I am praying to god atleast give a nice life partner to her and nice SIL to my parents.Since my parents don´ t have sons I am also worried about them in later years.But I beleive GOD.He will surely show a nice way to me.Till now I am dealing my husband and my MIL with very patience and I will be hoping they will surely know my value and imporatnce.Praying to god to be with me and give me courage.Thanku once again for your support jaya.
With Love,
sireesha
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Hey, there dear! Please do not worry! I am so sorry to hear about hat you are going through. I am hoping that I can is of some help to you. But you are right on what you are saying. It is very important to stay positive. The amount of positivity that you are showing is good enough to get what you have been willing to get. I am sure that you will be able to get pregnant soo... - sanakhan [View Message]
RE:Coping With a Miscarriage
Infertility is a very hard thing to hit a woman. I can't imagine what it must be like. My sister went through it. She was told that she was infertile by her doctor. Her husband was a doctor too, but besides all the knowledge they could do nothing. Then they tried going for IVF. At first they were resistant, they were double minded. But then my sister went to various fertil... - Lillian [View Message]
RE:Coping With a Miscarriage
Hello there. How are you?. I hope you are doing fine. Your questions are very valid to ask. Miscarriage is a terrible thing to happen to anyone. It is feared by every woman. My sister went through 2 miscarriages a few years back. Her husband used to be out of town a lot so i accompanied her through her doctors appointments. After her second miscarriage, her doctor told her... - Olivia [View Message]
RE:Coping With a Miscarriage
Hey! I hope you are doing well. Miscarriages are a terrible thing that can happen to a family. It is like your dream of having a child and the next moment it is all gone. There are various reasons why miscarriages happen. But I do not think that miscarriages should affect the relationship. It is the responsibility of the husband to understand that no one is at fault. If th... - Irene Camron [View Message]
RE:How to Avoid Miscarriage
Hey there. I hope you are doing alright. I hope i can guide you through this in the bets way i can. IVF means In Vitro Fertilization. This is medical procedure whereby an egg is fertilized by sperm. In a test tube or elsewhere outside the body.IVF can treat infertility in a woman. If she has problems regarding ovulation disorders, blocked or damaged Fallopian tubes etcetra... - Lillian [View Message]
RE:RE:Coping With a Miscarriage
Hey! I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Infertility is truly very painful. I can understand how your friend would be feeling. You must stay by her side forever. It is not easy but she needs your support. She must be feeling terrible. I am also infertile. I remember when I first got to know about my infertility. I could not stop blaming myself. I only felt better when... - Irene Camron [View Message]
RE:Three miscarriages in a year...
Hey Richa, hope you are doing well. I am sorry to hear about it.I know what you have gone through. Toughest period is when one is TTC.The worst part is the miscarriages and 3 of them makes it even more hard to cope with. I agree with your husband and would advice you to take a break also. Try to regain your health.Rushing into things wont solve them. Consult a specialist a... - katherine [View Message]
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