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Hello everyone, I am Gayathri from puducherry and new to this forum. I am 18yrs old and just now completed my 12th exams. For a very long time i had an interest to have my nose pierced and do double piercing on ears. I asked my mum, and she said to wait till the final school exams get over, so that the nose will get good time to heal after piercing. By her words, i waited to get my exams completed. On the evening of the final exam my mum took me to a small jewellery shop and i had my left side nose and double piercing on my ears done.

I was very happy as my long term wish got fulfilled and nose piercing looked beautiful on my face. But i never dreamt that it could attract a very bizzare side effect - shaving my head.

As i have a very long time to get into college, my aunt and grandma came home. I was happy and they too said my nose piercing looked beautiful. But they started to discuss about my headshave with my mum without my knowledge.

I have a natural straight hair running till my butts. Genetically my mum' s family have very dense hair, so i too have a very dense hair long till butts. None of mum' s familyside ladies grow their hair long due to more time in maintenance. Manytimes all have advised to cut short my hair, but i didnt.

I grew my hair spending time washing, oiling. I took care of my hair as if any boy would take care of his new bike. During my exams also i washed it once in 3 days and kept it clean and shiny. Once in a week, i soak it in oil and wash it thoroughly. I never used shampoos, all i used was natural herbal powder which my mum prepares with herbals available. When in home i always had chignon hairstyle(making a low bun standing at the back of neck). I love to have that elegant loose chignon type hairstyle.

Till yesterday evening, i never knew about my headshave plan. My aunt offered me help in combing the hair and oiling it. she massaged my head with oil and combed it for morethan 15mins and made a hair-bun of her style that stood gently at the back of the head and didnt rest on my neck. And i liked it as such.

When i asked her how to do hair-bun and asked her to re-do it on my hair to know about how to make it. she asked me why do i need to know about it, and also said It wont be of use to me even though i know it. I was astonished and asked her why ?. Fot that she replied i will be head shaved before coming sunday(3rd apr). My repeated heated questions got a very bizare reply from them. I denied my nose piercing at the age of 15. Now i have completed 18yrs and headshave should be done when nose piercing is done after crossing 18th yr of age. I cried and argued at them, but no way for me to escape. My mum is not so keen to support me. They say that with less hair i can concentrate on studies during college. My grandma and aunt are so stubborn on this. I dont know how to handle this mentally as i love my hair very much and everyone said i looked nice with long denser hair. I never cut my hair more than 0.5cms once in 2 months for avoiding split-ends and to keep all hairs at same length. for me headshave is someting i just cant digest and i am unwilling to part away with my butt length hair. Pls help me out.. Pls.. Yamini replied. Hi Person,
So you can do it but you have to be strong and try to enjoy it because when you think about this in future it will be some fun. Jai replied. Hi Lady,
So your mother and grand ma had planned your tonsure and as on till date your tonsure must have been done and also that you might have long hair again also. Gayatri replied. Hello Gayatri,
So all of sudden your head shave has been done but you need to be very strong after that moment.Because it is not done as you prepared mentally. Vasi replied. Hi Gayatri,
It is common in India that when ever piercing is done at that time tonsure will also be done.So such ceremony will be done for girl when they are kids only. Joe replied. Hi Lady,
You can do it happily and if you afraid that if some one tease you.Do not think sorrow for them you just ignore their words.I have seen some people doing at older ages also. Tanvi replied. Hi Gaytri,
It is good to hear that your head shave is done so happily and what was your experience also can you share about that and it will be really helpful also for any other person who wants to do it also. Gudiya replied. Hi Gayatri,
So you are having trouble with the head shave but as on date your head shave has been done also and you were happy with your new hair also can you share all the things and moments you had experienced with us. anandi replied. I know its real tough for accepting that in these days.best of luck. kajal replied. HELLO person,
So you were in dilemma that you have to made head shave and what have you decided to do so then what you have done also can you share that if possible also and how did you feel when it is done for you. chanda replied. samehere my dad is planning for my head shave... what shud i do??? vissu replied. hw r u ..........? my id is viswanadhsai2gmail vissu replied. hey jaya can you give me appointment for your next headshave.........! good n8 sweety vissu replied. hai jaya , hw r u ? u make me disoppoint yar............can u send me atleast your headshaved photos...........? vissu replied. hey plz....... mail me ypur headshaved video or photos........
Gayathri replied. I couldnt sleep on friday night bec of the thought that i will be clean shaved and all my hair would go on saturday. I cried for almost an hour, then i spent some time infront of the mirror brushing my hair, playing with my hair, did some hair styles. But finally slept crying and holding my hair.

Saturday - 02/04/2011
I woke up around 6.30am and made up my mind not to get tensed/worry as everything is set in place, only thing i need to do is to co-operate. So i planned to give an oil wash for my hair and started oiling it. In between My aunt came, gave me an oil head masage and applied oil for root to tip. She made a hair bun out of my hair. After waiting for almost 45 mins, i took headbath for the last time. Then my aunt helped me in drying the hair and detangled them. By 9.30am it was completely dry and i took centre partition and combed my hair and made my favourite chignon hairstyle. Yes that was the last time i touched my hair. During breakfast, my grandma told me that the barber may come at anytime before 12. I smiled at her. She told that everything will be alright and not to worry. To divert my attention i was just watching some comedy tv channels. To be frank, i forgot everything and started to laugh by the comedies clips telecasted.

At 11.40am, the barber came and my mum directed him to the backyard of my house. I know this is the time i should not cry. My grandma hugged me, my aunt kissed me on my forehead, in the meanwhile my mum said that they will be sitting inside the house and will not watch my headshave as i will cry on seeing them. So they asked me to go all alone and sit beside the well in backyard for headshave as barber was waiting there.

There was a bucket full of water fetched ready from the well and the barber asked me to bring a small cup/mug. Soon i went inside and all(my grandma, aunt, mum) thought i came out of fear. I took the mug, my mum made me stop and told that they are waiting to see the new-look of Gayathri.

It was exactly 11.45am when i left to the backyard. then i gave mug to the barber, he asked me to bring the person for headshave by changing the new blade in his razor. I said its for me only in a silent note. He ogled at me for a moment as i was wearing a round necked t-shirt with knee length cropped track pant. Recognising that my chignon bun is still on the nape i removed it and aligned the hair behind my ears. after setting my hair loose, i sat infront of him turning away from the backyard door. Almost the last 3 inches of my loose hair touched the ground. He asked me whether i needed my hairs for making wig. I said no bec i know my mum wont allow me to cover my shaved pate other than scarfs. I asked him whether he asked like that on seeing this much lengthy hair. For that he replied that if it is for wig/sale, he would make two knots of hair on either side of the head.

He started dabbing my head with water. He poured water all over and dabbed gently and quickly all over my head. He asked me to bend forward. My heartbeat increased as i thought he would shave now, but he dabbed water on the back and at nape. He pressed lightly in a repetitive motion with water. I saw water droplets travelling from my head to ground thru my hair. As i sat on the open ground, the ends of my hair collected dirts and mud as excess water made the hair tips wet. He finished watering by making my sideburns wet.

He said i had a very dense hair and i takes more water to get the hair roots completely wet. My dress was almost wet. Then he stood up to take razor which he had kept on the wall of the well. Water droplets were coming on my face so i wiped my face and again aligned my hair behind the ears.

He took the razor, my heartbeat increased. He asked me to bend forward as far as possible and not to move my head from now on. He holded my head hard with 3 fingers, He kept the razor on the centre of my head, dragged it towards the crown. Even before my hair fell on the ground, drops of tears came out of my eyes automatically. I started to cry. He made several repeated strokes from centre to left. Likewise from centre to right was done. He then kept the razor on the crown made a stroke towards the nape and began shaving back of my head. I felt big bulks of hair falling from my head. He then shaved under my ears and nape. Shaved my sideburns. He then took handful of water and rubbed it against my head. Then only i felt all my hairs are shaved. Now he made me to bend towards him and started shaving in the reverse manner. turned my head left and right to give finishing touch of shaving. He again shaved both of my sideburns and kept the razor down, checked whether any small strands of hair was left on my head. He said everything is over.

I got up and saw huge bulk of hair lying on the ground. Tears rolled down and i wipped my eyes and removed the strands of hair sticking to my t-shirt. Gaining courage i went inside my house by 11.55am. Within 10 minutes, he finished out everything. My grandma, aunt and mum came towards me and rubbed my clean shaved pate. My grandma paid him some money saying that he did it very smooth.

My aunt asked me to change the dress. I went inside bathroom and i kept my hand on my shaved pate for the first time after headshave. I cried out and convinced myself saying that this look of mine will change soon. Then came out of bathroom to see mygrandma, aunt and my mum smiling at me and saying that I will get back my same butt length hair in another 6yrs soon. For me those 6yrs will be like six decades till i get back my hair. Everything is gone, there is no point in crying continously now. So i smiled and from then on they started calling me \" MOTTAI GAYU\" lovingly in tamil. Mottai Gayu means Head Shaved Gayu in english.

I wont forget this day forever in my life. bhuvana replied. hi gayathri....sorry to feel for your shaved head by now...but in reality i accept your braveness to accept the shave of your long hair...hats off to you...
i have to pierce my nose and earlobes soon as i am being compelled to do in my home...could you share your experience of nose piercing and double piercing ears in detail ? Will it pain more ? how you felt when your nose is being pierced ? jayashree replied. can you share about your headshave experience. jayashree replied. Hi, i have read your supporting reply to gayatri' s headshave. when did you shaved your headshave. can you share your experience about how your headshave done jayashree replied. hi vishwandh sorry for restriction of your desire...coz last year only i did my head shave,just past month only i began to put small pony..as a girl you know its hard to grow and maintain.so i cant do it. jayashree replied. why you want to shave my head???