Beauty & Grooming  Discussion Forum

Hello everyone, I am Gayathri from puducherry and new to this forum. I am 18yrs old and just now completed my 12th exams. For a very long time i had an interest to have my nose pierced and do double piercing on ears. I asked my mum, and she said to wait till the final school exams get over, so that the nose will get good time to heal after piercing. By her words, i waited to get my exams completed. On the evening of the final exam my mum took me to a small jewellery shop and i had my left side nose and double piercing on my ears done.

I was very happy as my long term wish got fulfilled and nose piercing looked beautiful on my face. But i never dreamt that it could attract a very bizzare side effect - shaving my head.

As i have a very long time to get into college, my aunt and grandma came home. I was happy and they too said my nose piercing looked beautiful. But they started to discuss about my headshave with my mum without my knowledge.

I have a natural straight hair running till my butts. Genetically my mum' s family have very dense hair, so i too have a very dense hair long till butts. None of mum' s familyside ladies grow their hair long due to more time in maintenance. Manytimes all have advised to cut short my hair, but i didnt.

I grew my hair spending time washing, oiling. I took care of my hair as if any boy would take care of his new bike. During my exams also i washed it once in 3 days and kept it clean and shiny. Once in a week, i soak it in oil and wash it thoroughly. I never used shampoos, all i used was natural herbal powder which my mum prepares with herbals available. When in home i always had chignon hairstyle(making a low bun standing at the back of neck). I love to have that elegant loose chignon type hairstyle.

Till yesterday evening, i never knew about my headshave plan. My aunt offered me help in combing the hair and oiling it. she massaged my head with oil and combed it for morethan 15mins and made a hair-bun of her style that stood gently at the back of the head and didnt rest on my neck. And i liked it as such.

When i asked her how to do hair-bun and asked her to re-do it on my hair to know about how to make it. she asked me why do i need to know about it, and also said It wont be of use to me even though i know it. I was astonished and asked her why ?. Fot that she replied i will be head shaved before coming sunday(3rd apr). My repeated heated questions got a very bizare reply from them. I denied my nose piercing at the age of 15. Now i have completed 18yrs and headshave should be done when nose piercing is done after crossing 18th yr of age. I cried and argued at them, but no way for me to escape. My mum is not so keen to support me. They say that with less hair i can concentrate on studies during college. My grandma and aunt are so stubborn on this. I dont know how to handle this mentally as i love my hair very much and everyone said i looked nice with long denser hair. I never cut my hair more than 0.5cms once in 2 months for avoiding split-ends and to keep all hairs at same length. for me headshave is someting i just cant digest and i am unwilling to part away with my butt length hair. Pls help me out.. Pls.. jayashree replied. hi gayu..i think the time came to say gud bye to your hair.pls don worry surely you ll get your bob hair style in 6 months...you cry how much you can before this night itself .morning shve your head with smile don cry before your aunt and granny ..its hard to follw but anyway sorry to say..tomorrow after your headshave done tell your experience.waiting to convince you take care viswanadh replied. hey jaya i wanna shave your head , plz ...............agree.........! Anitha Kumar replied. Hi Gayu,

Just smile, bend and offer ur hair to barber headshave. Dont cry or close your eyes. Watch the strands of hair falling on ur lap. After that rub your hand from pate to nape to find out how smooth and shining it is. Just have a hot water headbath some 2hours before headshave for the last time before bidding adieu to your hair.

As you were going to do headshave in your own house, be happy that no one else other than your mum, aunt and grandma will watch u getting shaved.

Dont keep on worrying about it, cry it out. Leave ur love for your hair now. Vent all your worries out here, we are here to hear from u and support u. All the very best for your headshave. Do post your experience about ur headshave once it is completed. vissu replied. hey , i want to shave your head , can u agree plz............. Spandana replied. Hi Gayathri,

Dont worry dear. I know it is easy to say this but hard to execute it. Bcoz I also have undergone the headshave experience without my wish.

Even ur case is like an unwilling headshave. But if it is inevitable, just feel as if the hair is not ur and make ur mind saying that u will be clean shaved bald in few days. Loose love on ur hair. Remember that ur clean shaved pate will be seen by everyone in very near future.Since it being summer i think this will help u out of sweat. Dont cover ur pate with any synthetic scarfs. Only use cotton.Avoid covering when u r at home.

At the time of headshave dont get scared and move. That may cause hurt to ur shaved pate. just bend down and do what barber says. Apply chandan after headshave. Cry out completely after headshave ones. That may help u out from the depression of the headshave experience.

Anyways keep smiling always, when things are inevitable. jayashree replied. when you going to get your headshave...i think this is your first time to getting your headshave. don get tensed or shake your head while the barber shaves you,coz it ll hurt your head.they ll apply water nicely on your head and they ll seperate your hair in two braids and they ll start shaving from your crown..in matter of 10 min they ll completely shave your head smoothly.it is nice feeling to shave your head gayathri..after finishing your headshave you itself tell.god bless you do your headshave well jayashree replied. don get too much tense after your headshaved gayatri as it may hurt your aunt and grandma...in matter of 6 months you can keep stylish bob da...keep convincing your heart tat you going to shave it for your new bob look...don think about others ,what they ll comment on you or how they ll see you ok va jayashree replied. hi gayu...so sad to hear about your headshave..as you were not willing it ll be hard to digest to shave all your hair completely..but anyway you have some time for joining to college in mean time it ll grow upto 2 to 3 inches ..
saritha replied. hi...gayatri...dont be tense.because after holidays definitly u will be new look. plz send ur tonsured photos..ok..godbless u Anitha Kumar replied. Hi Gayathri,

Dont be sad. Be happy and go on as per your aunt' s and grandma' s wish. U have some long holidays, so that when u reach college u will be having some hair to cover ur shining head.

R u sure to shave your head on coming sunday ???